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Family / Re: Must Women Marry Before 30?? by elevatedbeing: 11:43am On Dec 01, 2016 |
What's all the ish about getting married sef?? It comes up early for some, while later for some. I think it all depends on how early as a lady u get to prioritize and able to make the right decisions about rels. Most ladies enter wrong rels and wouldn't learn until the 4th and 5th rel..and time's got legs! And don't rule out the #spiritualfactor... There is a power called Delay that ought to be broken! 2 Likes |
Celebrities / Re: Read Toke Makinwa's 'On Becoming' Book: Why Maje Didn't Get Her Pregnant & More by elevatedbeing: 2:12pm On Nov 28, 2016 |
Teespice:Spot on! Teespice: I really need to buy this book. some people have ways of releasing pain, holding it back in is not strength but weakness because one can crumble under the weight. Some of you insulting this woman are going through way worse but you feel the fear of opening up would make you vulnerable. toke is only being human. that she's a celebrity makes no difference.Spot on! Teespice:Spot on! |
Religion / Re: Specific Biblical Prayers For Interpreted Dreams by elevatedbeing: 8:28am On Nov 26, 2016 |
Hi Folaski, more of God's grace upon u ijn. A friend of mine has been battling with constant blacksliding. According to him, He was born a muslim but having grown now, he's been desiring to be a xtian. Each time he accepts Christ, it doesn't take him more than few months to backslide. he's done this 3ce now. This time, he said he was lost in xtain music worship songs and shortly after he had a nap, he then had a dream that some muslim clerics started to persuade him in d dream about many reasons y he ought to be a muslim and on waking up, he had to give in and he was back to his former religion. He said the dream has been shown to him thrice and I was really sad about it..I just didn't know how to help him..what could such constant revelation mean? What does he need to do cause he also seem confused about it?? Thanks as I await ur reply. |
Family / Re: Nigerian Father Disowns His Son On National Newspaper by elevatedbeing: 8:42pm On Nov 22, 2016 |
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Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 5:38pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
OldBeer:Thank u.got no time for bickering |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 5:20pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
[quote author=OldBeer post=51148803]You think he's cheating yet you still want to die there. This sort of obsession over a BOYFRIEND is a wah. Now I'm feeling sorry for that dude. Its obvious he has entered one chance with you. Hopefully God will reveal it to him in a dream.[/quote Over-reaction spotted! What's ur ish dude?brought this up here for some good-thinking guys to help take a closer look at d possibility of my BF involving in a somewhat "emotional cheating" and those who understand d concept v given their two-cents.. Not a must u comment.abeg swerve [quote author=OldBeer post=51148803]You think he's cheating yet you still want to die there. This sort of obsession over a BOYFRIEND is a wah. Now I'm feeling sorry for that dude. Its obvious he has entered one chance with you. Hopefully God will reveal it to him in a dream.[/quote Over-reaction spotted! What's ur ish dude?brought this up here for some good-thinking guys to help take a closer look at d possibility of my BF involving in a somewhat "emotional cheating" and those who understand d concept v given their two-cents.. Not a must u comment.abeg swerve |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 4:38pm On Nov 18, 2016 |
DoTheNeedful:What makes u think he's not cheating? Huh? |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 8:17pm On Nov 17, 2016 |
thorpido:Well said my brother. Glad u're one those that understand that any other rel that's more intimate than the one u v with ur patner is called "emotional cheating" don't mind those that said otherwise...thanks |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 10:36am On Nov 17, 2016 |
Hi all, now, lemme drop a bombshell: BF had a dream two days back and in d dream, he wanted to buy stuffs from an elderly man, the man did not have what he wanted, he moved to the next man, the man had what he wanted and money was collected from him but the item was not given. The elderly man then commanded that he kneels down. He did as commanded and in no time other people gathered round him and wanted to judge his actions..someone in d crowd then asked that they need to recognize someone's presence, the person that stood up to be recognized was me and then I sat back... When he relayed the dream, I told him we wud need to ask the H/S for interpretation.. In my closet i got the meaning that he had offended me and that some people were ready to avenge for me.. This dream is really scarring BF and he had since been asking for forgiveness..I did not front o as per d whole dream ish but am just pretty confident that whatsoever he has been doing in secret with this woman, whether before we met or now,( cos I had been waiting on the lord concerning the issue) the H/S wud expose them. I feel BF is scared more than ever, he's close to confession but feels scared to do that to me. he's been avoiding the woman, this morning, we got talking on phone and he just told me that the woman had asked him last weekend that he wud be spending this whole week with her cos of the exams (BF took leave for exams) and that he hadn't even seen her this week. He was saying it regretfully o...and I was like what does this woman even want from u and he said 'I don't know o". And I said a prayer that God will give us total victory over her and he replied Amen... |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 5:36pm On Nov 16, 2016 |
