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tpia@:
Btw, please stop trying to pretend you're doing whatever it is you're trying to do, as some kind of anti-christian agenda.

ATR actually places more emphasis and penalties on casual sex and out of wedlock liaisons, than christianity.

So, whatever your reasons are for whichever lifestyle you choose, kindly be man enough to accept the fact that its solely your decision and yours only, you dont need to attack anyone or anything who is not attacking you, based on your choices.

I hope you get me?

Nobody really gives a heck what form of upbringing you plan to give your kids, thats entirely up to you.

dahmie2013: @OP, sincerely I really dont mind ur deal o! I didnt believe people like dis exist in naija, but the challenge I have is I dont want 2 get pregnant now, I'm looking @ 4yrs-6yrs 4rm nw, even the thought of marriage scares me with the so much "commitment" involved.

dayokanu: OP,

Do you mind if the lady is ugly, obese and illiterate?

GHANA OGA: OP few questions for you.
1.Is the lady allowed to have kids with other men after fulfilling the contract?....YES
2.Can she marry later?.....YES

If you answered yes to these two questions,then OP you might as well get married legally cos 'i fear for your future'(jayz's voice).

Miner13: whenever the word contract is use. It means the purpose must be under some term and conditions
i bliv who is interested wil settle that wit d op

tpia@:
Not to mention you sound like a baby farmer.

zeb04: Y do I think this op wil later fall inlove and be suprise at how tins wil take a different turn

Ngokafor: ..Story!..better daddy indeed!...and whoever told you that all marriages end in divorce,polygamy and adultery??..
...Maybe i'll speak for myself cos i cant for the world of me imagine myself deliberately and cold-heartedly subjecting my innocent child to a galivanting here-today-gone-tomorrow daddy...perhaps with one or two partners on my side to beat of the loneliness...*yikes!*...
..apart from my personal aversion to that kind of life-style,my family would die first before they allow their daughter live like that even if i am hundred years old...
...but hey am not condemning you[b],it just seems too unrealistic,selfish and cold to me[/b] thats all.

yellowpawpaw: Poster, take ur search lens to southern Africa like Zimbabwe and South Africa.
If u wanna go global hit the West. U will get exactly what u want.
Nigeria is still very conventional and religious to do so.
The lady may agree but society and family will make her change her mind and start scheming for permanent residency.
And never u under estimate the power of a determined lady! Even if under age.
Goodluck in ur search.

By d way, why r we against him?
Is it not here that our gals said they want sperm donors only? No time for marriage. Me think if the gals can pull d string why not guys abi we think single guys can't be able to make a good daddy? The world is fast changing.

Kx: A "working class" lady once dangled this carrot before me not too long ago.

The fact is what happens in Yorubawood/Nollywood will always resurface with things like this.
I wish I could advise you to find true love and marry and keep the baby, the mother and the father and the baby
growing up knowing that the family is intact: but I cant because you mind might just be "fixiated" on your plan.
Goodluck on your "choice".

byvan: I really don't see the biggie with OP's intention,atleast he is honest.Marriage is not meant for everyone,and I believe a woman somewhere shares his view.There is no doubt that this is strictly for a woman that has risen beyond conventions because your offer is a tough call for the typical African lady.Don't ever get married if you can't be faithful.


OP why does it have to be via sexual intercourse??or do you plan to self service and deposit the cells when your are ready to ejaculate?

Dantedasz: While I salute your choice and wish you luck in your search,I really DO NOT believe you are new to this forum.
You sound so much like a guy who used to post regularly on these boards a few years ago.

Chillisauce: OP, you are better off going to the village to pick a girl, house her, feed her, school her then she gets pregnant for you. This your method won't work. The best it can get you is free pu ssy and your untimely death.

