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nma24:
In a more saner society, people will advice you to see a shrink in order to talk and let your emotions out which is very therapeutic and even go for meetings to help with the addictions. Anyway, when life hands you a soured lemons you have to make what comes close to lemonades from them. Dust yourself up and try to be positive and also contact your mum frequently if possible.

Thank you sis, i appreciate.

dahmie2013:
Op, it's rada unfortunate, but we cannot choose our parents. So just man up, see all dese as a challenge & prove ur step siblings wrong by being a better person.
U're 2 young 2 start life like dis, u have a whole life ahead of u, so start working now.

Thanks bro! I appreciate.

tearoses:
Have you got uncles and auntys that you are close too?
are you close to your dad?
You see the smoking and drinking is not the answer as you can already see
Your line of defence is to be good and successful in everything you do
Your continued behaviour is what is causing you to be seen as an outcast

Are you in Uni?
You cant let your parents mistakes ruin your life
You deserve better
Your parents have chosen their path
Time to choose yours
You can have a better life
but you have to work for it

thanks bro! I'm a 300L university student.

lilmax:
you have yourself to blame, you make your own consequences

blame myself? You are lucky You're not from a broken home.

Amberon11:
O.P if you claim to love your mom then show her. How can you go 2 years without calling her? And you claim to love her....geez!!!

there is this feeling i get whenever i tried talking to her. I have not been living with her since when i was 6years! I dont know anything about mommy love.

My Father divorced my Mom when i was very young, i created this account when i was 18 now I'm 20. Depression has eaten deep into my soul! I dont socialize with people. I became an introvert! I started drinking and smoking! But still i'm not happy! I have never experienced mommy love in my life, that kind of love people have for their moms i dont have any! I can go a whole year sometimes 2 years without calling my mom. She's always complaining that i dont even have time for her. But that's not true i'm always thinking about her, there are things that will never happen to me if she's around. I cant spend 30 minutes with my mom whenever we meet, imagine having brothers as in blood brothers back stabing you. Hating on you. Siblings that sit and gossip about you just because you guys are not from the same mother. I bacame a drug addict! People keep on judging me without knowing my reasons for smoking and drinking. Imagine growing up with no parental love no brotherhood everyone dont like you just because your mother gave birth to only you in the house. I'm depressed, i need help i'm suffering! I cant continue living like an outcast in my fathers house! I hate crowd i spend almost all my time on the internet, no self confidence very low self esteem. what a wicked world!!!!

Simpsonrocket:
bro be prayerful. God is with you.

thanks God bless u

soe:
Nwokem...bia...anomunso....now to the issue...

As I speak to you now...I want you to forget everything you have written and open your heart to my short but strong words.

It seems your father hates you...but deep down in him..he loves you.

He wants you to be perfect just as he wishes he was.

Yes, it's impossible to be perfect, but most men think they can groom their son to be perfect.

You will never know the worth/value of your father, until you lose him.

Open another thread and ask nairalanders who have lost their fathers...everyone has one stubborn story or the other..like yours.

But at the end...we all miss our dads.

Many times they are overbearing... Commanding... Overdemanding of our energy and time...

But the day you look back to help them, they are gone.

Many times we say "oh well when I make it in life I will send him money, buy him cars and stuff"

But most times..fathers don't live that long...mothers do

So don't say your father is too demanding and you are tired...this is the little you can give him.

Honour thy father and thy mother so that your days may be long (bible)

Obey your mother and your father no matter what, except when they tell you not to serve God (Quran/hadith)

Yes, you work so hard for him,
Yet he doesn't give you money,
He doesn't pay your fees.

But the hardship you endure today, you will look back to thank him.

As many have said... See this as a determination to succeed in life.

Don't join any cult, don't join any bad group..
Don't harm your father, don't kill yourself...

In few years to come...you ll be the shinning star in your home.

Goodluck

God Bless u i appreciate

tellwisdom:
When my popsy shey shower me love like father xmas na em dis wan dey suffer for cuddle, let alone love. Chai ....small boi again

Thank God...! Pops luv is a luxury to me

boombay:
*trolling mode deactivated*


guy yours is still better
I'm a troll on nairaland trying to have fun in order to forget my sorrows and pains I'm experiencing at home
God bears me witness that I'm crying as I'm typing this...
I'm just 17yrs... a fat handsome teenager
my parents are happily married and averagely rich...they can afford almost everything ,they gave birth to 4 kids
I'm the third born of the family

i wrote my waec this year...I failed tho (not proud to say it... I failed because i lack parental care
I registered my self for waec and jamb after stealing their money to get myself registered...
my two elder siblings are too mean ...they do give my mum advice just to bring me down physically academically, materially even socially


all the clothes and footwear I'm wearing.. I bought them myself....
they are always jealous of my progress.... my older siblings went to a well reputable private secondary school... I graduated from a public sec school...
see my brother everything will be alright soon....
just smile
TAG ME WHEN YOU READ THIS FINISH

*trolling mode activated*

u re blessed bro

THANKS brothers/sisters...!

zizazizu:
Most divorced men living with a kid produced in the failed marriage do see their partner in the kid. It takes great men to not continually see the evil of the divorced partner in the kid. Unfortunately, it seems, your father has not risen above that.

I advice that you thicken your mind's armour and know that, as needed as it is to experience a father's love and approval, it isn't the end of the world. His hatred and bitterness towards you is timed if you stay focused and fight your way through school, life and all other odds to come out on top.

Instead of thinking of exiting life like a coward via suicide, I think you should man up and after forgiving him for the past and for the next 40 years (advanced forgiveness), live life with gratitude and a sense of purpose.

Best of luck bro!

thanks bro!

waleyp:
Bro this is hard..... I wonder what happened when you were given birth.... Maybe you remind him of something back in the days,i dont know but am just saying... Just know that you cant commit suicide.. That would be worse.... Believe me all you ve to do is get yourself into a university.... That will enable you to be away from him for a while..... I think you ve a bright future and all these would be part of your story..... Just endure.

am now in the University 100level my mom paid all my fees....he said i ill not go back to hostel i ve to be working for him at home...from my house to the uni is approximately 30 to 1hr journey...my mum ve to send tp fair for me each month.....i hate this man i swear!

i just don't know how to satisfy this man he divorced my mom when i was 4yrs am now 18 buh my dad hate me....in a family of six he shows all my brothers luv....he always want me to work for him whc i ill obey unlike my brothers....he slap me infront of his freinds insult me call me names i swear i jux dont know what to do to please him...

My step mum also hates me i once liv our house i went to my grandma my popsy followed and told her that am lying bla bla...i was sent back home...i stole his shaving stick and went for DNA test whc my friend helped me d result was positive he was my father...my mom is married in Egypt..she jux call me sometimes and told me dat u ve to bear with my father...he dont pay my fees my mom does....jux dis morning he hit me with a kettle because m playin with one of my niece telling me dat i wantu break her hand because she s not my kid....dam!!!

i jux feel like committing suicide i hate myslf am just depressed....please your advice is needed...m actually an active nairalander buh i created this account to hide my identity...!!