demelza:Thanks for the criticism! |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 4:50pm On Nov 16, 2016 |
Jahblessme:My instincts don't lie. Aint foolish. Lots of red-light flashes here and there. My dream is just so on point. plus when she dictated the tone of the friendship. Bf would go to her place and wouldn't leave on time only for him to return and say "sister talks a lot" thanks, I'll consider ur tots. |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 4:42pm On Nov 16, 2016 |
Richy4:He dint even disclose anything on what she might v said about me. She gave an attitude at the background one night when I called- that was even the pointer to d dream I had. If I may ask u, y on earth wud my BF engage in emotional chit chat with some other woman? All cos of fin assistance What is this world turning to. Its fine when I was not in d pix.now that am in d pix, its just so wrong to do.. U seem not to find anyfault in this BF of mine. To you every abt him is on point. Whatever happened to moral standard way of living?? Thanks all the same! |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 8:12am On Nov 16, 2016 |
tearoses:Ma, that my bf should draw the lines is all I crave for..but the issue of my dream is another. I don't discard my revelations..he's got a lot I admire but lacks discipline when it comes to emotions.how do I handle the woman that was talking me down before him!...I see her as a threat cos bf model his specs after her..if he's not admiring sth she does today, its one of thing she did for him tomorrow...he's even studying a female dominated course so ladies flock around him. I don't have issues with that! Where I have issues is with the significance of my dream that came to reality and the lady's suspicious attitude towards me. How do I handle all of these? |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 7:55am On Nov 16, 2016 |
Richy4:U sound pissed..well, its true that we all can be starring at an object and see it in different form. My fear is My dreams. They don't lie. I it hadn't been d dream, would not have been here posting this..thanks all d same. I'll consider ur advice |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 9:13am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Acidosis:What are u saying Acidosis? What's not possible on this earth? We talking about a lady whom he's been close with and lived under the same roof for close to 6months(. Prolly before the pregnancy)..the hubby hardly comes home.hubby is in a scandal of impregnating another woman too. Where do u think she'll get her solace from other than the man she sees everyday for 6months? BF has a job now and is not depended on her but back then he wasn't working so he might v depended. Now, This woman only entices with the gifts and company (miss u stuffs) Nothing is impossible under the sun ke. The ish is actually on emotional cheating.they've gotten deep into sharing deep stuffs but I still keep wondering how a woman would be relaying her marital life with a guy and would not be emotional about it.women burst into tears easily and BF could v just "pacified" her someway. |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 7:55am On Nov 15, 2016 |
baddestchic:Hmmm at calm down...ok. thanks |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 7:53am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Ishilove:_ pussy monger right? Funny but just true! |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 7:51am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Winneygirl:@ winneygirl I tire for university school mother syndrome ooo! That's how he puts it to people. God help person o |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 7:49am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Acidosis:This woman in question should be btw 32-35 yrs with four kids already and even preggy at the moment. Her first kid is 9yrs old.. |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 7:46am On Nov 15, 2016 |
Yieldings:The divine confirmation that He's mine?- No, only rev of "another woman" If I am afraid to lose him, I am not sure of my feelings about that but I won't be left with any choice than to leave him cos I can't imagine a triangle rel involving me and the older lady...I await ur lengthy reply. thanks |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 10:48pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
byvan03:Byvan, I couldn't see any of her moves as threatening, the gifts et al until I had this lil disagreement with him while she was there. She gave the attitude that awakened me and my Revelation from God starred at me in the face that she's the woman that's posing as a stumbling block btw us...thanks I am happy u conveyed ur tots to me. |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 10:44pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
DarkRebel101:I hinge my conviction about this older woman's evil intent on the revelation I had when I first prayed about BF..It was clear! That her intent may not be as underhanded is a big lie. The Holy Spirit showed that to me as the warning sign of an existing "other woman" in his life. Thanks for analyzing physical and emotional infidelity, and thanks for the advice. |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 10:36pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
4tunebest:Thanks 4tunebest, he's emotionally vulnerable and that's a red flag truly. The H/S revealed that to me in no time that there's an older woman out there but I couldn't place the meaning of the dream for a long time until recently when she gave me dt attitude on the phone. I believe in Him to do more revelations..Thanks once again |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 10:30pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
