DMerciful:
Humans know how to differentiate a disciplined lady from a rude and arrogant lady.

If many people say you're rude and arrogant,
you're definitely rude and arrogant!

I see.thanks

alizma:

I may not have the right answer to your case but when everyone around you seems to be having problem, check very well, there is high tendency you are the one with problem and not the people around you.

I see.thanks

tctrills:

You can set boundaries without being proud but once you make yourself unapproachable then such a person is definitely proud and stupid. I would not knowingly employ a staff that can't properly relate with the team.

Ok thanks

hairyman:
Setting boundaries is quite fine. Nobody sees anyone who sets healthy boundaries as arrogant or proud.

If you are arrogant and proud, you will come across to many people as such. Therefore if people see you as possessing those qualities, then it is likely that you do.

Conduct yourself professionally, don't be rude in the name of setting boundaries, interact with your coworkers properly and you will probably be fine.

Having said that, one must recognize that there are people who are a pain in the ass to work with. They think that the work place is an extension of a friend's club where they can joke around and make serious people snap now and then.

That's a different ball game. And these people are not going to be "everybody". They may see you as arrogant and proud because they cannot comprehend, or pretend to not comprehend, boundaries.

But if a lot of your coworkers share their perspective of you, then examine your behavioral pattern.

thanks Man

xjiggy:
Because they are actually arrogantand proud. This is just a classic case of Misconstruing bad character as setting boundaries.

what do you mean exactly? Can you elucidate for me to get a clearer understanding of what exactly you mean

dealslip:

You don't need to respond to some comments or response. There are many low self esteemed misogynist lunatics online whose only means of deriving joy is to provoke others with senseless comments.
Back to your question. There are quite a number of reasons why people expect you to remove your boundaries. One chiefly is to be able to manipulate you without consequence. People who expect you to abandon your principles to please them are people to be avoided at all cost no matter who they are. That's why bible calls manipulation the sin of witchcraft. They are energy vampires who derive fulfilment by dominating others. Once a person starts blackmailing you into dropping your boundaries, you must stand up to them and tell them you know who they are and reiterate that they must never attempt to cross your boundaries again. You have to be deliberate with them.

hmnnn thanks sis

Tzar:
Setting boundaries and being outrightly rude are two different things.
Ladies dress seductively and expect men not to shoot shot in the belief that she is advertising herself to be approached. When they get approached, they insult the man and claim they are setting boundaries.
Dress decently and reduce those who will make passes to a minimum. But their hunger for attention will not allow them.

I don't dress vulgar to work or dress up in a way that attracts unnecessary attention to myself.i prefer modesty in dressing.thanks for the response anyway

Kobojunkie:
1. You care too much what people think, I am afraid. All this points to you needing to disconnect yourself even more from what others who are, according to you, ignorant, say or think of your person.

2. Focus on you, please. Stop worrying about what people think. Do what you know is right to do and leave them to their judgments and their prejudices.

thank you

IkeAbuja:
madam boundaries i hope you bound reach your boss too

I don't understand what you mean?

blazepascal:
i think you are the problem

can you expantiate sir? Why do you think So? I want to learn

phemmyfour:
When they are rude to others, they called it "setting boundaries ". Change your ways

hnmmmmm

YourGFsnatcher:


Don't mind them. Your future family will be very proud of you. If you are married already, your family are already proud of you

thanks brother

Slurity:
WHAT YOUR MIND IS TELLING YOU ARE IS WHO YOU ARE.

I see

loswhite:
Lol just dey play make them dey deceive you. This same ppl go tell other ladies say i like a lady that is free and friendly. If you like carry another man work like bag of rice for head e concern you. The fact that people talk or joke to ease stress doesn't mean they don't take their work seriously. How can you be serious with work from 8 to 5? Even the owner of your company is not that serious...lol. Try dey calm down .

thanks

Iamzik:


Even the tone of this post get as e be.
Hanty your stay in that company is too short to be overly serious all the time.

