frozen70:


11 yrs in a life of a woman with child bearing is enough to change her personal look if only she is subjected to all kind of home front wahala

If you think you guys are OK, then you get it wrong check out the following questions

Do you have children that makes noise and makes her scream over them

Does she works, as in does she gets up as early as a banker, prepare the children for school and then prepare their meal and prepare herself for work

Does she goes to market after work or weekends, then come back and goes to kitchen to prepare meals and at night you still make advances at her and she still gives in to your requests and still wakes up the next day to repeat the same cycle

Does she contribute financially to the home affairs and other areas

After reading the above questions, if she does all this that's exactly what is weighing her and making her look older than her age

The above duties can be shared let her just be doing the bed stuff while you do the rest, you will also looks exhausted and stressed

Seat her down let her share the house chores and let's see if things will change for her to appear good looking

Lastly, every month take her for shopping at leat three outfits a month including night wears let's see if she will not look hot since you like them looking hot

Thanks for this piece. I hope that the Op could act on this. In addition, I tell men close to me to learn to assist their wives with house chores and raising children if they do not want their wives to age faster than them. @ The poster, do you have a househelp? If no, do you keep the children busy when your wife is doing house chores ? Do you surprise your wife sometimes by helping her out with some house chores or even take your family out to eat sometimes in order for your wife to have some time to rest . Think on this and act.
To women, Be deliberate in getting rest. House chores no dey finish. Close your eyes sometimes to some works around the house and take some rest. You will get the work done after waking up. If you can afford it, get someone who you will pay to come around and help you wash some clothes probably on weekends. Stress kills and causes one to age faster. Shalom

Op. The best decision you should take because of your future is to break up with the lady now. If you should go ahead and marry her be ready for times 10 of what you are seeing now. She obviously does not have someone in her life who will scold her and she will heed to not even her parents. She is obviously seeing her being in a relationship with you as if she is doing you a favour. If you don't want to have the fear of coming back home after the day's work after getting married . Please let her go. You will find a better person.