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norriswood:
mumu...noise maker

Olamsoh:
I need a quick advice please. I met this guy in church through a friend in March this year. He was new in the country as a student. I welcomed him to church as a steward and after mass he came and had few words with me. Since then we have been talking on the phone occasionally. I share his worries and challenges with him. I know he wants to remain in the country because he's told me going back home is not an option. I supported him and suggested options too including getting married to someone here genuinely.

Last week, he stated his intention to see me as a matter of urgency. I panicked and asked him to share the reason over the phone like we usually do. He refused, today he came into town and i reluctantly went to pick him up from station to have the agreed chat.

Getting to the restaurant he told me a story about a girl he loves blah blah blah... it was a nice story after all. I was pleased his met someone he loves at last. And after a month I asked him why he's not told this lady that he loves her? Then he paused and then said 'I just did'. For a minute it didn't make sense, then it sinked in that he was actually referring to me. I was shocked, i was disappointed, i was upset. A lot of other emotions were racing in my head at the same time. You may at this point wonder where I'm driving at or what my worries are. Here they are:
1. This guy is 29 and I'm 34 (I don’t look it though).
2. This guy is from Owerri and I'm from Anambra. Tbh my parents will kick.
3. This guy wants to be in this country by all means and I may be a gateway to that.
4. This guy is still an MSC student with no source of income and I'm a professional at managerial level.

C'mon, lets face it how will this marriage and love he is professing work? I truly believe in love and building from scratch but i have no confidence in this one and unsure how best to handle it. About background that may help you advice me:

1. I am in a crap aimless relationship leading to no where.
2. I am not seeking any thing in life per say.
3.I am a devoted Christian and don't believe in kids outside marriage
4. I still love my supposed boyfriend very much even though he doesn't feel so

KINGJAJA888:
LOl ;My Junior sister did this and I thought she was about to faint. Had to bath her with a bucket of water thinking she fainted .we still DEY keep malice till now

Zaikon:
See crowd ohhhhhhhh

Aplaudez:
Make sure your legs are long before applying!
truth be told!