Loosen up, be friendly, respect people and they will respect you. None of this will stop you from delivering on the job.

thank you

Lousy,gutter behaviour

And to think his Mom (manager) is a lecturer.smh

K33fK0zaRt:
I love ladies like these. They misunderstand you. It's no fault of theirs.

thanks my brother

K33fK0zaRt:
I like people like you. If we had them in large numbers, the world would have been a better place

thanks my brother

thesicilian:
This happens to both men and ladies alike. When you're strong-willed and self respecting, they claim you're arrogant. But why should you care? As long as it doesn't affect your income or how the people that truly matter in your life and work perceive you, then one shouldn't really bother.
Only a ripe fruit attracts stones.

thanks my brother/sister

advanceDNA:


Lol ....u dey disguise....see who said she does everything to avoid comments, shades or insults... ...
U wey dey serve as e dey hot ...u na "every must collect" kinda of person..

There's a thin line btw being strict and being wicked....

There's is a thin line having boundaries and and being proud, full of yourself and disrespectful.....

There's also a thin line btw being formal and rude ..

.. No dey cross lines come dey say pple dey assume........Forget what anyone is saying or assuming about u...just be urself good or bad, werey or nice... ..don't confuse the thunder that may want to fire you.

lol.i knew I will see your type here.i just didn't know it Will be this quick.i guess you're one of the kinds of people in such categories.anyway rest.theres no need to troll because you won't get the reaction you're expecting from me.

Moreover you gave a lousy advice.you said I should deal with my problems.oya,let me send my account details then so you can help me in "fixing some of my problems" you have to walk your talk.isshh

medalz:
This Hundeyin guy needs to be cautious, he's biting more than he could chew. His pay master would disown him when he's finally apprehended for spreading false news about Nigeria.

he's intelligent and confident but aseju and talking too much they put person for trouble.


There's a Yoruba proverb that says no matter how bad your father or family is,if you keep bad mouthing them to strangers because you want to impress outsiders,the outsiders you think you are impressing also have some equally bad family members and Will not only not trust you, they'll see you as a betrayer and abandon you when e red.he should ask one aunty DJ seeking asylum to Canada (I've forgotten her name) when the end Sars matter red.now she can't come back to Nigeria

This is not to say that I'm holding briefs for the criminal behaviour, irresponsibility and impunity of the ruling class but imagine not being able to come to Nigeria to see your family and loved ones again because you don do pass yourself.

One of the things I learnt from my father is that you choose your battles wisely.look at the prospects of winning a battle before embarking on it so the battle doesn't make you loose it all.

Again David needs to know when to speak and when to shut up.not every issue needs to be talked about.some issues fixes itself with time and posterity.

If you have a bad father or family member for example, disgracing him outside of your home will not fix him or make him change, infact it will add more to your problems because after all being said and done they'll say is he not your father, brother, sister or whatever.arent you all connected by blood so making your family member look bad constantly and repeatitively will also give you a bad name

Powerbando:



deal with your problems young lady

I only asked a question OGA,I didn't tell you I had any problem.it will have been ok to Waka pass.nobody forced you to comment.thank you young man

Good morning nairaland ladies and gentlemen.i will go straight to the point.why do people always assume that every lady who sets boundaries and does everything possible to avoid insults, disrespectful snide comments, shades,minds her buisness and keeps her friends minimal but sticks to her job,why are such ladies seen as arrogant, proud, someone people should not move close to. some people Will even assume they know you so much as to give you unsolicited advice you didn't ask for, deliberately incite or bring drama or provocation directly to your doorstep to see how you will react and when you show your displeasure you're automatically labelled rude.

So my question is,is it that you shouldn't have boundaries at work,allow people to come to your office and gist endlessly and not have time to face what you are paid for, allow senior colleagues to Bully or intimidate you before you're considered accommodating, friendly and calm?

Sambarry where are you?

TemplarLandry:
So what?

These ignoramuses keep disgracing themselves.

Na Tinubu matter wan kill them

This Tinubu obsession need amojuto

I'll Tell you

pandoragirigory:
People don't get Obasanjo message, he didn't disrespect them, he was just passing a message

what message is he trying to pass?

