₦airaland Forum

frank3.16:
D problem is that u are lookin 4 lov wen u dont evn no what it is. U are not evn man enuf 2 handle the next girl, that mean u are goin 2 b duped again. Why are u so much interested in true love. U hav been use and dumped yet u talk about true love, a pure sign that u havnt learnt your lesson. The only advice i can give is 2 carefully read tai2's thread on hw 2 control a woman and learn 2 b a man 4 once in your life b4 its 2 late. God, if i were the md of these oil companies or big establishments, weak men like u will neva b employd

I went thru Tai's thread, sure there are some few things to learn there but mainly for young guys who specialize in multi-dating girls.
There is a stage you get to in life and you outgrow some habits.
Its said,  Once beaten twice shy, like i said earlier i dated this girl for 2 years and i felt i was so sure of whom i was dating to the point of planning for marriage, so the thought of investing for her while she wasnt my wife yet  didnt arise, but sometimes things happen for a reason, sometimes to propel you to something greater.
Like they say every dissapointment is a blessing, some people may not get a better job untill they loose their present job,  so having learnt my lesson, i'm not gonna fall so cheaply, i'm gonna take my time and by God's grace i'll get the best which He has for me.

sofeco:
I don't think I can even believe all this story, because it's like the guy is just using this opportunity to find a true love here on Nairaland and apart, How can a person sold your apartment without you doing any f**cking thing to it? ARE YOU A BIG F**CKING FOOL?.

If this story is true then I think TO HELL WITH THAT YOUR F**CKING GIRLFRIEND.

MAY BOTH HER AND HER EX DIE IN JESUS NAME,

My broda,  if only you knew what was going on in my mind, many evil thoughts crossed my mind, infact i havent been myself yet, for the first 3 to 4 days i couldnt sleep and my heart was beating so fast that i just had to seek help anywhere as fast as possible, my colleague even saw me dosing off while on duty but i tried to cover it up because if i made it known that i was having emotional problems then that will make me a hazard at work and could even make me loose my job.
I even droped some prayer request on some christian sites like CBN- Christian Broadcasting network, House on the Rock because i was desperate for divine help as i didnt wana do something evil, tho my mind pushed me to but i still tried to hold my peace. CBN replied me thus;
Thank you for allowing us to share with you concerning the need to trust the Lord.  When you turn to Him for comfort and reassurance, realize that His response includes the wisdom of One who is seeing beyond the present situation, into the past, and into the future.  His ultimate concern for your welfare centers around the destiny of your soul.  He will use all things together to bring you to spiritual good health.

When things are good in life, our human nature tends to become lax about thanking God for His goodness.  Trouble, on the other hand, gets our attention right away, and we are usually quick to call on the One who always comes through for us.  Thank God for the trials in life that draw us back to Him.

You may never understand the wisdom of why certain things were allowed to occur in your life.  In difficult and trying times, you must believe that God is doing the very best thing for you and your loved ones.  If you learn to trust Him in the small things of your day-to-day living, then you will have your faith strengthened to trust Him in the hard times too.

As trials come and go, remember that the Lord's ways are not ours.  Our pleading prayers won't always bring the answers we want.  Then we must pray as Jesus prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane to His Father saying, "not My will, but Your will" (Mark 14:36).  His will for us is to lean on His wisdom and love, not on our understanding (Proverbs 3:5).  When we join our Lord in Eternity, we will be able to say of every trial as Joseph said to his brothers, "Though it was meant for evil, my God used it for good."

May God bless you with the comfort of His presence.


Yours in Christ,
Pat Robertson    

And House on the Rock replied me thus;
Warm greetings of grace and peace to you in the fellowship of Christ our Lord and king!


You are Elohim special child! The reason for your creation hasn’t been changed! God is mindful of you! His plans haven’t changed! What He is developing in you will be perfected soon! You will start your season of laughter not many days from now! God’s ways are pass-finding. The fact that you are alive is the sign that God wants to use you for His glory. Delays are not denials, rejection  doesn’t mean you are not in God’s plan; they are God’s training school to work out some positive things in your live.



