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Association of Nigerian Prostitutes (ANP) has congratulated the Super Eagles of Nigeria for moving on to the quarter finals stage of the Orange African Cup of Nations, South Africa 2013, urging them to go for gold. ANP, in a statement issued through its national secretary, Jessica Elvis, urged the national team to make the country proud by moving on to the finals and returning with the trophy.


"We want to congratulate the Nigerian national team, the Super Eagles, for qualifying for the next round of the competition. We want to assure them of our usual support and partnership, we want them to bring back our lost glory in football. Jessica, speaking further, added that the association would declare one week of free sex if the Eagles win the trophy


."To show our support for the national team, we’ll be declaring one week free sex if the Super Eagles can win the trophy," she added. Investigation revealed some members of the association are in South Africa ‘supporting’ the national team. The Super Eagles would be confronting the Ivorian national team, the Elephants, in a knockout stage on Sunday.

http://odili.net/news/source/2013/jan/31/515.html

If I say what I want to say some ignorant Nairalanders will start attacking themselves but I will say it. This woman's problem is more spiritual than physical. She may be religious yes! The devil is not afraid of religion ofcourse he can even sponsor it if it causes more distraction. Let her seek God and get on fire and you will see sicknesses dis*ppear,freedom granted, husband etc
The devil came and stole her peace, killed her husband and destroy her joy

Now, I nearly never respond to comments on here but, the submission above reminds me that Nigeria may not rise from it`s sick bed in my generation.
That a commonsense medical condition is blamed on some magical spiritual hocus pocus tells me that it is time, the activities of these marauding religious bigots alias pastors and Alfas are effectively regulated.

I hear ya. eyes wide open.

@desh, my broda i dey here o. The wounds are healing, Things has slowly returned to where we had it. The tears has been shed and the I'm sorry's are in place (Although, my inquisition is in high gears to accertain weather the congo was shined or not as claimed). Hopefully, it will be well.

Greetings.

There has been a few developments since my last update.

Following marathon discussions, verbal diarrhea and the resulting tears, my Girl and I resolved that we are better with, than without each other.

Now, I know that it is not uhuru yet and I will be on my guards for a while. We came a long way and I personally think it will be foolish to throw away all that we had and shared over the years for a little infringement.

Yes, I said infringement. Now, you're now probably asking if I have a confession?, No. A confession helps none at this time. If she was unfaithful to me, that confession will naturally come as we go. I know, we have been there before, although not at matters like this. To myself I say, let him that has no sin cast the first stone.

Regarding the other party, I demanded and was assured a complete severance of contacts in a veryfiable manner, and for me, an unfettered access to all communication medium for verification of compliance.

In fairness to her, I think the lenght of courtship was at the core of issue here. But, given where we now stand, we will both need a little patience. Let me add that I did told her when we met that I need a minimum 3 years before marriage can become an issue and she had a choice to accept or do a Ben Johnson.

This will be on a probationary basis for now. Matrimonial plans stands suspended. wounds will need to heal and we'll take it from there.

I thank everyone for their contributions and commentaries. Yes, even the puns.

A number of you contacted me privately, to you, I say thank you.

We will not always agree on ideas, still, none is lesser.

@Deshclones. Bro, I had several pots of my favourite whiskey, courvoisier with me all the while. We went and are still going through this hard times hand in hand.

I hope your sunday is good so far.

Mynd_44: then hang on

Not really Bro.

A good number of the commentators here are on point.

But, this is not about the moment.I am positive that we will patch this up. Now,who wants to patch up their furture?.

We are talking. But the trust I have for her has departed from me, and that is the full measure. I gotta have trust.

So, we make this up, everything goes back to where we were, the question will continue to linger, what is she up to?.

Again, I actively invested 5 straight years of my life in all ramifications in this project, so i beg to understand that its a little difficult to throw away at a moments notice.

In the fullness of time, which must be real soon, I need to answer this question for myself and I think I know what my answer will be.

Hmnn!. He who wear the shoe, knows where it hurts. But I appreciate your comments, please keep it coming.

Thanks everyone.

This thread has remained focused and civilized. The credit is yours.

Now, I was called tonight. I did the talking while "my girl" did the listening.

I want to see this thing to its logical conclusion. That conclusion does not necessarily mean me staying if she comes begging.

I apologised for my misdeeds of so many years without reservations weather by ommission or unintended commission.

