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Jobs/Vacancies / Re: Should I Pay Him N500,000 For A Job? by EngrTonbra(m): 11:28am On Aug 19, 2016
OP pls take d job,this is a good gamble,I am sure it is legit, you really have nothing to loose asides from a meagre 50k,they made it safe 4u .. The odds r in ur favour. Take the job pls..
Romance / Re: Morgue Worker Arrested After Giving Birth To A Dead Man's Baby (photos) by EngrTonbra(m): 8:36pm On Aug 10, 2016
sinaj:
I dnt get it.


Is dis evn possible
Hey dear,how r u ?
Romance / Morgue Worker Arrested After Giving Birth To A Dead Man's Baby (photos) by EngrTonbra(m): 8:19pm On Aug 10, 2016
The world is indeed a strange place. Kansas city , a Missouri worker was arrested after a DNA test revealed that her new born baby was as a result of a necrophilia.

Necrophilia- Engaging in sexual activity with a corpse.

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Literature / Where Can I Download Act Like A Success Think Like A Success Guys by EngrTonbra(m): 5:23pm On Aug 09, 2016
Hello nairalanders please where can I download Act like a success Think like a success for free by Steve Harvey?

Or if anyone here has it I'll happily drop my email address,I really need the book,thanks!
Music/Radio / Re: A'rese Wins "The Voice Nigeria Season 1 (photos)" by EngrTonbra(m): 12:17am On Aug 01, 2016
more photo's below

Music/Radio / A'rese Wins "The Voice Nigeria Season 1 (photos)" by EngrTonbra(m): 11:51pm On Jul 31, 2016
The pretty 28 year old was able to beat Chike and clinch the title as winner of "The Voice Nigeria season 1".

Agharese Emokpae popularly known as A’rese has won the first season of The Voice Nigeria .
A’rese comes from a creative family. She has been doing music theatre ever since she graduated from Washington and Lee University in 2010. She has starred in various musicals and theatre productions in both Nigeria and The United States.

Romance / Dark Secrets Girls Dont Want Guys To Know by EngrTonbra(m): 12:24am On Jul 31, 2016
1. We masturbate , whether you're home or not.

2. A good majority of us prefer to pee outside

3. We pluck stray hairs from everywhere on our body

4. When we are in love we smell your clothes

5. We wished you could open more about casual sex

6. We hope that your guy friend secretly wants to sleep with us

7. We aren't insulted by those cat calls from construction workers

8. We regularly check in on what our exes are up to via social media

9. When we have girls night we usually do things that you wouldn't approve of

10. When you are not around we fart !

Lol ladies are these all true ?

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Celebrities / Basket Mouth Shares Old Photo Of Himself (photo) by EngrTonbra(m): 12:01am On Jul 31, 2016
Basket mouth shared an old photo of himself with the caption "It was only 8 years Ago"

Celebrities / Basket Mouth Spotted In A Mall With Aliko Dangote(photo) by EngrTonbra(m): 11:51pm On Jul 30, 2016
Basket mouth ran into Aliko Dangote at a shopping mall and decided to take a pic with him. He posted the picture on Facebook with a funny caption " Look who I took to Lenox Mall for shopping, I came to buy jeans, he came to buy the mall I guess"

Music/Radio / Re: Guys Check Out Wizkid's Carbon Copy (photos) by EngrTonbra(m): 10:32am On Jul 27, 2016
Pictures below

Music/Radio / Guys Check Out Wizkid's Carbon Copy (photos) by EngrTonbra(m): 10:23am On Jul 27, 2016
Take a look at WizKid's exact replica. God is truly amazing. Really God created us in two's!
Family / 16 Rich Habits by EngrTonbra(m): 11:37am On Jul 25, 2016
Nigerians are really facing trying times,but life could be a tad bit better with a little information.
Mods please move this to front page! Everyone needs this. Thank you.


The gulf between Rich Habits and Poverty Habits is staggering. If you’re well off already, chances are you already adhere to most of these Rich Habits. Integrating the ones you’ve neglected will push you further. But be assured: If you’re doing fine now without minding these principles, it’ll catch up to you.
Some of the differences between rich and poor are obvious, while others are a little more surprising. Here are the most important Rich Habits you can take up to reach and maintain your wealth potential.


