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alexialin:
Thank God u can see it's sarcastic.
You were the one who asked op, if bf is dangote son, will she think twice before marrying him quickly?
That's y I replied, her bf is not dangote son, so she must be wise when making crucial life decisions like marriage to an average hustling guy.

It's better to be an asset than a liability because of love.

yes, of course. i planned to do the above. he's just worried that in the years to come i'd eventually lose interest. thats all

PenisCaP:
Hmm it seems u ar3 having more complicated issues.
Are they saying u shouldnt marry him? Pls ur parents have a say in ur marriage, dont disobey them.
And whats their reason for that?

They just prefer that i finish my schooling before anythng

[quote author=alexialin post=61970983]yes, what u mentioned is really my fear - getting pregnant whilst in school and then leaving cos of that.
i'll talk to him concerning the intro, etc.

ibkayee:
If u personally don't have a problem with it, you're satisfied with him and are ready to settle down I don't see why not. Don't if you're only being pressured though

If you're adamant on graduating first, try to get him to understand that 2 years isn't that long, if he's concerned about having children, I wouldn't advise that you get pregnant during school anyway so it wouldn't make much of a difference

Ultimately, it should depend on what you want, though I understand your family's concerns

well, he doesnt want kids yet, just for us to get married

PenisCaP:
Hmm 34 yrs is also not too late.
He should be worried when is over 35-37 n still single.

Tell him to chil since u have 1yr +left.
If he likes he can put the ring on the last day of yur paper since he is so desperate.
I still wonder why he is dat desparate tho.
That age is not a valid excuse bcoz hez not that late.

Has he done marriage intro ?

he hasnt done any intro

Benita27:
I see...
They all have a say in whom you marry 'cause you would need their approval and blessing but that depends on how willing you're to marry that person.

i am very much willing to.

Benita27:
Family decide for you when you don't have a working mind of your own.

i live with my parents, and no matter how i'd want to deny it, they still do have a say in who i end up with..

PenisCaP:
U said u have less dan 2yrs..
If he cant chill for that long then he is notent for u.
He is 30 now and would be 31 or 32 then.. not much difference if u ask me.

Unless he is scared of something else(maybe he is suspecting u ar seeing some1 else who might snatch u awys from him)

Otherwise i d suggest u finish ur school first

he's 32 already. plus i'm not seeing anyone else

Benita27:
She should just let the guy go. All these delay tactics we understand them. The guy is still trying to build his life so we understand her reasons for not wanting to perfectly. She could get married to him if she loves him enough to want to. After all, family planning will help while she completes her education if she's battling with the fear of conceiving while in school which may slow her academic pursuit.

he's built himself already.
i think i should rephrase that...
my family believes i should finish first, at least we've had one or two bad experiences before

Benita27:
My dear, the truth of the matter is, you don't see this guy as your prince charming 'cause if you did, the moment he mentioned marriage you'd have accepted. Abi if Dangote's son comes to marry you, would you ask him to wait for you to finish school?.

I love this person alot, but my family wont hear of it.

Happy New Month to everyone.
so i've been dating this guy for almost 2yrs now...
earlier in the relationship, he made his intentions known - that he would get married to me. i'm in my early 20s' and he's past 30. i still school, but he's way ahead of me.. trying to build his life too.
thing is, the past few weeks he's just been talkin about settling down and promised to let me finish school even when we're married. sayin he's already getting too old for marriage. i still have less than two years to finish, and i want to graduate before marriage. at least my family wants that too. i'm scared that he'd be unable to wait until then.
i just need an advise

So, i had this relationship with this guy who was younger with a year.
it didnt work out cos of that.
well, now he wants us to remain friends. after everythng, i figured i cant look at him as one.
wanted to knw if going back as friends with an ex is a right thng to do.

stevecantrell:
So how will u introverts ever get married and stuff ? y'all too much in love with self..

haha, being too much in love with oneself is a big step in loving another deeply.

IamLEGEND1:
i thought you were a gay brother. so your name is what, Edith or Edna Patrick?

well,chances are your infatuation with him will wane eventually. You said it yourself you don't even know him that much. And factor in your parents and you see how this isn't going to work out.
He dug himself into the friendzone,let him rot there.

i never thought aboutt that.

thanks anyways

Newbeginnings:
Continue being friends...

Because

1. It well be so hard to date this guy if he is not mature.... (Because your parents will not allow you to see any guy, and immature guys are always afraid of meeting a girl's parents, so in the end we have a hide and seek relationship.... you don't want to suffer that my dear)

2. You may like him because he is just the first guy you are really close to... and if guys notice this they can use it to their advantage and it will cost you a lot (right now am thinking you are a virgin)

3. Give it sometime let you know if he truly likes you or if he will ever accept a relationship with you..

#Mythoughts

Stay Healthy, Stay Wise

1. He's asked severaly to see me at home.
as for 2, #lipsealed#.
3. i'll do just that.

thank u. :-)

StunchLord:
Cool. Just stay that way. Don't bring me into your confusion.

I never called you in, in the first place

IamLEGEND1:
So are you a guy or a girl?

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Happy Independence Day!
I'm not sure how well to start. kinda new here, well thats by the way.

I know this guy (not so well though). We've nt had time to realy hang out and all.
there are 2 reasons for this- my parents would never let me hang out with guys especially as they do not know him and also
i'm not the going out type


i find myself beginning to like him and i suspect he feels the same too, as we talk most of the time on phone, etc.

the problem now is that we've nt been able to talk things through as almost everytime he says something and i reply, his countenance afterwards suggests i'd hurt him with whatever i say. i try most times to push him away but cant just do it.

i'm a bit confused and not sure if we should continue as friends or i end everything, so no one gets hurt further.