The point is the Political structure is way superior to the traditional institutions and what has made it worse is that the traditional leaders have dined and wined with the politicians, they have also collected money from politicians So politicians have seen them finish except for some exceptions like late alaafin of oyo or Oba of Benin who didn't allow any politician to disrespect the office of the traditional institutions.the rest are just glorified errand boys of governors

ramalot:
elonmuskbaby

I haven't been to Cape Coast, but I spent about 2 months in Accra, very recently.
You'll likely be in Accra at some point, so I'll provide some details about it.
I have nothing against Ghana or the people. Many of my friends in the US are Ghanaian.

My honest opinion is, Accra is highly unremarkable as a city, and overpriced (for what it is).
I've spent time in many countries and Accra has one of the worst value, for money spent. Especially airbnb accommodation.

That said, your question is about "fun places." Everyone's definition of fun is different, so you'll need to be more specific.
If fun for you is tourist sites/activities, well, there are only a few of those in Accra:

Black Star Gate and Black Star Square:
This is what someone referenced as Independence Square earlier. It's a monument with a black star on it.
The square beside is the equivalent of Nigeria's Eagle Square, in Abuja.

People only go there to take pictures at the Black Star Gate. Nothing else happens there, in general, except there's an event.
It's free to access.

Osu Castle:
The Osu Castle is a historic castle related to the slave trade. However, it has recently been closed to public access.
You won't be able to get in there anymore. When we went, we were turned back.

The city beaches: Labadi Beach & Laboma Beach:
The good part is these beaches can be lively, with a lot of people and activities. Bars/restaurants, ATV-riding, horse-riding etc.
There are also several nice beach clubs, like Sandbox and Polo on Labadi beach, and there's Alora on Laboma beach.

The bad part is these beaches are the dirtiest I've seen in my entire life, and of the 100+ beaches I've been. Actual garbage on the sand and in the water. Especially at the far ends. The water is heavily polluted and has rip tides, making swimming dangerous. For a cleaner beach experience, you'll need to travel far out of Accra. Cape Coast likely has much better to offer for beaches.

Nightlife:
Accra definitely has a lot of nightlife activities, like bars, clubs, lounges etc. They're mostly concentrated around the Osu area of the city, on and off the main street called Oxford Street.
Drinks aren't expensive, per se. A small stout beer, for instance is typically about 25-50 cedis, depending where you are.
You can look up the menu of most places, on their Google Maps page.

Food:
There's a bit of variety in Accra. Food can be pricey (for West Africa), depending on where you eat. Like once, I paid 2000 cedis, for a meal for 5 people. Nothing out of the ordinary, just grilled chicken + rice/salad, lamb + rice/salad etc, and some juices. It was a restaurant called Persia, I think. Osu area.

One of the nice restaurants for local food is called Buka, in Osu. It's a pretty big Nigerian restaurant, but they serve most Ghanaian local dishes too. Their prices aren't bad. For instance, egusi + pounded yam and a drink, for 2, runs around 300 cedis. That's about N24,000. That might sound expensive to some, but wait till you get to Accra. As with any country, there are definitely places you can eat for less though.


Overall, Accra is not a very developed city, so keep your expectations in check. It's exactly what you'd expect of a typical West African city.
There are a few neighborhoods like Labone, Cantonments and North Ridge, which are similar to Abuja. Outside of those areas, the rest of the city is comparable to places in Nigeria like Zaria, Makurdi, Enugu, Ibadan etc.

wow thanks for these detailed explanations.lol I was already having high expectations

Mozino007:
Accra Ghana

thanks very much

scutches:
Even his friend might not be left out…he fought with Mohbad on his last outing

of course he's not left out.he was part of them.infact according to glb nairamarley paid that guy money to trigger/provoke him into a fistcuff so that he can have the avenue to hit the juju ring on him

slowice:


This is awareness, drawing the attention of the nation to this boy's ordeal and the evil in the industry is what you call noise?

he must be one of those guys or a sociopath.no single empathy at all

Zxcvbnmghtr:


Most especially Gospel singers. Nah dat one weak me pass.

gospel singers Ke? Those ones too do such ? With all their Saint forming?