1. Live within your means.
Wealthy people avoid overspending by paying their future selves first. They save 20 percent of their net income and live on the remaining 80 percent.
Among those who are struggling financially, almost all are living above their means. They spend more than they earn, and their debt is overwhelming them. If you want to end your financial struggles, you need to make a habit of saving and budgeting what you spend . Here are some sensible ways to budget your monthly net pay:
Spend no more than 25 percent on housing, no matter if you own or rent.
Spend no more than 15 percent on food.
Limit entertainment—bars, movies, miniature golf, whatever—to no more than 10 percent of your spending. Vacations should account for no more than 5 percent of your annual net pay.
Spend no more than 5 percent on auto loans, and never lease. Ninety-four percent of the wealthy buy instead of leasing. These folks keep their cars until the wheels fall off, taking great care along the way so that they save money in the long run.
Stay away from accumulating credit card debt. If you are doing this, it’s a clear sign that you need to cut back somewhere.
Think of savings and investments as two completely different things. You should never lose money on your savings. Try to stash six months of living expenses in an emergency fund in case you lose your job or your business goes belly-up.
Contribute as much as you can afford to a
retirement plan . If you work for a company that matches your contributions up to a certain percentage, great. Always take that free money when you can get it.
Related: Top of Mind: The Best Money Advice I Ever Heard


2. Don’t gamble.
Talk about a sucker bet: Every week, 77 percent of those who struggle financially play the lottery. Hardly anyone who is wealthy plays the numbers. Wealthy people do not rely on random good luck for their wealth. They create their own good luck. If you still want to bet after knowing the risk, use money from your entertainment budget.


3. Read every day.
Reading information that will increase your knowledge about your business or career will make you more valuable to colleagues, customers or clients. Among wealthy people, 88 percent read 30 minutes or more every day. Just as important, they make good use of their reading time:
63 percent listen to audiobooks during their commute.
79 percent read educational career-related material.
55 percent read for personal development.
58 percent read biographies of successful people.
94 percent read current events.
51 percent read about history.
11 percent—only 11 percent—read purely for entertainment purposes.
The reason successful people read is to improve themselves. This separates them from the competition. By increasing their knowledge, they are able to see more opportunities, which translate into more money. Comparatively speaking, only one in 50 of those struggling financially engages in this daily self-improvement reading , and as a result the poor don’t grow professionally and are among the first to be fired or downsized.
Related: The 5 Best but Unheard-Of Success Books (I'll Bet You $1 You Don't Know Them)


4. Forget the boob tube and spend less time surfing the Internet 1 .
How much of your valuable time do you lose parked in front of a screen? Two-thirds of wealthy people watch less than an hour of TV a day and almost that many—63 percent—spend less than an hour a day on the Internet unless it is job-related.
Instead, these successful people use their free time engaged in personal development, networking, volunteering, working side jobs or side businesses, or pursuing some goal that will lead to rewards down the road. But 77 percent of those struggling financially spend an hour or more a day watching TV, and 74 percent spend an hour or more a day using the Internet recreationally.


5. Control your emotions.
Not every thought needs to come out of your mouth. Not every emotion needs to be expressed. When you say whatever is on your mind, you risk hurting others. Loose lips are a habit for 69 percent of those who struggle financially. Conversely, 94 percent of wealthy people filter their emotions. They understand that letting emotions control them can destroy relationships at work and at home. Wait to say what’s on your mind until you’re calm and have had time to look at the situation objectively.
Fear is perhaps the most important negative emotion to control. Any change, even positive changes such as marriage or a promotion, can prompt feelings of fear. Wealthy people have conditioned their minds to overcome these thoughts, while those who struggle financially give in to fear and allow it to hold them back.
Whether you fear change, making mistakes, taking risks or simply failure, conquering these emotions is about leaning in just a little until you
build up confidence . It’s amazing how much confidence helps.
Related: 10 Ways Successful People Stay Calm


6. Network and volunteer regularly.
You’ll build valuable relationships that can result in more customers or clients, or help you land a better job if you spend time pressing the flesh and giving back in your community. Almost three-quarters of wealthy people network and volunteer a minimum of five hours a month. Among those struggling financially, only one in 10 does this.
One perk of volunteering is the company you’ll keep. Very often the boards and committees of nonprofits are made up of wealthy, successful people. Developing personal relationships with these folks will often result in future business relationships.


