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He may just want to test you and be VERY SURE you can be a humble and loving wife in future, it has come to a point in which he doesnt want to tolerate most of the things he took for granted from you because he may no longer be thinking of you as just a girlfriend but his WIFE to be, so the decision is left for you to either abide by and prove him wrong or falter and make him have a reason to look elsewhere.

Peterwilliams:
My brother these are girls way of life bt not all of them.i believe that we still have some homely and decent girls out there, since you are up to the task.,let her go and move on with your life, the lord will fight for you, just relax your mind and believe that everything will be fine ok may the lord with you and console in jesus name i pray amen.

Thank you Peter, its so heart warming to have people like you around, you are really like a pastor, I say a big AMEN to your prayers. God bless you bro.

Dimty:
im sori abt wat hapnd @ poster.its realy sad dat most girl dont appreciate good guys, wel do not give up on love n im sure it wudnt give up on u.u just havent meant d good ones and honestly they are out there but i think they are few, dont worri,wen u are ready u ll find her

@Dimty, Many thanks, i'll try not to give-up but i'm also being cautious at the same time, I trust God to guide me thru.

MaxyBrown:
People actually live on this nairaland like Alice in a wonderland- literarily.

Pele my broda e go beta, sooner or later- trust me

Many thanks Maxy, i'm optimistic it will.

dreadeyez:
for him mind

@Poster, do you know it is cruel for you to put up  his pic here without his knowledge?

amyg:
@poster,Take it eazy man,looks like its your 1st hrtbreak.d hrt'll break till it bcomes elastic like kpomo.

hmmmm___sounds funny tho but i'm doing just that, thanks.

tai2:
Eazyman, how many of these Nairaland babes have come to this thread to tell you sorry or offer reasonable advice? But 98%of them are on other threads discussing how to eat money they didn't work for.

There are so few good ones that looking for those ones is like winning the lottery. Even the ones who pretend to be good don't have the guts to be bad or can't afford to be with their ugliness. Open your eyes and see what is cooking, true control is the only way to go. I test women just for laughs on a regular basis using money as bait and you'd be surprised to know how many of them bite. ALL OF THEM. Even the ones with boyfriends/fiances.

True control is not for younger men as you say, it is the way of the Alpha Male.Control your life before a woman controls it for you. Your 700k is gone now and you've wasted two years of your life, is that your definition of being a mature man. It's hard to swallow the bitter pill of truth but get the God will provide a woman mentality out of your mind.80% of the women on my hitlist are the so-called religious. Get real my brother and step out of the cocoon.

Thank you Tai, i took time to read your thread on control, i personally got some learning points there, but from what you said above, it  means the ones you've tested so far (including the religious ones) readily go for the highest bidder, which means when bait isnt there anymore they disappear into thin air, would you wanna spend spend your lifetime with such? whats your take then? because at a point in time in your life you wouldnt like to be single anymore, so whats your advice?

doctorlov:
Time heal all wounds.

Yeah Doctor, i think it does.

I think it does but its very hard to find___i used to think i had it until i was devastated by it.

DonChippy:
easy man, just take it easy man.

Thank you Don, i'm doing just that.

maury1:
relationships are so hard and true love is even harder to find, its going to take some time to get past this and of corse we know time heals everything. the right person is out there trust and believe that and also trust and believe that you reap what you sow she will get hers its jus a matter of time. take all the time you need to heal cry mope around if you have to get it all out cus in the end you will meet that peerfect somebody

Thanks dear, i believe you, its just a matter of time like you said, I know God will do His bidding in due time.

DonChippy:
I really feel for you, been there done that. You need to wake up man. I did not have much time to read your post but sounds much like the same things an heartless girl will do. Stories are always the same. You have to move on. Come to think of it, there are thousands of girls out there and she's definately not the best. So she  left you with the chances of meeting someone better. Thats my mindset when i break up.

Don, i really appreciate your advice, i'm back to my feet, i always trying to think it never happened in the first place.
I'm now focusing my thoughts on better things and how  to make myself better.

candyshore:
true, and stop worrying let God do dat 4 u. just engage urself with friends and family u will be fine with time.

You're right, i'm doing that already.

poceda:
GUYS GUYS GUYS. See the way you all are cuddling and handling and consoling each other because a girl played a fast one on one of your kind.
Supposing a lady called easyman MUGU now, we wont hear the last of it.
EASYMAN no offence but Thumbs up to that girl, at least "one goal". Lets have a case of guys being at the receiving end of the bad side of life. I'm not supporting evil oh but guys lets admit, una own toooooooooo much.

Is that what you think? is it coming from your heart?

poceda:
Easyman, with all the time you spend sucking in all the pity and cuddling remarks passed at you when are you going to get up and start living again cos bro you are really getting on my nerves with all the thanks and reply you are dishing out.
Man, it has happenend it has happened move ooooooooooooooooooooonnnnnnnnnn.

Bro i'm still alive and living, i'm moving on alreadddy.

candyshore:
@poster dont expect d worst only be prepared for the worst, expect the best. and true love still exist work and pray for one and it will come. trust me there are still good girls out there its just dat we are few. trust in god always and it will be well.