You are on your own!

chaircover: LOL. I am sure that a lady who has risen above conventions and fundamentals wont mind telling the world so I dont think she will mind, so pls when you do find her, do let us know who she is. Others may even learn from it sef

On a serious note, I wont force you to get married because not all people are "marriage material" . You know yourself better than anyone and the last thing that you want to do is to make life unbearable for an innocent wife. I just dont think that deliberately bringing a child into this situation is fair. . . .as in deliberately!

chaircover: OP if you find a decent "all rounder" girl from a good family who agrees to what you are asking for, then I will personally pay!

. . . .In short you wont find a girl worth her weight in gold accepting this kind of arrangement.

At most, what you will find is someone who says yes to your demands, but you will wake up one morning and discover that you are married to her!!!
Never underestimate the power of a determined woman. Did you just say that you are naturally designed for multiple partners abi? . . . women are naturally designed for using their brains too, and you will not only just find that you are married, she will also take you to the cleaners for half of what you own!

My dear friend, take your time, set yourself standards and go and find yourself a good woman who you will enjoy for the rest of your life. All these "textbook" arrangements dont often work in the real world. We are talking emotions and a child here, not commodities off the shelf.

Ngokafor: Indeed!..he clearly thinks he's got everything all figured out forgeting the fact that the human emotions is quite complex and tends to flunctuate....

...@op am sure you'll want your prospective baby mama to be attractive,educated,intelligent and relatively young right??..now if am correct,i still maintain that no self-respecting female with the attributes i have listed will settle for your conditions when there are lots of guys/men that still believe in the marriage institution...especially in this very conservative society we live in...once more goodluck with your search.

cynhamscakes: Why not just adopt or opt for full blown surrogacy but in which case conception will be via artificial insemination. Your current plan may seem soooo good and easy to you now but it may blow up later.

With surrogate, it's strictly business and you won't have the future headache of custody issues.......but you will probably hire a nurse to take care of the baby .


All in all, i say adopt. Maybe later you will have a change of mind about marriage and when it happens, everything will take a natural course.



**by the way, don't conclude yet that you are medically fit to impregnate a woman till you start trying. (Irrespective of your SFA result).

chris_villa: Nigga you suffering yourself...get a good intelligent girl,befriend her,impregnate her,have her nurse the child and send her off to campus...chikena

salsera: I hope you do know that even when both partners have no medical issues preventing pregnancy - it can take sometimes up to a year to get pregnant

So she has to endure having sex with you till she gets pregnant - someone you feel nothing for since its a contract you are looking for
So how do you work out the timetable - you go dey time her cycle abi? count her ovulation days too abi?

So if she miscarries nko (i do hope u know that miscarriages are common) - both of you will start having sex again or you find another partner. What compensation will she get since its her body we are talking about here.

If the baby is born with birth defects or any other medical issue nko? what about if the child grows up and has autism or dsylexia?

You may have thought through not wanting to be married but you havent thought through having a child.
You just want some replica of yourself so people can say - that's your son


Adopt one child - then rethink your idea of a contract.

Bootylicious: I don't see what respect has to do with this,asides guys not wanting to b tied down by marriage,don't forget there are so many women that also need baby father not husbands, d op dint say he wants to pay off any lady interested in the thread,I am sure he wants to pay only if d lady insists on wanting money,he only specified he'll b responsible for her upkeep... doesnt sound all dat bad doe... I wish you goodluck with it op.

Justeenaleo: Ignacia is interested and shewill actually be d one doin the paying

zeb04: Yeh hw much r u ready 2 pay...who is goin 2 take full custody of the child,who wil com visiting. Happy guys are being blunt nwadays so pretty girls don't waste their tym

3Dimension: How much u go pay?

coldgate: pictures pls. i hope say op no be cripple o!

sexymoma: While you guy are here interrogating him... some ladies are already typing to his e-mail address. My own question is when she gets preggy will you introduce her to your parent?... For Future Purposes. SMH!!! i think ya wealth is intoxicating you.

coogar: how are we sure you don't have staph, herpes or even HIV? can you post the results of your last comprehensive medical checkup?

Mynd_44: And what happened if after 3months of intimacy she does not take in?