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Hello Soundproof,

Have you thought of signing up on Eventplanner.Ng ?

It will be a great place to showcase yourself to clients in Nigeria.

I was at a wedding last week and i saw this same thing play out. Unfortunately for the lady, the bride saw her and asked me to go and tell her to remove everything.
As a humble Eventplanner i did. The lady felt embarrassed and left in 5 minutes.
I do not understand why people like to embarrass themselves.

Hello Funkfam,

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FaroukM:
Please, I want to start planning for my wedding which by God's grace should be next year..with this recession, considering getting Hall,event decoration,and other necessary things for the wedding to happen..how much should I be working towards, am not a rich guy..just still managing..just an average wedding..i need your advise please.

Hello Farouk, there is no particular budget for a wedding, best thing is for you to set how much you have for the wedding, still keeping some for your marriage after wedding.

I did mine last year and i stuck strictly to my budget. The major thing is how much you have the work with it by focusing on what is really needed.

If you have N1M then focus on immediate family members attending, less crowd, less food,less drinks smaller hall or open space with canopies, your wife will wear one dress instead of the two brides like to wear nowadays.

So the most important is work with what you have and do not go overboard.

cummando:
You forget to add







Stay with her for at least a month
These girls can pretend
Once they enter your life,their real color emerges

I agree with @paperlace you never really know a person till after years together, its more about understanding and compromise.

rebirthforgoody:
All men knows this

Thats interesting having seen some men discover this at marriage class which is even after proposal. Good you a smart one

After you are sure she is the one and as a Nigerian you are ready to take your relationship to the next level. I propose you do these three things before you propose. No matter how educated you are, believe me, these 3 things that seem minor might be a huge blocker to your marriage.

So, before getting on one knee, do these 3 basics and I strongly believe whatever comes up after these will be workable.

Blood test: You need to have done a blood test with your girlfriend before even proposing to her. Some churches require this before wedding you and some deem it fit to ask their spouse’s genotype few months before wedding or after they have fixed a wedding date. Honestly to save yourself a lot of trouble, do the basic blood test (genotype, blood group) before you propose. You may be willing to overlook the fact that both of you may be ‘AS’ but she may not be that lenient about it so it’s better you take a step further before buying that huge stone.

Meet her parents: This is not just meeting her parent but making sure that they are cool with you. Get more information about what her parents think about you from her and if you know you may have any ancestral stuff that may be an issue, open up to her immediately so she can let you know if it’s something her parents would see as a stumbling block.
No matter how you feel about this, I advise you do this before you propose because no matter how educated African parents are, these things matter to them.

Take her to your parents: You know your parents better but I advise you take her to your parents before proposing. My reason is simple, you need to be sure she is a bit (not necessarily a lot) comfortable around your people because the problem may not be getting approval from your parents but making sure your girlfriend approves of them.
Truth is she will not marry you if she feels she cannot cope with your family, so to save yourself future embarrassment, take her to mama now.

After you are sure she is the one and as a Nigerian you are ready to take your relationship to the next level. I propose you do these three things before you propose. No matter how educated you are, believe me, these 3 things that seem minor might be a huge blocker to your marriage.

So, before getting on one knee, do these 3 basics and I strongly believe whatever comes up after these will be workable.

Blood test: You need to have done a blood test with your girlfriend before even proposing to her. Some churches require this before wedding you and some deem it fit to ask their spouse’s genotype few months before wedding or after they have fixed a wedding date. Honestly to save yourself a lot of trouble, do the basic blood test (genotype, blood group) before you propose. You may be willing to overlook the fact that both of you may be ‘AS’ but she may not be that lenient about it so it’s better you take a step further before buying that huge stone.

Meet her parents: This is not just meeting her parent but making sure that they are cool with you. Get more information about what her parents think about you from her and if you know you may have any ancestral stuff that may be an issue, open up to her immediately so she can let you know if it’s something her parents would see as a stumbling block.
No matter how you feel about this, I advise you do this before you propose because no matter how educated African parents are, these things matter to them.

Take her to your parents: You know your parents better but I advise you take her to your parents before proposing. My reason is simple, you need to be sure she is a bit (not necessarily a lot) comfortable around your people because the problem may not be getting approval from your parents but making sure your girlfriend approves of them.
Truth is she will not marry you if she feels she cannot cope with your family, so to save yourself future embarrassment, take her to mama now.

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