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cococandy:
of course there shouldn't be mutual respect in marriage.You should be respected but your wife doesn't deserve respect or faithfulness.

What you don't understand is that the mutual respect have always been there. For example the Bible says, wife be submissive to your husbands and husband should love the wife..This is the mutual respect. Once you are submissive you get the husbands full love and attention. But how can a man love a contentious, nagging, selfish hungry leech?

Una never start to cry. With this kind of mindset, most of you will end up 55 and single with child support trailing you all over the globe and no decent woman worth her salt to share your life with.

Cry me? You ladies are the ones doing all the crying..You just reminded me of the pained nigerian girl that was crying on social media on how IK ogbonna dumped naija girls to marry a Columbian. Read here if you missed it; http://citynews.ng/pained-nigerian-girl-protests-over-actor-ik-ogbonnas-marriage-to-a-colombian-woman-photo/ I really pity you lot.

You guys Keep dreaming that you will find foreign babes ready to stomach your shitty egomaniac attitudes.

There are several foreign babes ( take note even other African babes are included in this foreign babe aspect) that are ready to hook up with naija guys big time. I remember going to Ghana with my friend and the love and respect I received from dem ladies is far beyond what we will get here.

cococandy:
Because your link was a study done at a different time and I didn't use it,that means I don't read.

If you read your own article that you posted you will find out that you didn't read it properly. Learn to make proper investigations before jumping to inaccurate conclusion s.

Ok 33 percent are poor. Let's take that.
What percent are middle class and what percent is rich?

So, you no longer argue that 61%-70% of nigerian men are poor as you earlier claimed?

Add the middle class and the poor and tell me that all of them are single because Nigerian girls won't date or marry them.

This is a statistics that I can't determine on my own, however, we now have a growing number of rich guys or well to do guys that are single.

if you can't say that with a straight face, then pls carry the bullet you've put into your own foot and limp out of here.

I have dealt with this severally. No need for repetition.

I pity the ones that still regard naija dudes with your mindset as worth it. when all you have for them is disrespect. All they will ever get is disrespect. They need to wake up and start dissing yous.

You should pity the naija ladies more, as I see a lot of them going from one church to another asking the pastors to pray and break their single hood. They are very desperate.. They form and make high demands that even their own fathers never had when young, now they are almost 40yrs they run up and down looking for any guy that will marry them. Also note that nobody respects someone that doesn't have anything to offer in return..Nobody loves a blood sucking leech.

skyfullofstars:
Then the world is fu€ked up...

You know that my statement is true. Women are meant to be submissive to their husband and am yet to see any religion that says other wise. No man will have issues with a submissive wife unless he is a retard.

skyfullofstars:
The problem is husbands illtreat their wives. Does the Bible entitle men to illtreat their wives? Oh please, I'm done! Non sense

So women dont maltreat their husbands too abi? This your claim is just one sided and bias. I have seen cases were women treat their husband like trash but the man cant come out to say anything unlike the women that can voice out and everybody will support her even when she is at fault.

Hunnydropps:
He was staight buggin out for real, right! Carol is pretty gansta with it to tho, lol.

The guy wanted to get laid but everybody kept hindering his movement. lol

Is it just me because i see carol as a silent psychopath.

skyfullofstars:
Well, I don't think so. I don't think it's necessary. I do believe that wives should respect their husbands AS MUCH AS the husbands should respect their wives, but that's it.

I'm tired of reading in this forum "women must be like this, women must do this...". Let us be, we're human beings just as men are, and as free to be ourselves as men are. However, I will always emphazise the MUTUAL respect between both sexes, amd between people in general regardless of the gender., that is indeed important.

Women are meant to be submissive to their husbands.. Our africa tradition permits and commands it, our imbibed religion ( Islam and Christianity orders it) so you have no justification. All this your mutual respect talk is why marriages nowadays are ending up with divorce.

keffekul:
they ar marryn white to get their stay,and their dog come back to his vomit fud to hv a responsible children......awon bloody fool

Reality will soon hit you all like a brick wall. Even oshiomole's mother is in support of what we have been saying here.

Oshiomhole’s Mother: I Advised My Son To Marry A Foreigner

https://www.nairaland.com/2332009/oshiomholes-mother-advised-son-marry

purpledandelion:
Tell me about it. I remember in my college days, one of my tutors is Nigerian and she always talk about getting married to a rich man, apparently she's allergic to Nigerian men. She doesn't like me for some unbeknown reason and I'm the only Nigerian in her class.

Once you hammer, she will eventually like you.

cococandy:
http://www.bbc.com/news/world-africa-17015873

I was even generous to put Nigerian poverty line at 50 percent.
This link actually puts it at above 64%

Add the middle class and you find that the rich are only a slim percentage of the population. Yet ignorant guys like you come here to claim the ladies only date rich guys.

So all poor men in NIGERIA are single.

Set of ungrateful human beings.

Nothing the ladies do for the likes of you will ever be enough. Even if they like, let them die trying to uphold the Nigerian relationship system, all they will get disrespect in return.

