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I feel your pain dude. I was banned for 3 days for no reason a while ago.

I think the mods know you better now and they're knowingly withholding access to your accounts.
Funny thing is, iice should be the one to help you negotiate this issue with the top mods,
but as usual she appears and disappears leaving only compacted statements in her wake.

Gabry:
I suggest to ban this papa190, 190, and all other 190 on Nairaland.

Hi Gabry, long time no chat, How's ur Nigerian bf?

@190, I'm on your side.

^^^ Outside Naija, absolutely
Inside Naija, no f3cking way.

Try to experience both sides before commenting
If you use only swagga to f3ck in Naija, it'll still take too much stress, effort and time.

Swagga will only get you close to them.

There's no guarantee you'll be allowed to go further than that.

^^True, but I enjoy seeing his posts

We need acerbic characters as well as cool ones, in order to keep NL interesting.

By the way, I would categorize you as acerbic too, if public perception is anything to go by.

Toasting still works except in Naija.

Money and cars are the ish right now.
Without them, you might have to toast for months before you get one girl.
With them, you don't even need to talk to get the prettiest girls around

FACT!!!

Mods, unban the guy for f3ck's sake.
So we can stop seeing his tears

But seriously, NL practices double standards,
you get banned for no reason most times, it's pathetic

@OP: Your story is the first I've actually enjoyed reading on Nairaland.

Good structure, continuity and parallelism.

Keep it up!!! I can't wait for the remaining part

If we're talking about heterogeneous cheating, then both men and women cheat equally

The difference is, men are more likely to initiate it and are more likely to get caught.

You're all getting it wrong.

Guys always know what they want but rarely show it or tell it

If a guy says "I love you and I want to marry you", He might actually be interested in a one-night stand.
Does that mean he doesn't know what he wants?

Girl846:
Trust is a big issue here, it makes you wonder what else you she has been lying about.
If you can get over this betrayal then marry her! She seems like she is not happy about her past and has tried to change. She has been well behaved all this time.
Also, what if she was actually despoiled, she still is innocent because the sex was not upon consent.
Think about all this.

But OP i will not paint you as innocent in this story - If she was telling you the truth about her virginity, why would you cajole somebody into breaking their promise to God? To a certain extent, you got what you asked for.

Both of you are at fault in this story.

Hey, don't try to deflect or distribute the blame.
The fact is that she lied. And about 90% of Naija girls lie about the issue anyway.
So, I guess the OP didn't believe her fully and wanted to try his luck.

In many of such cases, when we find out the girl has been telling the truth
we do stop and let the girl fulfil her promise to God

I'm not a virgin freak, but if I was able to prove my girlfriend is a virgin, I can afford to leave her untouched till marriage. Simple!!!

^^^ No one is being rude to those ladies, they're just plain rude normally.

Omolola1:
haba Faha, am not like that o!!! i was only joking!
honestly am a very cool headed person

am sorry if i sounded violent to you 
re we friends?? 

If you'll leave 190 for me, then yes we can be friends (or more)

Haha, just kidding. we're cool.

Are you that inclined to violence?

Omolola1:
bleep off is small, she should have given you a very well delivered dirty slap for being so dumb!!!

Eyah:
Actually, you deserve it. Good thing she was kind enough and kept her control, otherwise, you might appeared like a flattened cockroach.

This is just a confirmation of how rude black girls can be when toasted. So she should turn violent because the poor dude used a dumb line? smdh

vivaladiva:
black gals play hard to get for a variety of reasons and i think these reasons r pretty obvious
a white woman has grown up in an environment that encourages female sexuality and the expression of it  even if a black woman has grown up in this environment she is still subject to some constrains courtsey of family and friends etc

white women have fought for the legalisation of abortions,contraceptives etc---even if black women were involved in these movements, they were hardly the leaders of it and were prob very few

a black woman has a  constant need to comform---ie seek approval from her friends, family---white women r more independent in their reasoning  and r more individualistic

the role of religion has greatly reduced especially in countries like the uk---hence the notion that women have to remain virgins is effectively out of the door---in this era of equality  white women r taking charge of their sexuality and tend not to seek approval from any body and of cos they r less judgemental

the idea that sex is a favour to a man is soming that has been ingrained in a black woman-----not so much for this generation of white women
black women believe that playing hard to get is directly proportional to the respect that u get from a man---white women r more spontaneous and feel less inclined to play hard to get because they beliv that it takes two to tango

Brilliant analysis

Omolola1:
una own worse  

our own wetin? Pls don't compare rudeness to swag

There's a difference btw being annoying when approached AND playing hard to get. The former applies to many black girls.

When a person lies in God's name, the person doesn't have the fear of God, and that's scary.

If you believe she's changed, then you could take her back, but are you sure there'll be trust in your marriage?

^^^ True, but una own too much abeg.

And yet you wonder why we are gravitating towards white girls?

The black girls abroad form so much, you'd think they were diamonds.

You're all getting it wrong, I think.

A man needs a 3-in-1 wife who's
1. A freak in the bed,
2. Responsible, and
3. A lady in the streets

Am I right, OP?

Pweety4me:
[color=#550077]Y'know i don't really appreciate comments like dis from yu or any1. . .so plse stop i'll rather not talk about it theirs no point so just let go U don't know me & I don't know U so abeg drop all matters associated wif me & my ID kappeesh!.

@ice234 Abegggg plse leave my ID alone abi dem send u?let me be.[/color]

You were only a case in point, nothing special.
No one needs your permission to use your ID as an example. Tu comprends?

ice234:
i guess pweety4me knows wat she wants dat y shee didnt gree for 190

Wrong, She doesn't know what she wants.
I'm talking from personal experience - one day she's cool and chatty, the next she's bitchy.

This is a silly question. Why? Because women are never remotely sure of what they want

Once a liar, always a liar. The lies will only get bigger.

^^^ You're on a very long thing
You never jam some women: taking your money and screwing behind your back.

^^^ Correct

It's supposed to be a two-way street.
If you want a platonic relationship, don't take his money
And stop treating s3x as a favor, if you don't want it, don't have a boyfriend.

Men cheat, men are dogs, blah blah blah, That's what women love to say,

But who do they cheat with? - Is it not the same women?

I'm sure that for every lady here who's boyfriend has cheated on her, there's a guy who's been cheated on and sucked dry financially by a girl.

So, who's worse?

Hmm, it's all messed up

Most Ladies feel sex is a favor (especially while dating)
And most men feel marriage is a favor

It's even I think. Women play the game first, but men play theirs later and laugh last,