7. Go above and beyond in work and business.
Unsuccessful people have “it’s not in my job description” syndrome. Consequently, they are never given more responsibility, and their wages grow very little from year to year—if they keep their jobs at all. Wealthy individuals, on the other hand, make themselves invaluable to their employers or customers, writing articles related to their industry, speaking at industry events and networking. Successful people work hard to achieve the mutual goals of their employers or their businesses.


8. Set goals, not wishes.
You cannot control the outcome of a wish, but you can control the outcome of a goal.
Every year, 70 percent of the wealthy pursue at least one major goal . Only 3 percent of those struggling to make ends meet do this 3 .
Related: 6 Money Tips to Live a Rich Life


9. Avoid procrastination.
Successful people understand that procrastination impairs quality; creates dissatisfied employers, customers or clients; and damages other nonbusiness relationships. Here are five strategies that will help you avoid procrastination:
Create daily “to-do” lists. These are your daily goals. You want to complete 70 percent or more of your “to-do” items every day.
Have a “daily five.” These activities represent the crucial things that will help you get closer to realizing some major purpose or goal.
Set and communicate artificial deadlines. There’s nothing wrong with finishing early.
Have accountability partners. These are people you team with to pursue a big goal. Communicate with them at least every week, and make sure they hold your feet to the fire.
Say a “do it now” affirmation. This is a self-nagging technique. Repeat the words “do it now” over and over again until you begin a task or project.


10. Talk less and listen more.
A 5-to-1 ratio is about right: You should listen to others five minutes for every one minute that you speak. Wealthy people are good communicators because they are good listeners. They understand that you can learn and educate yourself only by listening to what other people have to say. The more you learn about your relationships, the more you can help them.


11. Avoid toxic people.
We are only as successful as the people we spend the most time with. Of wealthy, successful people, 86 percent associate with other successful people. But 96 percent of those struggling financially stick with others struggling financially.
If you want to end your financial struggles, you need to evaluate each of your relationships and determine if they are a Rich Relationship (with someone who can help you up) or a Poverty Relationship (with someone holding you back). Start spending more and more time on your Rich Relationships and less on your Poverty Relationships. Rich Relationships can help you find a better job, refer new business to you or open doors of opportunity.

12. Don’t give up.

Those who are successful in life have three things in common: focus, persistence and patience. 3 They simply do not quit chasing their big goals. Those who struggle financially stop short.


13. Set aside the self-limiting beliefs holding you back.
If you’re hurting financially, you’ve probably told yourself some of these untruths before: Poor people can’t become rich. Rich people have good luck and poor people have bad luck. I’m not smart. I can’t do anything right. I fail at everything I try.
Each one of these self-limiting beliefs alters your behavior in a negative way. Almost four out of five wealthy people attribute their success in life to their beliefs. Change your negative beliefs into positive affirmations by reading lessons from the greats of personal development, like
Napoleon Hill , Dale Carnegie and Jim Rohn.
Related: Doubtbusters: Erase Self-Limiting Beliefs


14. Get a mentor.
Among the wealthy, 93 percent who had a mentor attributed their success to that person.
Mentors regularly and actively participate in your growth by teaching you what to do and what not to do. Finding such a teacher is one of the best and least painful ways to become rich.
If you know your goals, find someone who has already achieved them. You’ll be amazed by how many people want to lend a helping hand.


15. Eliminate “bad luck” from your vocabulary.
Those struggling financially in life have a way of creating bad luck for themselves. It’s a byproduct of their habits. Poverty Habits, repeated over and over are like snowflakes on a mountainside. In time, these snowflakes build up until the inevitable avalanche—a preventable medical problem, a lost job, a failed marriage, a broken business relationship or a bankruptcy.
Conversely, successful people create their own unique type of good luck. Their positive habits lead to opportunities such as promotions, bonuses, new business and good health.


16. Know your main purpose.
It’s the last Rich Habit, but it might be the most important. Those people who pursue a dream or a main purpose in life are by far the wealthiest and happiest among us. Because they love what they do for a living, they are happy to devote more hours each day driving toward their purpose.
Odds are, if you are not making sufficient income at your job, it is because you are doing something you do not particularly like. When you can earn a sufficient income doing something you enjoy, you have found your main purpose.
Believe it or not, finding this purpose is easy. Here’s the process:
1. Make a list of everything you can remember that made you happy.
2. Highlight those items on your list that involve a skill, and identify that skill.
3. Rank the top 10 highlighted items in the order of joy they bring to you. Whatever makes you happiest of all gets 10 big points.
4. Now rank the top 10 highlighted items in terms of their income potential. The most lucrative skill of all is worth 10 points.
5. Total the two ranked columns. The highest score represents a potential main purpose in your life. Presto!
As you can see, the differences between rich and poor are simple—sometimes intuitive—but not insignificant. Aim to take up all 16 of these habits, and you’re almost guaranteed to become better off.
Foreign Affairs / Re: Say Hello To One Of The World's Best Armed Force by EngrTonbra(m): 1:06pm On Jun 23, 2016
Zoharariel:
Compare them with these assholes below. grin cheesy grin
lol who are these guys ?