Sure God will fulfill His Word in your lives. You are God’s special child, and He will bring His Word to pass. Trust in God and do not give up. God has done it and your dreams will soon be realized. If she goes, it means that God has something better for you. It will hurt for awhile but you will get over it. ‘the Storm will be Over’!

Please make these declarations over your life. If you can print them out and take them with you everywhere you go, and use it every time you have the chance. It has helped me and many others too. God hears and answers them speedily. In Jesus’ name! This is the beginning of your next level! Halleluiah!, etc

Tho it hurts me so much but with some advice and encouragement i'm getting, life has to go on, tho its really painful, i still dont have appetite to eat, sometimes i just stare at my food while my mind is thinking , but with time and God helping me i will be able to put this behind.
Many evil thoughts crossed my mind but somehow God has kept me, i think God has something much more better for me, maybe thats why He allowed this.
I was so inpired by this txt i got today; THE CHALLENGES OF LIFE  ARE THERE TO STRENGTHEN US, THEY ARENT THERE TO RUIN US. I just pray God keeps on giving me hope and prevent me from doing something evil, its really really painful. God gave everyone conscience yet some people could really be heartless yet look innocent . I will just try thinking positively and try to put this behind. There will be light at the end of the tunnel.

its well and by God's grace it will continue to be well.

Duniverse:
Is not the end of the role, life still continues. U get luck say u neva propose

Yeah my broda life goes on, thanks a lot, i'm beginning to pick up my pieces, i now know that there are good thinking people on nairaland, at first i was skeptical sharing my mind here, because most of them here are just here to make fun of serious issues.

MRbrownJAY:
@poster
just treat the whole saga as a "bad investment" and move on with your life. you will find many more hiccups along the road of life and you better man up and accept that life aint easy all the time!
there are ups and there will be downs, the catch is to be able to get back up after being floored by such action.

Thanks men, i'll just try to though its really painful and difficult to forget.

i'm getting lean everyday and could hardly eat or concentrate on my job because a girl i loved so much and sacrificed a lot for sold off an investment of about 700k which i opened for her, the following day which was val'z day she came to my house to drop a letter saying she is walking out of our two-year relationship.
This february made us 2yrs in the relationship and i was even planning to get married to her but i found out she was deeply in love with her ex-date whom she told me she had nothing to do with him and was even planning to travel out, so when i confronted her, she denied this and the following week she sold off my investment without telling me and then wrote me a letter thaat she is working out of the relationship.
If i didnt truly love her i wouldnt bother, i would just leave it that way, but because i truly loved her and she was just the only serious girl in my life ,  so its not been easy for me at all, though my friends have told me,  you're a man with a good job working with an oil servicing firm, you can easily see better girls out there,  but in reality its not easy to see true and genuine love.
It really hurts but i'm still trying to think positively about life but sometimes i just feel like ending it all instead of suffering terribly emotionally. i dont know if i'll ever see someone who truly loves me .
I feel so miserable now and i cant just figure out what to do again. its so hard for me concentrating on my job and even sleeping at night, my heart keeps pumpimg fast, i cant even eat, i'm really miserable, i was planning to get married next year, i just dont know where to start from again now.
EAZYMAN.

Ngemebiri:
My brother, the unclothedness of an old woman is not a blue film, no bi 2day back dey for front, no girl in this life can make me think or kill my self, unless u are telling me you are blind or cripple, i can not love any girl more than my lovely mother, if any girl disappoints you my brother go ahead with your life, think on how u can make more money and love Jesus, they don't worth dying for, there are so many girls out there looking for guys, even in strippers night clubs if u go u will see sweet girls, when i mean sweet girls very beautiful and spotless girls that are 10 times beautiful than that your girl dancing stack unclothed at the mercy of men for 2k on the laps of guys they don't even know, so what are we saying. my brother pls be your age and stop disgracing men

my brother, girls are everywhere and even in the clubs like you said but can you get a wife material from there?? ?
its not about the beauty of the girl but its about her attitude, how homely she is, what stands her out from other girls, etc, sure there are many fishes in the sea but you cant eat just anyone of them.
its quite easy hanging out or fooling around just with any girl out there maybe for some casual stints but it takes a lot to truly love a girl, i mean TRUE LOVE.

i'm not married yet , i just suffered  a very terrible heartbreak on val'z day so im just trying to cope, though i find it so difficult concentrating on anything including my job, i cant even eat, and i'm getting thinner everyday.

