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simpleseyi:
Another frustrated and depressed woman

Bwala was was correct after all.

I AM ASHAMED — Two First Ladies, Two Silences, One Nigeria
By Madam Wahala Reports
I am ashamed.
Not because Nigeria lacks strong women.
Not because Nigeria lacks voices.
But because in the middle of killings, kidnappings, terrorism and banditry, the silence from the highest places is louder than the gunshots.

So let’s talk honestly. Let’s compare two First Ladies — not by fashion, not by grammar, not by class — but by presence, courage, and public empathy.

Patience Jonathan: Mocked, But Present
Many Nigerians laughed at Patience Jonathan when she was First Lady.

They mocked her accent.
They turned her speeches into memes.
They reduced her emotions to jokes.
But history cannot lie.
When the Chibok girls were kidnapped, Patience Jonathan did not hide.

She:
Cried publicly
Called meetings
Spoke to the nation
Kept the issue in the public space
Used her position to force attention on the pain
Yes, her words were sometimes clumsy.
Yes, social media laughed.

But she showed up.
She made it impossible for Nigeria to pretend nothing happened.

She carried the pain loudly — even when it cost her dignity in public opinion.
Her weakness was style.
Her strength was presence.
The Present First Lady: Dignified, But Distant

Today, Nigeria is facing:
Relentless killings
School kidnappings
Terror attacks
Banditry
Communities wiped out
Families destroyed
Yet, what do we mostly see?
Silence.
Not noise.
Not outrage.
Not visible advocacy.

Not national emotional leadership.

This does not mean the current First Lady is a bad person.
But it does mean that her public role in times of national pain feels absent.
We see ceremony.
We see calm.
We see dignity.

But in a country bleeding this much, dignity without voice starts to feel like distance.
The Uncomfortable Question

Let’s be honest:
If Patience Jonathan were still First Lady today, would Nigeria be this quiet emotionally?
Based on her record, the answer is simple: No.
She would have spoken.
She would have cried.
She would have called attention.
She would have made the suffering impossible to ignore.
People might mock her again.
Twitter might trend her again.
But silence would not be our national response.

This Is Bigger Than Two Women
This is not about:
Grammar
Class
Sophistication
Packaging

It is about whether power still feels human.
Nigeria today is worse off in security than it was years ago.

But our public empathy from the top feels weaker.
That is the real shame.

We used to have a First Lady who was imperfect but emotionally present.

Now we have better packaging — but less visible compassion.

Why I Am Ashamed

I am ashamed because:
A nation can be burning and those at the top can remain comfortable
People can be dying and leadership can remain quiet

Fear can spread and empathy can go missing
We can normalize silence in the face of tragedy
Patience Jonathan was mocked — but she stood in the storm.

Today, we have silence — and call it composure.
But let’s be honest:
Silence is not leadership.
Distance is not compassion.

And dignity is not a substitute for courage.
Nigeria does not just need governance.
Nigeria needs visible humanity from those closest to power.
And that is why I say it again:

I am ashamed.
Not of the women.
Not of Nigerians.
But of a system where the country is bleeding, and empathy has gone quiet.

“If our leaders stay silent while the nation bleeds, whose responsibility is it to speak — them or us?”
It’s short

I am ashamed...I am ashamed....I am ashamed..

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LordBiden:
Which one you no dey bro.

So because he is former labour chair he should not enjoy his life again?

Konji is no respecter of persons.

Please how did he make the money you asserted that he should enjoy?

nairalanda1:
I am not excusing anything, nor am I grandstar, nor do I support nomadic herding, and I am angry government has not developed the railways system so that cows can be transported that way, nor am I supporting the guy's carrying AK 47 (especially since some of them use their gun for things like attacking farms and kidnappin)

But unfortunately bandits, and boko haram attack fulani herdsmen and steal their cows. Hence the AK 47.

Add the fact that the police is poorly funded, and that we don't have adequate rail transport, and thus people do self help.

But unfortunately bandits, and boko haram attack fulani herdsmen and steal their cows. Hence the AK 47.

Sorry for wasting my time with you.

grandstar:
I don't support them moving with industrial weapons.

However, they fear cattle rustling. Those cows may be worth up to 30m.

I don't support nomadic farming.

So their fear for rustling of cattle worth over 30m should necessitate carrying arms? You make this same excuse for those killed by terrorists?

Sirmwill:
All I see here is how backward thinking uneducated people can be

These Herders don't know that the world has developed past them

In a sane country, he would be stopped by police and arrested for illegal possession of arms

Wrong!!