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Foreign Affairs / Say Hello To One Of The World's Best Armed Force by EngrTonbra(m): 12:36am On Jun 23, 2016
THE RUSSIAN GRU SPETSNAZ

We all know Russians are tough people and bad asses when it comes to the art of war. But I'm sure a handful of us don't know about their most deadly force. Meet the Russian GRU spetsnaz.

Well they goes a saying "to set yourself apart from others,you gotta do what the next man will never think of doing"

Let's find out why the spetsnaz are a different breed of soldiers.
1. As Vicktor Suvorov, a former Spetsnaz soldier described in his book , one aspect of Spetsnaz Special Forces training is called pain management training. As he describes it, young soldiers are put through a harsh series of exercises, from taking full-force punches in the chest from their commanding officers without flinching, to getting burning cinderblocks broken over their stomachs with a sledgehammer. Spetsnaz are trained to enjoy pain,not just endure it. *hehehe*

2. Russian Spetsnaz Hand Axe Training

As part of the Russian Spetsnaz training, recruits are asked to do nearly physically impossible things with repeatable accuracy. This particular training exercise forces recruits to do a flip over a barbed wire fence while throwing a hatchet at a target.

3. 12 Mile Runs Extremely Difficult Obstacle course were you run length wise on Rail Road Ties and across spaced 2-3 feet apart. Rail Road Ties 10 feet above the ground. Had read or heard that in early years they used to lock you in a room with a knife and ferocious dog (I thought this is what I heard how true this was I don't really know). But one thing is for sure Spetsnaz are treated like crap and your Training culminates in surviving a One on One unarmed combat, That would be Forbidden in Western Armies Special Forces or even the Regular armies Training. The test lasts for 12 minutes were a Recruit must hold out against 3 or 4 successive assailants, all qualified Spetsnaz soldiers, to get his Red Beret. Only 1 in 3 who try for Spetsnaz make it just like any of the other Worlds Special Forces only the Mentally fit and physically able and willing make it.

One spetsnaz soldier could be compared with 3 normal soldiers when it comes to hand to hand battle. These guys are really crazy . Hope you enjoyed reading about spetsnaz.

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Family / 5 Life Lessons People Learn Too Late by EngrTonbra(m): 11:45pm On Jun 22, 2016
IF YOUR AMBITION is to lead a satisfying life, your best bet is to cultivate connection. Studies show that people who enjoy rich ties with friends and family are happier, have fewer health problems, and are more resilient. When it comes to relationship advice, it’s also wise to approach conventional wisdom with a critical eye. We’ve culled the data, consulted the experts, and arrived at five essential lessons that depart from hand-me-down norms.


Lesson #1:
Radical Acceptance Saves the Day
The idea that we can fix perceived flaws in our partners, friends, parents, and grown children remains tantalizing. Decades ago, the musical Guys and Dolls lampooned this notion with the lyrics, “Marry the man today, and change his ways tomorrow.”
A healthy dose of ego often convinces us that our way of looking at things is right, but trying to “correct” someone else usually backfires, says psychologist Paul Coleman, author of “We Need to Talk”: Tough Conversations with Your Spouse . “It implies that we’re coming from a more enlightened place, that we have a deeper knowledge of what’s best,” he says. The other person may get the message that he or she isn’t good enough and become resentful.
A healthier approach: “Look inward to fix the problem,” says Northwestern University psychologist Eli Finkel. If your partner hates large gatherings, consider attending the next party solo so he doesn’t have to make forced conversation and you don’t have to leave early. Or if your son says he wants to forgo college for now, try to express enthusiasm for his budding career as a nature guide instead of bombarding him with school rankings. This involves the recognition that you’ll never be in sync about some matters. “You have to say, ‘We have this permanent difference, but we need to learn to live with each other,’” Coleman says.


