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Angela62:
I have been on this forum for quite some time now as an anonymous, and the cries of men being handed their balls by women whom they thought love them are ubiquitous. In this regard, here is some list of things to determine, to know if a woman is a keeper, and you shouldn't waste your time on her if she is not.

1. A girlfriend will complement your outfit, a woman will complement your being

A girlfriend is merely interested in the ''now'', her motto is ''what's in for me''? her selfishness triumphs your common interest, and as much as your actions satisfy her ego and score social points, she will stay. But a good woman is more interested in your being, your success, your path, potential and what you stand for. These are criteria she considered before choosing you as her man, and if you retain your core personality and value, temporary fluctuations such as finance will not break her commitment. She thinks longterm and willing to embark on that journey with you, while supporting you in her feminine ways.

2. You can be yourself around her.

You do not need to put up a different face when meeting her, just to represent the illusionary idea of you she has in her head. If she is visiting and you are temporarily out of cash, it won't make you feel insecure or undergo inconvenience just to not be your true self. If you can tell her that you are short of cash and that she should come with something, then she is a good woman. If you have to lie about your life situations such as your job, salary, family background to retain her interest, then it is actually time to live as such a union is not sustainable.

3. Does small stuff for you

Helps you clean, buy stuffs for you, assist you, be there for you, express emotions and she supports you, open to you, compliments you, defend you, make you a beneficiary of her artistic skills. For example, I love writing, and I write a lot of poems for my bf in the form of sticky notes hidden under his pillowcase, inside his work bag, his suit pocket, car boot, teacup, just anywhere I could sneak something into. And guess what, he loves it to pieces. It makes him miss me a lot when I am not in town, and our relationship is stronger as the day goes by.

4. Doesn't use sex as a weapon

Men love sex, and women loved to be loved. If a woman is convinced that her man loves her, she will not withhold sex, as she will equally enjoy it with her man. A lady that denies man sex, or uses it as a bargaining chip for her request doesn't love and a man should be careful in marrying her. Normally when women feel insecure, unloved and not sure about the definition of the relationship, it is possible that she will not be interested in sex, as to have sex, a woman needs mental stimulation first. This should not be interpreted as a reluctance to give sex. But all things being equal and balance, a woman that loves you will not use sex as a weapon.

5. You will be her best friend.

Your intuition will tell you if she tells you everything and sees you as an integral part of her life. She will remember your birthday, be interested in your family affairs, tell you everything, and ask you about everything. Your presence will make her feel good and happy, a natural antidote to the stress and noise of living.


Hope this helps