First of all, learn to read before you come here to comment. Let me break it down for you;

Nigerians living in poverty rise to nearly 61% according to your outdated article...(My Number 5 statement is a perfect response to this crap you posted)

1. This is not 70% as you earlier claimed.

2. In the 2012 bbc article, the north-west and north-east of the country poverty rates were recorded at 77.7% and 76.3% respectively, compared to the south-west at 59.1%. Hence the north has the highest percentage of poverty rate ( well due to their constant breeding, almarjiri mentality and total neglect by their govt). This leaves the south at 59.1 out of the 61% poverty in Nigeria according to the article.
3. Out of the 61% are women included or not, or is it just the men.
4. Last time i checked, Nigeria is still number 3 among the richest african countries with a GDP of $521.8Bn..http://answersafrica.com/richest-countries-in-africa.html/18 This is for 2015 and not a 2012 article you posted here.
5. Learn to make more research before you come out to make a complete embarrassment of yourself. According to a 2014 survey by the world bank, the World Bank Cuts Nigeria's Poverty Rate to 33.1%, Says North is Poorer. Not 61% or 70% as you earlier claimed..This justifies my earlier statement..Read it here; http://www.thisdaylive.com/articles/world-bank-cuts-nigerias-poverty-rate-to-33-1-says-north-is-poorer/184259/
6. This concludes that you ladies are nothing but money-hungry lazy azz hoes with nothing meaningful to offer upstairs.

You are even too lazy to make a proper research. SMH

BTW, you didnt answer some other questions that i also ask in my last post to you.

Hunnydropps:
This is what I found out about Walking Dead

Hahaha..That scene almost made me hate rick.

Hunnydropps:
@DragonKing @solomonbrown64

For anyone looking for something to watch that isnt series length I am watching a 3 night miniseries called "Tut" (about Egyptian King Tutankhamen). It started this past sunday and continues Monday and Tuesday. I liked the first episode. It has fighting, betrayal, love...and am glad to say includes actors of all shades . Im not sure if it is available for download but its airing on Spike network here in the states. Give it a try if your looking for something to fill your tv times

I will check it out, am almost through with supernatural. Also inform me when walking dead resumes.

cococandy:
Check the poverty rate of NIGERIA.
Fifty percent live below poverty level. About 30 percent middle class. The rest upper class.

What am I even saying, more than 70 percent aren't rich. So yes if these large number are poor and have women in their lives, who are the ones that only marry rich people?

Please provide the link were it is stated that 70% of Nigerians arent rich? Lets confirm your own statistics.

I even read you say only one in a million do that and I'm guessing your dearly beloved femmes are among those. You evaded saying a yes or no to that.

If you thought i was going to exclude my own family and yours then you are sitting on a long thing.

All Nigerian culture knows is to reach the girl child how to be a perfect woman, live to please the man, be submissive bla bla bla and you guys know is to disrespect your women any slightest chance you get. More like any congregation of a few dudes mostly on NL turns into a breeding ground for hate and more derision for their ladies.

How did you come to the conclusion of the bolded? Also, was your own mother submissive to your father or not? If she was, did your father disrespect her for being submissive? Also, yes, guys have to lash out because ladies lash out too when they see threads like " Man beats wife" but they remain dumb and mute when they see thread like " Wife abuses ex-husband freeze". SO, before you want to condemn guys here, start condemning ladies too for lashing out at the guys. Lets see how that will go.

You people need to change

Yes we need change, that why we are dropping your money-hungry lazy azz for other foriegn ladies both from Africa and the rest of the world.

cococandy:
Of course not. My father isn't rich.
My mom didn't wait for him to get rich to marry him.
I don't have rich brothers.
I didn't wait for my DH to get rich before I married him.

I can say the same for many Nigerian families.
More than 70percent of Nigerians aren't rich yet they are all married and have families. They have wives who work, teachers, nurses, bankers, traders and everything in between to support their families.

Going by these statistics, how dare you guys come online and make such disparaging generalizations about your women?

I don't know if the black race is cursed or anything but you guys obviously in the comparison to the other races are the ones who never have anything good to say about your women.
You will end up with white ladies and do things you never thought of doing for your black ladies but can't seem to respect the black women who tolerate your excesses.

Statistics? How did you get or arrive on your own statistics on the bolded? Also, why do you always think that when guys say they want foreign ladies you think they are referring to whites? For heaven sakes, Ghana girls, Zimbabwe chicks , south african babes are all foriegn babes in this regard. So you all can shove your money- hungry desires up your asses. No one will stop you anymore.

cococandy:
What was the question?

Typical, you dont even pay attention to details. See below again;

Dragonking:
You ladies want a rich and wealthy man. Is your father/brother rich/wealthy? Did your own mother wait for a rich dude before marrying and giving birth to you? Was your father stinkingly rich before she married him?

cococandy:
'if' being the operative word.

Meaning that there's a chance that they may not be in that category. But you felt so cool lumping other people into that group because you're sure they belong there.

i also asked you a question. Answer and stop beating about the bush.

cococandy:
That was a question. What's your response?
Are they included or not?

Like i responded, if i eventually find out that any female member of my family has nothing to offer( be it sister, cousin etc) i will tell the guy to simply walk and leave. Simple. No two way about it. It has been agreed that there are very few responsible girls but it is like 1 in a million.