I do not claim to be a man without faults, and certainly do not lack the humility to accept and atone for same. But my position in life today will not permit me to accept asinine behaviours. I worked hard to get to where I am at the moment, and I also remembered walking out on beautiful and enterprising Caucasian girls for infringements way more trivial than this, therefore sees no reason to go through this, just because the other party is my kind.

"MY girl" got me to seriously start looking to "settle down" with a home girl after so many peaceful years with oyinbo. I was only looking at those later time when one decides to reside among his own people at his own place. She always chastized me as the only person among our peers who is yet to settle down with his own kind. Truth be told, our folks scared me, and now some. too complex.

I told her that I'm done with this topic after tonight's discussions and I will be looking forward. I made clear that i stand ready to help in her current endeavour in any capacity necessary without atatchments. we talked about the business and matters arising then called it a night.

Yes, I should have refused the kiss. but Judas kissed the lord, but still delivered him to his enemies. I will not start, but I certainly will have the last word, God willing.

keep watching this space, This drama continues.....

eduson002: Hw er we sure dis dubez guy is nt another script writer .

I wish I am. but, no Sir, this is happening.

I omitted to add that I was sent home last night with a kiss. It tasted awful though. I am too polite to refuse, maybe I should have.

Mynd_44: I am waiting for update on this oo

As soon as there is a meaningful development on this saga, it will be live on here. standby everyone.

Thanks everyone for your thoughtful and reasonable contributions above.
Yes, you can recieve good advices here at Nairaland if you keep it to the facts.

Update:

I called her only confidant, a mutual girlfriend a few hours ago and laid bare my part of that story.obviously, she was clued in on the matter but swore to confidentiality. The other party is also an acquintance of her husband.

Now, our mutual friend told me that she did not believe they were dating,that she*s "madly" in love with me but then again, she's not privy to the information available to me.

Shortly after I had started this thread, an email was exchanged where she called him "baby" and he addressed her as "my heart".

It is armed with this information that I decided to go for the kill and I did.

I asked our friend to inform her that I am on my way to her place (70km ) and she need to come out and sort this with me. 5 minutes to destination, a text message arrived where she indicated that she will not be able to meet with me. I sent word back, informing that I'm around the corner and will at the least appreciate a phone call. A couple of sms exchanges later, she joined me in my car and we went down to the needy greedy.

I encouraged her to talk while i listened. she said that I have become different and puts her in a position where she constantly has to defend herself. she felt neglected, unimportant and other trivial occurences. she felt sad and cried most times then sort comfort elsewhere( pesin do you wrong come turn round blame you). said it was a kiss and not even a tongue kiss and in the presence of friends to make the man feel good about himself. She said it was a relationship that started from a situation that was of business nature, but now, the man is hot over pants after her.

My position was that I have no problems whatsoever if that is what she wanted. but then she will have to remain right there and a decision must fall right there and then. I also indicated that I expect all contact severed with this individual if we are to go back where we were. I also expressed my disgust at the fact that she will ever contemplate a deed of that nature. ( I suppose blow small grammer na).

Anyways, I have just returned home. I'm tired and need to get some sleep. gotta work in the morning. This is not just about her and what she wants to do. I am much "marriable" and extremely competitive in the marriage market place.

If she reverts back to the woman that i met and fell in love with, she will become mrs Dubezj. I will also take urgent steps to address the issues she raised where tenable. if not, we will both share other people's company and emotions.

The problem as i see it is not so much about me changing, but more about holding her more responsible to some of the things that i had looked away from as we dated. marriage and courtship are two different pair of shoes, it is that transition and the finality it brings with it that she is having issues with ( my subjective opinion)

I will carefully observe her behaviour in the coming days and make a decision for myself. If it ever comes out that this went beyond the said kissing, I'm outta here.

I thank our Ladies. same goes to the Fellas.

But.....

Can you answer these questions?

Sure

Are you working?

Yes, I am gainfully self employed

Is she working and how have you two been coping with the unemployment issue? H

She had a good job in the corporate world until end of july

The guy she admitted she kissed, is he a Nigerian

yes

How has it been with you guys months back and when did this issue start?

every relationship has high and lows, ours was no different, but hse told me yesterday that it has been a good relationship and she is happy in it if you discount the pains she felt from some of my ways. I felt pains from her misdeeds too.

