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once again i say thank u guys,
But i dont want d forum to rule my life, i just want ur opinion abt d issue, wat u wld av don if u were in dsame situation. I prefare sharing my probs wit pple dat dont know me, so they wont b bias in their judgement. And any descision i take am totally responsible - u guys gave me advice to d best of ur knowledge- and its left for me to act. What ever i do is totally me.

And abt me talking abt him over and over again, maybe its because i love him and am scared of losing him and making decisions.
Have u never been scared before?
I dont really know what heart break feels like and i pray i never experience it,

This is just a stage of my life & i will pass tru it, & tnx for making it easier for me,

Thanks guys i really appreciate ur advice,

Am a bit relieved,

It's obvious am not really enjoying myself as i should,

I have to learn how to catch more fun

thx for ur advice Nikky, U are the best!

Yes he did it for the paper, but its hurting me badly cos my fantasy abt him has always been abt having his child.

I wish he can just come back, and leave everything behind

Hello Nairalanders, pls I need you candid advice and not mockery pls, It is quite serious, ur answer can save a soul.



I've bin dating a guy for over 7 years now, 5 years before he left for jand, we are still talking but alot has been happening, sometimes i feel things are not going to work out for both of us. He says its going to work out though, but his attitude sometimes says the opposite - like "am not ready to have kids in the nearest future" "i want to settle myself down first b4 i think of having kids". And before he left he is always talking about starting a family early. He is now 26 and am 24 and he has a son by a white woman now.

I think He is the only person who can understand and tolerate me, i have my own faults and I think he was just given to me by God. we share a lot in common. av not actually had a serious date before him. so i dont know what other relationship looks like. and am so scared to leave cos i dont know if other guys can accept me as i am.

He cares for my needs to his ability, he says he loves me and I love him even more than love itself, i cant actually name what i have for him cos since he left 2008, have not dated any other, people come but i just dont know how i chase them away, i have not been able to love another.

But with this his current changes what should i do? Pls help! I have never wanted to be an old maiden, i have always wanted to be a young mother. what should i do?