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pryme:
Look my Dear, fvck this trash about Nigerian men or trying to please any man. either Nigerian or an alfa male.

There are 2 kinds of men in these world.

The first one is the one that makes you feel that you are someone in their world.

And the second is the one that makes you feel you are the wold to them.

Under no circumstance should you accept or tolerate the first kind of men.

We need a history with some people before we can conclude who they are, we need a repetitive pattern before we come to make a decision.

But you don't necessarily need to go thru a nasty experience before you realize what you have brought your self into. Luckily for us God has given us something called {INSTINCTS}.

Your instinct is what that can save you alot of trouble you don't need to experience.

You should listen to what your instinct is telling you and fvck what anyone is saying.

Don't for once think that if you leave the other will suffer, it's misdirected sympathy. If you are not happy where you are, you are not helping either the person you are with or yourself.

It's your life,
Your happiness comes first.

Thank you. I appreciate how in depth you went and how understanding this post was

atilla:
He's giving excuses. It's not a Nigerian thing and it's not a cultural thing. He is buttering u up to get ready for some serious abuse. Better run for your life

I just want to believe that because I woke him up he was just annoyed. It wasn’t a hard slap at all.

IFEOLUWAKRIZ:
Weird as it may sound, I love them girls that are not easily controlled.. I like them challenging their men on some issues..Unfortunately, u op has allowed ur bf to enslave you

At the beginning I was not. It took him awhile to get in good with me. When I began to like him that changed. If I do call him on his bad behavior he just acts like I don’t exist and I don’t want to have to keep going through that.

Mille:
What nonsense are you saying? Did you even bother to read the post before typing out this garbage.


@ Poster Ellekonrad , I am a bit confused here. I'll assume you are German since your location says Germany. I live in Germany also and I have never known German women to be so docile unless they are mud******.

Anyway, to your post. There is nothing cultural in everything you wrote there. And honestly, these are precedents for disaster.

My ex once deliberately watched me sleep enough to miss my flight to Dortmund, and I don't remember having to slap or discipline her like your man said it is culturally done.


Where did you read that this stuff is normal?

I grew up in a conservative family and I lived between Germany and the US. My friends are all more aggressive than I am. And I have read Articles + on This website.

dingbang:
Well most times the answer I give to people on such issues is this, would you do the same thing if the tables were turned? You had a flight to board and you missed it cuz he forgot to wake you up? How would you react to it?

Maybe you are confused. He told me to stay up to wake him for his flight by any means. I stayed up and tried to wake him up because he asked me to.

Sooo I have been seeing this guy for awhile now. Im generally a quiet and passive person. Even he acknowledged that at the beginning. But now he tells me to “stop speaking” quite often. I don’t think I’m talking too much, but I still try to remain quiet to avoid an argument. After about 5-10 mins of sitting there silently he will asks me “what’s wrong?” Then on top of that if I reply and tell him it’s because he asked me to he’ll usually say “well you’re talking now so clearly you don’t listen.” He told me it’s because Nigerian men like a nice quiet woman.

In the beginning he’d say he’d never lay his hands significant other, yet when he was annoyed with me for waking him up(he asked me to make sure he got up because he had a plane to catch)he slapped me in the face. It wasn’t hard... but I was shocked nonetheless. Then he proceeded to tell me to get away from him or he’s going to put me out of his house. When confronted he said it was a cultural thing and that a woman needs discipline when she’s wrong.

My friends are concerned by his attitude and think he might end up being abusive in the future But I’ve read on a few forums that this stuff is somewhat normal.

Any tips on how to please a Nigerian man? Do I try to talk less or fight back?