Hello guys,

I badly need counseling/advice. I have been in a relationship for over two years now. My gf is very homely and lovable. She has a great personality, she’s a good cook and a good manager of the home.

During the first months of our relationship, we had issues about her exes calling her frequently. I was not comfortable with this so I asked her to find a way to cut off contacts with them which took her another long period (months) to finally accomplish. We really had serious issues about this but there was this particular guy she always keep in touch with. He lives abroad. I always confront her about this guy but she told me the guy is just a childhood friend which I can confirm is true. They were classmates in secondary school. I wasn’t comfortable with their friendship. He frequently video calls her and I found out that each time she visits me, she deletes their chats. Whenever the said guy visits Nigeria, my girl always visits him. I got really suspicious when he bought her a wrist watch and she told me visited him in his hotel. I became really suspicious of her so I had to clone her WhatsApp in other to find out what she is up to. This was the beginning of my emotional trauma. I found out that they were actually in a romantic relationship. She sends him her nude pictures and they sex chat frequently. I was so angry and emotionally hurt upon seeing all this. I also found out that the exes she told me she had cut contacts with are still very much in touch with her via WhatsApp. Apparently, she blocks and deletes them whenever she comes visiting. I confronted her about it and she started crying and begging me. I angrily destroyed the phone I bought her at the spot. She cried and begged me but I didn’t listen. She came to the house, begged me, called all her friends to beg me. My mum even intervened and asked me to let go and forgive her. Her mum too asked me to forgive her. The pressure was so much on me and I still had strong feelings for her despite the issue on ground. I had to forgive her. The problem now is that it’s been almost 5 months after the incidence and I still find it had to forget. I bring up the issue constantly and all she does is beg. It’s really difficult for me to forget the issue. I am currently in a cross road. I am confused. Sometimes, I feel like leaving her and other times I feel like staying. The incidence still plays in my head everyday. Please I need mature responses because I am really confused. This is a girl I really love and intend to marry because of her good behavior. My mother likes her so much. She never lacks anything. I always take care of her and make her happy. I really don’t know what to do now.

Walk away Mr Man,cos once a cheat would always be a cheat,i guess now u wondering if the n!gga gave her a doggy,if she gave him head, how she would be moaning when d new n!gga was hitting d coochie,if she was moaning yuh name, while he was hitting it,if he was better than u in bed,WTF does he do that u cannot,once any babe gets into yuh head n starts making u to wonder bout yuhself n start having doubts bout yuhself,then u my man r bout to get finished n turn to a pant man... If she did it before she would still do it again,but would get smarter this time....

You're Talking About Yourself And Forgiveness You Forgot To Think Her Childhood Lover And Exes She Still Keep In With Na Love Go Kill You There You Better Move On With Your Broken Heart

Are you planning to marry this lady?? Before I drop my own contribution

It appears you've taken her back already...which means you are willing to cope with her olosholistic attitude.
You also said you intend settling down with her because of her "good behaviour"...it's now left for you to choose between good behaviour and oloshoism.

Well. Marry her.

Every woman have a thousand husbands I was once told. One 1 would eventually have her.

Drop her sorry ass and go your separate ways.

Tell those people begging you to find a fool to take your place because it's not in your agenda to settle down with a cheat... Don't not allow yourself to be blackmail into taking her back because the very moment you take her back you'll be crown the king of fools. Use your head.

@all, I am really hurt and confused. It will be so hard letting her go but I guess I have to. It’s quite hurtful that someone you care so much about would betray you . Many of you might not really understand how it feels. Thanks @all for your thoughts.

;Dfr

Cheating in Nigeria is now balanced o.

No one should accuse men of being scum again. Both genders na scum.


Las las na olosho we guys go still marry.

stupidity:
Cheating in Nigeria is now balanced o.

No one should accuse men of being scum again. Both genders na scum.


Las las na olosho we guys go still marry.

The way things are going now, it looks like it....sad and hurt

Pls forgive her ..
she must have learnt her lessons by now

Fvck her as much as you like and when you’re tired of the pvssy, dump her in the trash can where she belongs. Don’t make a mistake to marry a cheat because she will always do it again and again.

virgoquin:
Pls forgive her ..

she must have learnt her lessons by now

I still don’t understand why all females want me to forgive her. If I were your brother, would you advice me to continue with such a person?

virgoquin:
Pls forgive her ..

she must have learnt her lessons by now

Laughs... WORST ADVICE OF THE CENTURY!!!!

