TonyeBarcanista:
Are you the one that built the house or the one paying for rent?

This is not an issue Madam.


I smell lies just to justify your hatred towards the poor girl!

You needn't stress yourself out over my problem, Adios.

faithfull18:

You can call her by name or what you call her already.

For the chores, I remember one of my uncle's wife whenever I visit them and I want to be lazy, she will just tell me iya -oko mi, please help me do this or that stylishly, lol.

Don't just keep quiet and be looking and don't be aggressive about it as well. Take her as your sis and relate with her the way you would with your sis.

Thanks ma'am

Mummiesgirls4:
Is the name not ur name? Mrs honourable.be causing trouble lata u now come here my hubby and his family are aganist me.

Yo too small for me to exchange words with, toddles baby girl

jenifer007:


Na your husband cause am be that....she knows your husband gat her back.....except you are really a strong woman that's the only way you can make her respect you....you are the woman of the house any thing you don't like,make it known.....the fact that you are way older than her automatically means she must respect you.....I am also Yoruba and I have never called any of my uncles' wives or my older cousins' wives by name.

Don't bottle up cos it might lead to hypertension...be guided

Thanks ma'am , it's just all very weird to me, I don't feel comfortable calling her by name but I'll have to learn it?.

Mummiesgirls4:
You have luck I am not that your sister in law ooo, you go report me tire be that. You people attach so much meaning to meaningless things

I'm lucky someone I'm 7yrs older than is calling me by my first name? Be sure your fingers aligns with your brain before quoting me. Ciao little brat .

Skyfornia:
Na waoo...drinking panadol for nothing. She called you by your name and so what? You want her to address you by another name?? I don't know why some people are bothered by this. I think it is illiteracy.

That's how I addressed my client by her name and she said I should call her 'Mama Hansen' instead.

Mama Hansen my foot!!

So, it's cool I call her aunty while she doesn't reciprocate? No problem.

TrendsSecurity:
Yeah, sure. In fact, if you're disrespecting your brother's wife, it's your brother you're actually disrespecting. Maybe, you don't get me, I was saying the thing would be more painful if you're both Yorubas and other Tribes may not understand your plight completely

I get you, thank you sir

jenifer007:
Madam sorry o....I feel your pain but is your husband aware she calls you by your name

Yes, he is, she wasn't like this when I was dating her brother, she changed immediately we got married

donbachi:
may her boyfriend give her belle,marry her,so she go pack go join am,4rm dia dey go school..make u enjoy ur marriage ijn.

She's unfortunately a Tomboy and I see no boyfriend coming into the picture, thank you sir.

TrendsSecurity:
If you're not Yoruba, you can not understand this lady's plight. Forget that the lady is not helping with house chores, you see that addressing by the first name and she can't address her by her first name cos she's 'Iya Oko' can be very painful. Imagine, a secondary school leaver o! She's so insolent. What I see is that the problem is with the husband. I can't let anyone disrespect my wife like that, it's bad

She's Iya Oko ,but I thought Yorubas equally respect an elder sibling's spouse?

Well, my husband said other girls are ready to call her mummy just to be his wife.

Bozzyironlady:
God save my brothers from pretending beches.

Read again, this time, slowly.

donbachi:
She no do well...just take am sey na ur own younger sister..pray 4 her to gain admission into the university,make she for carry her wahala go...remain the good wife u are to ur husband.some family member na cancerous beings.

My husband said she'll be going to school from home, so, I'll have to put up with her for about 4 more years

IamD18:
Would you have complained like this if she was your own sister?

My sister wouldn't call me by name and she equally wouldn't sit around watching me do everything for her.

Good morning Nairalanders,
I've been married for 2yrs and have a son for my husband, before marriage, I made it clear to my husband I didn't want live-in in-laws which he agreed to, after marriage, he brought his sister IN, thought she was staying a few days or a week max but she's been with us for over 5 months and doesn't look like she's going anywhere, I'm no longer comfortable cause she's disrespectful, she never calls me by my son's name, she calls me my name even though she's aware we're not mates in all ramifications, but as my husband's sister, I respect her but I'm thinking I should start calling her by her first name too, or, what do you guys suggest?

In addition, she doesn't help with anything in the house, she just sleeps and eats, she just registered for this year's jamb.