Thanks, you've spoken well and your advice taken. I'll therefore prepare for the worst then, because its easier absorbing any shock that comes. Experience teaches us to TRUST NO ONE BUT GOD.

whats the point if she tried to ruin you before leaving?

emmydex:
ma bro,  just a word to keep "always expect least from anybody" take heart

Thanks bro, Im already getting inured to expect the worst at anytime.

ifunayam:
Dear EASY,
I feel so sad reading this story, but the only thing you have to do is,don't be hard
on yourself, don't blame yourself, dont be bitter, its hard to be happy but try
to take one day @ a time, b4 long u'll heal and pls whatever you do, dont treat
women badly, as for the in-grate, she'll reap what she sowed, my prayer in situations like
this, the guy she left you for will throw her out sooner than anyone can think of, and her
pains wld be worse than what you are going through.

It is well Brother, cheer up! NKIRUKA.(meaning, what's ahead is greater than what's past)

And to your question, i will say, YES you can find true love again!

Thanks a lot, thats quite inspiring. I'm being positive now, for sure NKIRUKA! its just a matter of time.

mecussey:
Guys, whats wrong with you all, why can't you just move on with your life; the future is always brighter than the past. Love, relationship and marriage should be a mutual agreement, why can't you just let go, do not even border to regret because, it's going to be a huge waste of time. Go on man, if you waste today thinking of yesterday, you will waste tomorrow thinking of today. If you would ask me again, I have some gist for you.

Thanks Bro, I appreciate your advice, will like to hear more of the gist you have for me.

Lynakenz:
Am an ibo girl, precisely from imo state,and theres dis yoruba man asking 4 my hand in marriage and my family is against it totaly,givin reasons such as tribe and language barier, culture difference and tendency of marrying another wife. Am so confused now as am having another suitor from my state. Pls i need to be advised.

Maybe you need to meet a marriage counselor because i cant give you any advice, i think you even came to the wrong thread.

mn

arkinses:
LMAO! This one don send enough recharge card

If it was only recharge card then that one wouldnt have been a problem. But its far more than recharge card.

jaxxy:
my bro sorry bout wat u went tru, it is well, d girl is obviously not worth it trust me and theres just no point loving someone who doesnt love u in relationship its just pain. also remember money doesnt buy u love though it is important and can help, try 2 balance how u use money to influence love so dat d person does not fall inlove wit your money instead of u, i say dis cos u have 2much money to spend. i dont think wat u had wit your ex was true love or else she wudnt have done dat to u wit out u commitin some fault like cheating etc, she was just a bloody lie 2years or not. i blive if u looked well u wud have seen signs to show she was fake though wen u love someone u ignore somethings u really shudnt, shes lacks integrity and character to even start talks about marriage wit her. take your time and pray and dont rush into relationships or u'l rush out, take your time, God will give u a true and better person. cheers

Thanks broda, bigups to you, i've taken your advice, feel so relieved to have peeps like you around. God bless, its well.

To my ex ______You thought you can eat your cake n have it, you thought you can ruin me but i cant be runied by nobody, NEMESIS IS SURELY gonna catch up with you, you cant escape the law of KARMA.

pitoski:
tak it easy on yourself. dont kill yourself over an ungrateful girl who may not luv you. you will surely find true luv oneday. i hv had similar experience lik urs, but i focus on the future and forged ahead. it is not easy though.

Thanks men, its not easy tho but i've really gotten some courage from guys like you to move on. Many thanks, its well.

tai2:
Classical mugu. , all ye men of no control, learn the ways of true control and bury misery.

Its not what you think.

d bigrod:
[size=16pt]@poster,

na wah for u oo.let me say that there is wht we call compatibility in relationships.if a born again guy goes out with a typical sharp lagos babe,then the born again guy is bound to suffer.i think that is what happened in your case.if u were my brother -be it younger or elder-i for don slap u.u opened a 700k business for a girl.weak guys like u make me so sad.sorry if am sounding silly but i must tell u d truth which is bitter[/size]

Yeah the truth is bitter but i was never a MUGU nor will i be one, i only genuinely followed the dictates of my heart, and i wasnt under any spell. Investing on someone i was ready to settle down soonest with wasnt something i saw as wrong to do.
I'm not a weak guy tho but from experience i observed i trust people easily and i'm putting a check to that already especially after learning my lesson.

wavemasta:
Hey Bro, chin up. Its not weak to fall in love. Theres a time and place to be as described in Tai2's thread (where I contributed), but it should be tempered with love also.
Don't worry bro. God had something special for you, which is why she phased out of your life.
Something better will come your way, and you will look back at this incident, and be glad that she left.
Love is not a weakness when tempered with strength.

Don't let anyone on this thread make you feel bad, like you were a "mugun" or "maga" for showing your ex love. You did what a man should do for someone he loves, and I am proud of you for that.

Love takes courage and it takes balls. And you have both.

Learn from this, chin up, move forward!

Ciao!

Thanks bro, May God bless and keep people like you, i've already learnt my lesson and i'm moving on. Some people tend to forget that the law of KARMA still works.

Wislet:
Take it easy dear. Be strong. Unfortunately dis kind of occurrence is no longer a surprise in our world of today. Just let God be de deciding factor for u in future, ok? IT IS WELL

Thankz, its well and will continue to be well, i'm just keeping my head up high. Its just a matter of time. God knows best.

Ujujoan:
@ Poster

What are you doing crying and feeling sorry for yourself. Just co cos you lost her doesn't mean there's not better person out there for you. We've all been hurt and betrayed by the people we loved but dat doesn't mean you shd give up on love totally.

I'll advice you to relax, take your time to heal. Don't worry about love, it'll find you!

Thanks, i'm taking my time already, i'm just trying to focus on my job and myself for now.