Lesson #2:
Benign Neglect Is Good for Kids
Parents who hover relentlessly provoke eye rolls from developmental experts and teachers alike. You can see these parents sprinting to the swings to right a playground injustice or e-mailing schools incessantly.
“There’s a huge distrust in society’s institutions that pushes people to overparent,” says Hara Estroff Marano, author of A Nation of Wimps . “Parents also lack trust in children’s desire to be competent and don’t accept that nature will influence the course of development,” she says. The compulsion to intervene becomes stronger if parents view kids as surrogates for the fulfillment of their own dreams, says retired Tufts University child psychologist David Elkind, author of The Power of Play .
But regularly stepping in to protect kids from stress may hurt them in the long run. Michelle Givertz, assistant professor of communication studies at California State University, Chico, has studied hundreds of parent–young adult pairs and found that overparenting leads to depression-prone, aimless kids (and ultimately, adults) who lack the ability to achieve goals.
Parental overinvolvement is also associated with entitlement, Givertz says. Kids who are used to getting everything they need without exerting any effort may think, I’m entitled to everything, but I don’t have the abilities to achieve what I want.
It’s better to let kids live with occasional disappointment and resolve their own problems as much as possible, while assuring them that their feelings are heard (even if you’re the one saying no) and that you’re available for moral support. Trust in their capability to tackle obstacles. “Our job as parents is to help kids become self-sufficient,” Givertz says.


Lesson #3:
Opposites Don’t Forever Attract
The key to a happy, healthy relationship is choosing someone who is, quite frankly, a lot like you—a person who validates your views and habits. Studies have repeatedly underscored the importance of shared values, personality traits, economic backgrounds, and religion, as well as closeness in age.
Glenn Wilson, a psychologist and a professor at Gresham College in London, developed a compatibility questionnaire covering lifestyle, politics, child rearing, morality, and finances. He found that partners who answer comparably are more apt to report satisfaction. Still, he says, “when couples are overly similar, it can be a bit of a brother-sister relationship—too predictable, without a lot of novelty.”
So what’s the happy medium? Seek a partner whose passions differ enough from yours to expand your experience, but with whom you’re aligned on big-picture issues: how to show affection, what constitutes a moral life, and how to raise children.


Lesson #4:
Social Networks Matter
We’ve all heard the usual advice for living longer: Exercise, don’t smoke, limit junk food. But friendships are just as important. “The higher the quantity and quality of your relationships, the longer you’ll live,” says Bert Uchino, a psychologist at the University of Utah.
Julianne Holt-Lunstad of Brigham Young University collected data from 148 studies analyzing the relationship between health and human interaction. She found that, over a period of about seven years, people with active social lives were 50 percent less likely to die of any cause than their nonsocial counterparts. A low level of social interaction has the same negative effect as smoking 15 cigarettes a day.
Psychologist Sheldon Cohen of Carnegie Mellon University gave subjects nasal drops containing a cold virus; those who reported the greatest diversity of social ties were four times less likely to develop colds than those reporting the least diversity. But the quality of your relationships is just as important, according to Uchino’s research. He recorded the blood pressure of 88 women in a stressful situation (preparing to give a speech) and found that readings spiked less when a close friend was there to offer encouragement. Researchers speculate that the stress associated with weak social support sets off a cascade of damaging reactions. Knowing your friends have your back can help prevent such responses, Cohen says.


Lesson #5:
Lust Wanes, Love Remains
Too often, couples assume a relationship is beyond repair when the intense romantic excitement ends and the arguing begins. “The immature part of us loves the idea that compatible people don’t have conflicts,” says psychologist David Schnarch, author of Intimacy & Desire.
But research doesn’t support this. University of Denver psychologist Howard Markman, coauthor of Fighting for Your Marriage , says successful couples argue—it’s how they do it that matters (among other things, happy partners refrain from nasty zingers). Airing grievances lets both people speak their minds and take responsibility for their missteps.
It’s also normal for desire to wane. “Romantic love is when we have this consuming, emotional experience, and it usually lasts about a year and a half,” says Will Meek, a psychologist at the University of Portland. “Deep love comes after we see how imperfect the other is and commit to him or her anyway.”
Rather than get caught up in complaints, psychologist Harriet Lerner, author of
Marriage Rules , suggests that you work to restore connection. That might mean initiating something new in your sex life, or perhaps it’s as simple as recycling that pile of boxes that’s been annoying her for months. “People know what warms their partner’s heart,. Thank you.

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