Do you see frequently?

we talk every day and night and see each other like every forthnight

Do you give her attention and communicate with her always?

yes. shes the only person who can call me 24/7. I'm a little short on the calls sometimes

Are you close to her family?

yes, I pseak with her father and one of her Brothers has become a friend

how is your financial status?

Good

What do you think would be the status of the guy she admitted kissing?

not married as far as my information suggests

Have you met her little financial needs? Or you cant afford it?

I have on an ongoing basis

Finally what business is she starting?

Beauty products supply outlet/ nails/hairs products

Seriously, try to answer this questions honestly!
Then i will say my mind bluntly!

There you have it!

AmBeautiful: Am sorry to tell you that your madam is having second thoughts about you.

My advice, is give her enough space for her business and concentrate on something worthwhile, while observing her closely without her knowledge.Put your marriage plans on hold too for now!

I think Something is unfolding!
Be patient!

I'm beginning to think along these lines. tnx

Thanks guys

obowunmi: No job and how else are you helping her with the business?

That part is what I'm yet to resolve myself with. As i mentioned earlier, this decision was discussed with me. A location became free and she decided to acquire it. I asked how she intends to finance the project and where do i come in, but recieved no precise answer. Indeed, she started acting dodgy shortly after.

I had made most contacts and arrangements for some of the products she will acquire. what i will not do for her is only that which the good lord has not permited me. She knows my capacity to get things like the ones she is currently confronted with done, and will usually do anything to avail herself of same. That she's not doing that is what arose my suspicion in the first place. she's just not accessible. will not take my calls, locks up her doors and will not come to see me at my invitation (promises to but stays away without informing).

At my aggitated insistance yesterday, she claimed to have obtained a loan from her bank (I'm yet to see the paperwork). That was unnecessary if she'd kept me in the loop.

I understand my responsibility to my girl and "try" to meet em.

We also reside in a country where unempoyment benefits could be more generous than being employed sometimes, if u get my drift. So, its not like she's broke for being out of work for 2 months.

Ladies, I need you on this one.

I’m a regular member on here, so you’ll all understand why a new handle is necessary.

Let me make it short and concise.

My girlfriend/fiancé of nearly 5 years is all of a sudden asking me for a little time out to allow her sort out her new business.

We agreed to solemnize our traditional marriage in Nigeria this month, and as faith will have it, her job contract was not extended so she has to go. She’s currently setting up a beauty supplies business which was discussed with me and has my blessing as long as she's contended with it.

Now, she routinely ignores my calls (she does that every now and then over the years and claims she cant help herself)and calls every now and then with an excuse to quickly bail out of the conversation. She also refuses to open up when i come calling (also not new).

My name is Honey and baby by the way and that hasn't changed.

That behaviour infuriated me the last time and I made clear that it will no longer be tolerated or ignored by me.

She travelled out of our location 2 weeks ago for four days without my notification or information.

On her return, a short but peaceful and matured confrontation ensued where i made known that I was aware of her travel and other antics and sort explanations. None was forthcoming except that she was stressed out and needed to sort her new plans out ( can understand that, but people in our constellation usually do this together). She later sent me a text message apologising and resumed calling me again.

Acting on personal instinct, I did a little snooping (I am an IT man)and found pictures of herself taken on that journey, but also pictures of a male person.

That image matched that of a guy whom she has on Facebook as a friend and who happens to live in the location she travelled to. I had asked who that individual was a few months back, and she claimed it was just someone who asked to become friends.

I confronted her yesterday about this discovery. She claimed they’re just friends, then changed the story to having flirted with him. When I became categorical about she having an affair and sleeping with him, she claimed she only kissed him but nothing further.

Here is a woman who needs my voice in her ears to fall asleep every night for nearly five years. She said its my fault that she sort comfort with that individual. That I became absent regarding her needs but admitted that she erred in not drawing my attention to the deficit but expected me as her man to figure what her needs are.

She has routingly lied in the past about things but i hung in there. why?, because I love her. I expressively asked her to break up with me first if it ever got to a point where she ever felt the need to cheat on me. A text message will do.

I proded further and asked if I'd go ahead with the marriage plans or cancel as my folks are gearing to go. She said not to cancel but needs some time to get her business started.

Questions on my mind are the following:

Why the sudden need for space?
Why the sudden secrecy
We had planed and talked about everything in the past, why can I not participate in setting up this business or use my various talents and capacities which she's well informed about?.
Why am I the person she needs a break from?.
Was her last answer out of fear.

I'm about to bail.

Ladies?(and reasonable guys.