Ericsmithg:
I still don’t understand why all females want me to forgive her. If I were your brother, would you advice me to continue with such a person?

For righteousness sake, you have to forgive her. But forgiving her is not the same thing as accepting her back.

Don't allow her plead like her life depends on it, tell her you have forgiven her but it is over between the both of you. Do not tow that path again, let her live the rest of her life with the lessons.

austyn0:
For righteousness sake, you have to forgive her. But forgiving her is not the same thing as accepting her back.

Don't allow her plead like her life depends on it, tell her you have forgiven her but it is over between the both of you. Do not tow that path again, let her live the rest of her life with the lessons.

Thanks, I appreciate

Ericsmithg:
I still don’t understand why all females want me to forgive her. If I were your brother, would you advice me to continue with such a person?

It's because no one is perfect my dear, we all have weaknesses as human, but if you kno you can't forgive or let go. Then move on and let her go.

just keep a distance, stop the calls and spent time with others.

At a point in a man's life, there are decisions you take that will make you grow, but in your own case you took a bad decision letting her back in your life. And that's why you are still here after five months.

You must let go of that girl, the memories will always linger in your mind, it's not your fault that's the way we men were created to be. Forgive her, never let her back into your life even if she took a bullet for you, never be emotionally blackmailed, you are the man.

Love is not enough.

You have to let go even though you still love her. The reason is, just like me, you will never forget.

This will always make you angry at her and can lead to you abusing her physically and even killing her in the future.

You are a territorial male, the more reason you can never forget because you will always be doubting your ability as the ideal man for her.

Forgive her but let go. Thing will never be the same again.

If you want to continue, go ahead but never ever marry her. You will be angry all through and you Amy commit murder someday!

Clone clone clone clones

Everyone keeps talking about it,

Op how do we go about it

Ericsmithg:
Hello guys,

I badly need counseling/advice. I have been in a relationship for over two years now. My gf is very homely and lovable. She has a great personality, she’s a good cook and a good manager of the home.

During the first months of our relationship, we had issues about her exes calling her frequently. I was not comfortable with this so I asked her to find a way to cut off contacts with them which took her another long period (months) to finally accomplish. We really had serious issues about this but there was this particular guy she always keep in touch with. He lives abroad. I always confront her about this guy but she told me the guy is just a childhood friend which I can confirm is true. They were classmates in secondary school. I wasn’t comfortable with their friendship. He frequently video calls her and I found out that each time she visits me, she deletes their chats. Whenever the said guy visits Nigeria, my girl always visits him. I got really suspicious when he bought her a wrist watch and she told me visited him in his hotel. I became really suspicious of her so I had to clone her WhatsApp in other to find out what she is up to. This was the beginning of my emotional trauma. I found out that they were actually in a romantic relationship. She sends him her nude pictures and they sex chat frequently. I was so angry and emotionally hurt upon seeing all this. I also found out that the exes she told me she had cut contacts with are still very much in touch with her via WhatsApp. Apparently, she blocks and deletes them whenever she comes visiting. I confronted her about it and she started crying and begging me. I angrily destroyed the phone I bought her at the spot. She cried and begged me but I didn’t listen. She came to the house, begged me, called all her friends to beg me. My mum even intervened and asked me to let go and forgive her. Her mum too asked me to forgive her. The pressure was so much on me and I still had strong feelings for her despite the issue on ground. I had to forgive her. The problem now is that it’s been almost 5 months after the incidence and I still find it had to forget. I bring up the issue constantly and all she does is beg. It’s really difficult for me to forget the issue. I am currently in a cross road. I am confused. Sometimes, I feel like leaving her and other times I feel like staying. The incidence still plays in my head everyday. Please I need mature responses because I am really confused. This is a girl I really love and intend to marry because of her good behavior. My mother likes her so much. She never lacks anything. I always take care of her and make her happy. I really don’t know what to do now.

Cheat na cheat , how did you clone the WhatsApp
Can I pm

@OP, Abeg how u take clone her Whatsapp... Ur response will be highly appreciated... thanks

Hisses! I don't even know why people would cheat on you guys and you'd still be asking for advice on what to do. Is it that they have given you people komnomi to eat and it affects you guys when reasoning? The moment you catch a person cheating on you, kill your emotions right there and walk away.

Me self want learn how to clone too

Ericsmithg:
@all, I am really hurt and confused. It will be so hard letting her go but I guess I have to. It’s quite hurtful that someone you care so much about would betray you . Many of you might not really understand how it feels. Thanks @all for your thoughts.

Are you both still together?