All I seeis a very weak and tribalistic president who applies the law selectively. Can any Igboman be allowed by this government to do this?

At the same time, the president issued a firm warning to Fubara, insisting that political seniority and structures must be respected. One source quoted Tinubu as drawing a comparison with Lagos State politics, saying:

“Is Babajide Sanwo-Olu my leader in Lagos, or was Babatunde Fashola my leader when he was governor?”



Going by the above, Odili and not wike should be tje political leader of Rivers State, deciding who becomes the governor and who gets what in Rivers State.

See what Agbadorians and Agbadoists support.

SisterAnn:
Shuooo😃

Oshiomole tell you say im no get money ni?

Mummy see oo 😅

How did he make the money? Could he afford private jet charter or ownership before he became a governor?

Belurved1:
There's no crime in this scene.

Whose money was used to foot the bills there?

This is what Agbadorians and Agbadoists support oooo.

Chai!!!!

Dalohad:
Malami the darling of Awon Alagbado People's Congress that year when he illegally kidnapped MNK from Kenya.

NgeneUkwenu
Helinues
Madridguy
Biodun556
MANNA_BBQGRILLS
Ttalk
Mynd44
Throwback
Etc

Let's not forget that this was what the APC and Tinubu supporters defended with their lives for 8 years ooooo.

Where are the "darling daddy chanters" when you need them most.

Melagros:
COMRADES, if I may ask, are those UGM outside the radars of both the states and FG?

My brother!!!!

Soludo is pushing people to go and face insecurity while he enjoys retinue of security men and guards. Tackle insecurity, no way.

Racoon:
See them? Peter Obi!!!!! This solemn truth has been hunting them since 2023. Person wey dust Abuja, Rivers, Nassarawa, Lagos, Osun, with significant showing in other states does not command national appeal?

The INEC glitch criminality has to be done. Let there be free, fair, and credible election first. Let the outcome determine itself.

These guys knew the authentic result. That's why they are fixated on Obi. Who do people get fixated on in competitions or events? The best or winner of course.

LeoThaGreat:
From my experience in life, when a lady starts accusing a man of cheating, with no evidence to reference, the lady has been cheating.

Know what else? She has dug through the thoroughly and found no evidence of him cheating so as to justify her cheating or be free from the guilt.

It's very toxic remaining, cohabiting, dating, marrying or living with such a person. Breaking up is the way to go.

If you ever find yourself in such situation, don't stay because of what people will say or think, don't stay because of your kids (as you don't want them to have a broken home).

You don't owe people an explanation on why you separated from your spouse (so as to protect stigma against your kids as you'll expose them to ridicule if you expose your spouse)

You also need to be alive to make sure your kids (your very own descendants) do well in life.

Also, (this is my first time saying this ever) run DNA tests on your kids if you guys have any.

BOTTOM LINE:
When your partner starts accusing you of cheating with no evidence or a reference that pricks your conscience, RUN !

Does lack the of evidence of cheating from the accuser mean that the accused does not cheat?

Sirchiboy:
I have a friend that married in 2019 and got separated in 2024.
Just five years of marriage.
When I asked him what really happened.
He said she is tired of his wife's constant nagging.
Always accusing him of cheating without evidence.
He had to divorce her.

What do you mean by "without evidence"? Was he cheating? Simple. Does no evidence mean no cheating?

motayoayinde:
No nation has suffered calamities, defeat, rejection and expulsion like Israel/Samaria/Judah on Earth.
Their history is an unfortunate one.
Every time they're given a respite, they become demons again!
It's self-imposed misfortune.

Another is at hand.

Leave them alone bros. Why una wey be muslims abhor Israel? Anyway, una hatred for them has not made them irrelevant.

They were exiled by their God, GOD Almighty. He has restored them to their land and there is nothing una go fit do.

Leave Jacob alone, una no dey hear.

Una no dey tire for propaganda and lies?

So who killed the imaginary former Israeli PM son in Iran?

motayoayinde:
Many in the Trump inner circle are opposed to US attack on Iran.
-The reason, lack of preparedness for Iran's anticipated large scale attacks on US bases.
- Upcoming mid-term elections.
- Depleted AD stock after the 12-day war. About 25% of THAAD missiles were used in defending Israel and have not been replaced.
These are some of the major reasons Trump in TACO'ing on Iran attacks.

But Netanyahu is enraged. He'd have nothing but a blistering US attack on Iran, opening the way for Israel's opportunistic raid to force a fall of the regime like in Syria.