You ladies want a rich and wealthy man. Is your father/brother rich/wealthy? Did your own mother wait for a rich dude before marrying and giving birth to you? Was your father stinkingly rich before she married him?

cococandy:
Do your female family members by any chance fall into this category of ladies with nothing but pucci to offer?

Let me guess no. All the boys ranting on this thread have saintly mothers and sisters who are not in that category but all other naija girls are.

That's why the whole world is leaving the black man behind. After years and years of leadership, you guys can't even own up to responsibility. Everything is wrong with the world except you.


A bad workman quarrels with his tools.

Typical as usual. Once you are hooked and dont have any meaningful counter- you start referring to female family members, mother blablabla..If my sister is waiting for a guy to do everything, i will simply tell the guy to walk out simple. You all want a rich ready made man as if your brother/father is rich and wealthy.

Everything is wrong with you naija girls but as usual, it doesnt stick into the head. You all come out hear forming and fronting but at the end of the day you are all but bitter.

Ngozi123:
That's only because most white women believe in total gender equality. It's fine if you're into that but just don't be suprised to be sharing the chores/cooking/housework if you eventually get married to one.

One thing you should realize is when we say foreigner we dont necessary mean whites. Other ladies from African countries too can be deemed as a foreigner. I was so shocked when i saw a lady here ( she is from south africa), she said she had to travel down to another state just to get the ingredient needed to cook for her naija guy. This is definitely what a naija girl will never do. You will start hearing her saying, i am not a house girl, blablabla..

ifeness:
I have only dated one Nigerian lady,I had to let the money hungry hoe go.

cococandy:
mmm I hear you.

So the guys don't make money because they want to be rich drive fine cars go home and claim big boy and have everyone worship them.

They only make money because they want to satisfy their babes. In other words, they don't crave the fine things of life that comes with money. Mtchew

Once we start driving fine cars, you will definitely see the ever-hungry naija babes. Flocking around like there is no tomorrow. This will definitely prompt the other guys who are broke to want to make it big either by hook or by crook. Simples.

If you naija ladies got any tangible thing to offer apart from the puzzy, we wont be having this discussion.

cococandy:
Of course it's the girls' fault.

Everything wrong with the black man is either the white man's fault or the women's fault. There's no room for responsibility in your lives.

Why will a guy carry out a shady deal if it isnt to satisfy your ever money-hungry desires. I remeber a thread on nairaland about a month ago on how a guy took a naija girl to a boutique for the first time only for her to select just 1 bag worth 250k. How dumb can you ladies be? She didnt even select what she needs but as usual decided to satisfy her ever greedy and hungry desires. Thats is how you ladies are.. Ever money hungry.

I forgot to add that the guy eventually dumped her, and i wont be surprised if he ends up with a foriegn babe.

Raalsalghul:
Are you serious?

You no know before..Just tell her that you earn 20k a month and see how see will dump ur sorry azz.

Nigerian girls and money is like fly and shiit.

cococandy:
These same Nigerian dudes that are spoiling our name in London with their shady deals are complaining about girls?
Hmm

If the nigerian girls were not so money-hungry the guys wont involve in shady deals in the first place.

ibkgab001:
NIGERIA girls are so classy , picky and so fake They started the war they can't end


Driving faster to my Zimbabwe baby

10 hours behind the wheel

Your zimbabwe baby get sister?

Raalsalghul:
Your above reason is why most Nigerian men are afraid to get married. Maybe you were right when you said baby mamas are suitable for Nigerian ladies, but mind you we still have some good ones that are deserving of being a wife and I tell you, it is easier to swim across the pacific ocean than come across those ladies except you are extremely lucky.

The bold is the issue. To see those few ones is very difficult. Is like 1 out of 1 million.

zeb04:
so right.go and see how the men behave over there.giving naija a bad name.

why will any sensible woman settle for that.

See your life..Keep on yarning dust, even Naija celebs are settling down with foriegn girls. Naija girls are just good for baby mamas nothing more.

sonofananimal1:
YOU SEE THEM!! YOU PEOPLE ALWAYS MAKE THIS LINE " I WILL HAPPILY EARN MY MONEY"

WHEN WILL YOU EARN YOUR MONEY AND STOP MAKING MOUTH LIKE A PARROT

even when they make their money they will never spend it. They expect the man to do all the spending. SMH for naija girls

Raalsalghul:
Not just some of them, most of them in fact.

98.9 % of them.

A friend of mine who is married has warned me seriously to be warry of Nigerian girls. He adviced that instead of me getting married to them i better do baby mama. Thats what Nigerian girls are now good at. They have fallen to the point that baby mama is what fits them best.

the guy is currently in pains in his marriage abroad.

Why marry a nigerian girl and regret it for the rest of your life.

#team foreign girls all the way#

I love this thread.. A big shout out to all my Niger-delta brothers and sisters (Delta, Bayelsa, Edo, Cross rivers, rivers, Akwa ibom ) and Nigeria as a whole SE, SW and North..

Urhobo wadooo, Isoko wadooo!!!!