austyn0:
For righteousness sake, you have to forgive her. But forgiving her is not the same thing as accepting her back.

Don't allow her plead like her life depends on it, tell her you have forgiven her but it is over between the both of you. Do not tow that path again, let her live the rest of her life with the lessons.

Thanks, I appreciate

virgoquin:
Pls forgive her ..

she must have learnt her lessons by now

I still don’t understand why all females want me to forgive her. If I were your brother, would you advice me to continue with such a person?

stupidity:
Cheating in Nigeria is now balanced o.

No one should accuse men of being scum again. Both genders na scum.


Las las na olosho we guys go still marry.

The way things are going now, it looks like it....sad and hurt

@all, I am really hurt and confused. It will be so hard letting her go but I guess I have to. It’s quite hurtful that someone you care so much about would betray you . Many of you might not really understand how it feels. Thanks @all for your thoughts.

Hello guys,

I badly need counseling/advice. I have been in a relationship for over two years now. My gf is very homely and lovable. She has a great personality, she’s a good cook and a good manager of the home.

During the first months of our relationship, we had issues about her exes calling her frequently. I was not comfortable with this so I asked her to find a way to cut off contacts with them which took her another long period (months) to finally accomplish. We really had serious issues about this but there was this particular guy she always keep in touch with. He lives abroad. I always confront her about this guy but she told me the guy is just a childhood friend which I can confirm is true. They were classmates in secondary school. I wasn’t comfortable with their friendship. He frequently video calls her and I found out that each time she visits me, she deletes their chats. Whenever the said guy visits Nigeria, my girl always visits him. I got really suspicious when he bought her a wrist watch and she told me visited him in his hotel. I became really suspicious of her so I had to clone her WhatsApp in other to find out what she is up to. This was the beginning of my emotional trauma. I found out that they were actually in a romantic relationship. She sends him her nude pictures and they sex chat frequently. I was so angry and emotionally hurt upon seeing all this. I also found out that the exes she told me she had cut contacts with are still very much in touch with her via WhatsApp. Apparently, she blocks and deletes them whenever she comes visiting. I confronted her about it and she started crying and begging me. I angrily destroyed the phone I bought her at the spot. She cried and begged me but I didn’t listen. She came to the house, begged me, called all her friends to beg me. My mum even intervened and asked me to let go and forgive her. Her mum too asked me to forgive her. The pressure was so much on me and I still had strong feelings for her despite the issue on ground. I had to forgive her. The problem now is that it’s been almost 5 months after the incidence and I still find it had to forget. I bring up the issue constantly and all she does is beg. It’s really difficult for me to forget the issue. I am currently in a cross road. I am confused. Sometimes, I feel like leaving her and other times I feel like staying. The incidence still plays in my head everyday. Please I need mature responses because I am really confused. This is a girl I really love and intend to marry because of her good behavior. My mother likes her so much. She never lacks anything. I always take care of her and make her happy. I really don’t know what to do now.