Trump's last minute pause on last month's attacks and his continuous pussyfooting on the matter was what led to the Zionists using their most potent weapon against American politicians: The honey trap files of which Epstein's is just one.

Will these latest releases push Trump to attack Iran?
Absolutely!
Dude spent almost his entire life damaging the lives of women and girls, all under Israeli cameras.

Bros go and rest.
Make una channel the resources and strength una use dey hate Israel into something productive.

Despite una hatred for israel right from the days of Muhammad, una never fit conquer them. Make una rest abeg.

anonimi:
is this supported by what is happening with Tibetans and Uighurs, who were annexed/vcolonised by China

Please ask him oooooo.

They hate the USA because of its stand against Islamic terrorists and support for Christians who are persecuted, especially, by muslims.

budaatum:
Actually, yes, I would prefer China as new world power over USA for the simple fact that China is not insisting that other nations adopt the Chinese political philosophy or religion like USA is doing.

Wouldn't you? And if not, why?

What is the Chinese political philosophy?

"He quotes the Anambra Commissioner of Police who says that they cannot force people to come out, because people have a constitutional right to stay at home, but they will provide security so that those that want to go out can go out."

The police commissioner get sense pass Soludo sef.

samuelson06:
It's totally okay to try to correct someone, but when their acts appear like dragging you backwards, you leave them alone, else you fall with them. This is the direction I was going. You don't allow anyone's wrongdoing to make you go astray.

"You don't allow anyone's wrongdoing to make you go astray."

This is instructive

CodeTemplarr:
Snake ogogoro or wine?

I wonder the kind of wine Jesus converted water iinto?

Back in those days, every drink except water was called wine. Even liquid medicines were called wine too.

Hmmmmmmm

So dem go drink even the snake shit join body?

Thundafireseun:
Where is Abike Dabiri when you need her the most??

That one?

She will be temporary blind and deaf to this because no be Igboman.

They think that evil respects tribe or tribe determines evil.

Fiscus105:
Wen are going to start looking unto righteous that going to church instead of unrighteousness? Better say, I hate being going to church and stop attributing Ur absence to certain individuals.

Back to your questions, definitely you will see God without going to church, but Ur action is a way of self deceit.

I also believe you are not entering vehicle again because of accident that happening of daily basis.

I also believe you are not entering vehicle again because of accident that happening of daily basis.

Good analogy.

samuelson06:
More reason you'll end up in hell because of others. Finding God is a lone journey bro. Leave others alone let them manage themselves the way they like. Focus on yours.

This is not totally correct. As a Christian, you don't just leave other Christians alone to manage themselves as the like. This is not what CHRIST JESUS and the apostle preached.

Why did Apostle Paul call out Apostle Peter, Demas, who abandoned him for the world, Alexander the coppersmith, who did him "great harm", and Phygelus and Hermogenes?

Why did the early Church call out false teachers?

If you assert that we leave others alone to live as they deem okay, then, why evangelism? Why "church services" and sermons?

jojo1415:
Man of God indeed....Christianity for Nigeria na scam

Christianity is about following the teachings of CHRIST JESUS. It is about conforming to His image and likeness. Anything short of this is NOT Christianity, no matter who is involved.

Kingsley34:
Christianity is looking like a joke

What do you mean by "Christianity is looking like a joke"? What is it in What both Chris Okafor and his congregation did that represents Christ or what Christianity is?

davillian:
bros u no lie
general hospitals in Nigeria are good at wasting time...
i started treating my mum with them but wo i just switched to private if not she would have died in their hands

Your experience is a serious pointer to failed leader, politocal leadership.

We cannot have corrupt and incompetent leaders and expect honest, competent citizens. While I agree that the leaders are a reflection of the masses, it is pertinent for us to note that to change a society or an organisation, we need leaders with the characters that entity desires. Leadership impacts tremendously on a people. Even GOD Almighty places utmost emphasis on leadership. The sins of leaders usually rob on their societies.

Some peeps expect the masses to change, while they continue to support and vote for wicked, corrupt, and incompetent leaders. This is madness. It won't work.

Positive change is better from top-down. Any change from down-up will definitely be violent and catastrophic.

The above is what APC supporters have failed for grasp.

Putindbutt:
Just another reminder that the man you love to hate is the one building the roads in your backyard.

Just to remind you that it is not his personal money. He is NOT doing SE any favours, rather he is courting SE for votes. Dem no born am well not do one single project in SE.

Previous governments worked on this road.