toksbisola:Many thanks Toksbisola...this would go a long way in shaping my decisions. Its actually not yet a fling...their emotions are involved but way too deep..emotional attachment hurt even more than physical infidelity. They share too deep convos that are meant for lovers only if they've gotten to the physical infidelity stage is what's unclear to me..all the same I appreciate this! Pls keep the criticisms coming in! It will help me do away with the rel asap. |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 6:42pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Am open to more suggestions and advice...pls keep ur viewpoints coming in! @madam yieldings pls comment o 1 Like |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 6:38pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
thorpido:I'll consider ur advice..thanks a whole lot |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 5:11pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
thorpido:Thanks for contributing. I'll go on my knees again to God. BF claims he's a friend of the family and that her husband knows him well. The hubby impregnated someone according to the woman who narrated the story to my BF. she shares her pains with him and prolly BF too does likewise of his past hurts and she keeps 'advising' him. |
Family / Re: Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 4:37pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
thorpido:Its clearly evident that there's more to the "school mother" syndrome. The kind of boldness that comes up on him whenever he's in her house is second to none. He picks on me on the phone easily it has happened twice or thereabout. I have u told him point blank that he must never pass a night in that house anylonger and I asked him to choose btw me n her..he promised not to but I am sure another day is awaiting him..the closeness is such that he had an ex that whenever trio go to the library to read, they sideline the 'ex' and they would exchange notes esp the woman, would now be gossiping the 'ex' on a piece of paper..u can imagine that! I need measures, strategies to release this woman's grip on him! |
Family / Emotional Affair by elevatedbeing: 3:23pm On Nov 14, 2016 |
Dear Familylanders, I look forward to sincere advice and criticisms from notable contributors on this mind-boggling issue as you guys always do. I had to create a new monicker for this 'cos of its urgency. I am in a relationship with one of the few good men we have left in the world today..I am not ready to trade him for anything that might want to pose as a threat to" US" so am willing to clear "obstacles" our path. Now, my BF is a courteous, dedicated, nice, intelligent young man who was brought up to have good moral values and respect for people. One of his weakness is that he is a people-pleaser. Also, He can be influenced easily. When I met him, I prayed to God for revelations about him and God showed me in the dream that an older woman was holding him in a discussion, the older woman was talking me down before my BF. When I woke up I couldn't place the meaning of the dream..I informed him about it and he couldn't understand too. My BF is also a final year part time student and he's really proactive in his studies.this has earned him lots of admiration from many students. Now there's an older married lady he met in school who he's been close with he refers to her as his "school mother" he helps her out with assignments, tests and run menial errands for her.in turn this lady also doles out gifts to him, once housed him for months when he had accommodation issues. They got really close that the woman discusses her marital issues with him(her husband is a sales rep who travels a lot), they would gist and gist all day back when he was squatting there.All of these my BF told me about her but I dint see any harm in it. When we newly met and my BF introduced me to her, the next day, this lady warned my BF against showing me much affection and bla bla ..I still didn't regard it to be an issue and the understanding of the dream I had was not still clear. Because they are close, my BF at the slight opportunity to ward off boredom, would go to her house and pass the night there and they would gist and gist like no tomorrow and resume at work d ff morning. and she often request that my BF also come around and "play with her" Recently, heard she was ill and they were to start exams and the lady needed some materials for d exam,she asked my BF to come drop it. I was even the one that kept reminding him to go and check on her and to also go say thanks for the foodstuff she got for him. And on the fateful night, we had some argument over the phone on his way to her house which lapsed till late night. My awakening came when I asked after her and she answered at the background that she's preparing for exams and can't talk! What da heck? I only asked after her and did not request to speak to her. I quickly ended up the call and engaged my BF in a chat instead and the chat was really tense..that night, the Holy Spirit reminded me of my dream about an older lady and I was shocked.I informed BF about it and we eventually resolved our issues. Eversince that re-awakening, I developed resentment in my heart at the sight of this lady rather than the usual respect. Now my BF sensed it and is trying to be defensive/diplomatic when it comes to her matter. I feel my BF and this older lady have some emotional affairs. BF kinda sees her as " a model for his specs" but trying hard for me not to notice this. This woman's got a strong grip on my Husband to be. Its troubling me. I want to release her strong grip on him. He's such a good material for a Husband. Please Familylanders, I welcome ideas, criticisms and lashes to reset my BF's mindset to see the concequences of engaging in emotional affairs. CC: tea roses, Efemenaxy, Ewuro4, Myloveforhim, Thorpido 5minsmadness and all Familylanders with great inputs on the family section.y'all should help me pls! |
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