Jcob:
We've been together for 2 months, unfortunately she came back from church on sunday and said it's all over. I really love her but she's wants to be alone. What should i do ?

From your write-up it means you have only dated for just two months and i dont think you have known much of her yet, so i can only say you allow her and moreover i dont think you have invested so much in her that will make it so hard to do without her. Ofcourse i know how hard it is to do without someone you truly love, i myself i'm a recent victim of this and im still not myself yet. i'm getting lean everyday and could hardly eat or concentrate on my job because i girl i loved so much and sacrificed a lot for sold off an investment of about 700k which i opened for her, the following day which was val'z day she came to my house to drop a letter saying she is walking out of our two-year relationship.
This february made us 2yrs in the relationship and i was even planning to get married to her but i found out she was deeply in love with her ex-date whom she told me she had nothing to do with him and was even planning to travel out, so when i confronted her, she denied this and the following week she sold off my investment without telling me and then wrote me a letter thaat she is working out of the relatoinship.
If i didnt truly love her i wouldnt bother, i would just leave it that way, but because i truly loved her and she was just the only serious girl in my life , so its not been easy bro, though my friends have told me, you're a man with a good job working with an oil servicing firm, you can easily see better girls out there, but in reality its not easy to see true and genuin love.
It really hurts but i'm still trying to think positively about life but sometimes i just feel like ending it all instead of suffering terribly emotionally. i dont know if i'll ever see someone who truly loves me .
So try thinking positively too bro, thats all i can say,, takia- from EAZYMAN (08035375493)

Thanks a lot!

Thanks Black_Revo, wish u same too.

Thanks CrazyMan

no probs

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Thanks for making my day

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@EREYOMI, thanks a lot, I appreciate

@EASYBABY, my phone is always on.

zignor:
1.Dude, no fine babe like to struggle

2. for your info, never you tell any babe that you are still struggling to make both end meet
3. just tell her that you are already made and they will chase you like a hot cake

@ZIGNOR, To achieve the best in every aspect of life, one has to be humble and be down to earth, if i came here to portray myself as MR ALREADY MADE, then i'll only get responses from GOLD DIGGERS and PRETENDERS who only disappear into thin air once their aim has been achieved.
I dint say i need a fine babe, what i need is a SINCERE and HUMBLE Working-class lady ( A WIFE MATERIAL) bw 23-29, Infact i had to include the STRUGGLING phrase to reduce the traffic on my phone so i could get the best which is what i need. I'm not here to fool around with any girl, i wanna settle down soon, so i dont have time for playas.

@EREYOMI, thanks, you can see inside my mind.

courageous and wise men who are destined for success never relent until they acheive their dreams.

its true that good things dont come eazy

there??

DISTINCT89:
I Nigerians I am DISTINCT I am intrested in having a lover online I need someone who can be there 4 me all the time. I am undergraduate student of one of the Nigeria University. I am in need of a dater who will surely be my spouse and likewise abide with my rules and regulation. You can also on this number 08096841510

Does this english reflect that of a Nigerian University student??
No wonder ASUU is on strike to revamp the Nigerian educational sector.

DISTINCT89:
I Nigerians I am DISTINCT I am intrested in having a lover online I need someone who can be there 4 me all the time. I am undergraduate student of one of the Nigeria University. I am in need of a dater who will surely be my spouse and likewise abide with my rules and regulation. You can also on this number 08096841510

Did u get it?

ok, thanks for that. the email is:- eazyman24@yahoo.com

, still searching

Nothing good comes eazy.

I am a cool-headed and hardworking young man in search of a humble and honest working class lady between 23-29 years for a serious relationship.....



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Dont worry, its done.

you said this car has never been used in Nija, yet it has a lagos plate number, go tell them MUGUS!

jodeci:
Wonderful!!! you sure must be admn managing one mushroom company in ur fathers compund way back home.U are a big minus to the fore going thread.Its is better to shut up most times.

This is truly a grammatical warfare involving grammatical missiles and bombs, No wonder some socalled Nigerian graduates are a disgrace to the country.
Tell me how this adm manager passed his english exams.