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medjai, tnx for the info. Thats the question I was about asking.

sportin always give us a hard time in Camp Nou. But we'll prevail.

this one na amala joint oo!!

mbulela:
silly argument.
so what happens if the lady has a still birth?
or miscarries?
pregnancy should never be the basis for marriage for any real man.
that argument is just escapist and short sighted.

Not what I brought up, it is what I have observed and
know of.

Ifeoma can confirm. 2 years of relationship now, lasting because of
my being " considerately and necessarily bad.

^^^^^, I dnt think that statement is judgmental?

I believe in this age of our generation. Alot of men want to confirm pregnancy with their wives
before putting the ring on the finger. This is due to mass marital problem based on birth giving.


PS: The marriage already took place in another church.

MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn't love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife's divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside
the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me,  she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office,  jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind, I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.
My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce.-- At least, in the eyes of our son--- I'm a loving husband,

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don't share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage.
Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.

A CHRIST-CENTERED MARRIAGE IS A MARRIAGE THAT IS SURE TO LAST A LIFETIME.

So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate. Matthew 19:6

by Stephanie Hamilton Brown

Mr Soliloquy, LOL

khayne u sure? Please post a link to back up that fact.

v3 are you a closet Barca fan?

To ma mum, my one and only. I know you have always told me that
your greatest dream is to spend sometime in sydney australia.

I'll make that dream come true for you.

Love you mum

^^^^ It will be hard. He carries most of the Barca load on his shoulder.

I might have to check up on latest NEWS to see how long he is out for.

The funny thing is, the dude didnt even know his girl was preggos.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=516053.msg6780124#msg6780124 date=1284885182]E yo Niggar!! I like your I.d by the way!

Strong point! No need saying nothing since I'm supporting your point! I will monitor this thread and be back with my comment later.[/quote]I gbadun your I.D too, am waiting you response.

I attend the Redeem Christian Church of God here in lagos. I was surprised when I heard on friday that my friend's wedding
have been canceled and has been moved to another church to take place.

It was reported that a pregnancy test was run and that they figured out his wife to be was already 1 month pregnant which
was the main reason for the cancelation of the wedding to take place in the church.

Now thinking about the whole thing, I would say this is totally wrong, because if indeed this issue has to be judged biblically, I would say
it is only written in the bible that one must not have intimacy until you are married which automatically means both parties must still be virgins.

So if thats the case, the general test that needs to be run is virginity test, not pregnancy test, because alot of people have gotten married
with their virginity lost prior wedding day. I just dont understand what this is all about. I feel the church didnt do well on this, please someone
shed a light on this issue and lets see if they did they right thing or not.

Poster, main question is, are you a payee? If you can
confirm that, I can give u a very correct answer.

yang:
Guy dis place where you dey is called Dating purgatory. This is where you look for a new chick while maintaining the old cargo incase of incasity.
Remember he who dumps the other first. . . . . . . Wins

Forget fone numba, e no mean anytin

When you enter Nairaland wey u dey yarn opata? Abi u think sey i be newbie?

Besides most NL grls are dead girls. I have met some couple, and they are all almost the same. Trust me!!

[quote author=oyinda. link=topic=511067.msg6760267#msg6760267 date=1284576818]lol. good point.
he is always creating one relationship topic after another on nairaland. obviously he has issues he needs to resolve within himself. [/quote]Isnt it on the same girl? And do i change I.D's to hide my identity when creating topics? Oyinda I don tire for u.

Mehn this season fixtures na die. We are
playing the tough teams in the early season.

But im sure we'll triumph!!

Crizzle baby, where is Sauron @?

Missing his presence.

dayokanu:
Q:Why can't you get a cup of tea at the Santiago Burnabeu?
A: Because all the mugs are on the field and the cups are at the Nou Camp.

Some1 can at least tell me where Sauron is.

too_soon, 3 GBOSA 4 U, Nice prediction!!

Because I recently lack emotions like Soujiro the tenken.

Braga= Barca, Be very afraid.

Athletico go hear am. We are going for the
slaughter.

sexybabes:
She prolly deleted your no when broke up & still isn't sure to add you yet just incase u break up again,

And if she knows the no by heart, what's the big deal anyway?

If the emboldened part is your main point, then the one below
is quite insignificant. Thanx for your contribution!!

kokonets I am cool bro.

Lets enjoy the games, VISCA EL BARCA!!

Cos I have got everything a lady would want in a man.

^^^^^^ were!! your say dnt have a significance in this case.

^^^^^ You got it right bro.

You are nothing when you are not worth
commenting about when something goes wrong.

Tomorrow's match will be mouthwatering  .

Suffering and smiling roughly.
Hoping and whiling for a trophy.

GAYNERS BIKO!!

^^^^ Guy if am plumping on yo buttt now, you'll
come up with ur ratatata gibberish. Well since you
have something to say, means ur a low-life

Lol, I love the attention, even from the low-lives