Doesnt show responsibility
N basically only muslims really keep beards

Skyview01:


Ok. I see your point. For me, as a rule, no family member sleeps over in my house. Same goes for wife families.
Except they are of course little nephews or nieces.

does it include parents

Jidemoo:
I had to read the article again.

From your post you said you do take your wife's niece out...that's exactly where your problem started from.

If it were that you do take the two of them (your wife and her niece) out together....it would have being a different case cos from the look of things....she felt that you don't have any power over her that's why she easily mingled with your friends...but your wife's presence would have averted that cos she would retrench whenever those guys make move.

Moreso,a lady can hardly submit under a fellow lady...they like being ontop no matter their size or age.

But don't worry,just make sure that you and your wife put head together and send her home before she get pregnant and put it all on you.

If you love your family......send her packing in a Matured way

she left after 3 months. Rhe issue generated after over a year

Skyview01:


I still wouldn't be close friends with a womanizer as a married man and a parent.
You expose your family to whatever friends you keep.

my line of work needs me to keep friends a lil close

Jidemoo:
This matter get as e be

Just relax your mind....don't let stuffs like this bother you.

Try and fix a date with your wife.....make una go outside and have fun...there and then,you will discuss the matter with her.

i always do

Dreadshy:
You are trying to he nice, nice guys always come last

i guess so

RoyalBlu:
Just wondering why you had to take her out on a 'normal basis'. Unless you're saying you take her out alongside your wife?

You got too comfortable with her. Which is not too good.

my wife happens to just be an homely type. She is an outgoing one, and i am too

Opeyemiextra:
Your wife is just being emotional so please ignore. You both you put hands together and deal with the externals.

ok

DaddyRochie1642:



You wrote it there in your write-up that you don't want to be seen as a bad person that's why you're being taken advantage of.

asking my inlaws not to come to my house will speak volumes. She came from a large house

DaddyRochie1642:
You don't have boundaries at all.

how do u mean please

I will try to make this as short as possible
I got married to my wife in 2018, a very low key wedding
We had our child ten months after the wedding
She has a niece who schools close to the city we leave who drop by few times
A younger sis who visited close to our 1year anniversary, she asked how the anniversary will go which i replied the anniversary will take care of itself.
She got angry, and wanted to leave the next money, but changed her mind after i explained to her what i meant.
Few months later a niece who is younger came visiting, my wife was against it but due to the fact that i jusst don't want to be seen as a bad person i told her to let her visit.
While she was around, i do take her out, just on a normal basis, she always want to exchange numbers wit my male friends, which i strongly object to
She ended up exchanging num wit a guy who happens to be a close friend, and a known bad guy.
She was communicating with the guy which my wife and i were not satisfied with which made my wife reported her to the mum.
After a while she cooked up stories of how i beat my wife to the mother, and how i always go to peep at the window
The mum called my wife telling her she is very unhappy in the marriage and they are waitibg for when she will come home crying
My wife turn back and said all of it is my fault
Where did i go wrong

oglalasioux:


You that have searched the scriptures give me just an answer to one of the questions I put up.

Okay. I'll give you time to ask people you think knows the bible if you don't know.

I'm particularly waiting for a Jehovah's Witness answer.

I am a Jehovah's witness, I will answer ur questions, just mail me wit ur whatsapp contact or bbm pin

WarHorse1:
You must be a JW. Keep telling the good news bro.

guess we all are bro

Wisdomkosi:
u be jw abi?

u sef na jw?

There are indications that the Federal Government has queried the Comptroller-General of Immigration, Martin Abeshi, over the alleged illegal recruitment of 300 workers into the service without approval. It was learnt that Abeshi was issued the memo by the Minister of Interior, Lt. Gen Abdulrahman Dambazau (retd.), following a report by The PUNCH on February 1, 2016 on the employment racketeering carried out by the top management of the immigration service and ministry officials. Our correspondent had reported exclusively that the slots for the 300 personnel were shared among the top management officials, adding that officers, who were on inspector cadre (levels 1-, were employed in December, 2015. The personnel were given various ranks, including Inspector, Assistant Inspector, Immigration Assistant and Chief Immigration Assistant. The NIS had, in its response, said over 200 personnel were engaged to ‘fill vacancies caused by deaths and retirements of some officers,’ adding that it had yet to conduct recruitment of new staff into the service. The NIS Public Relations Officer, Ekpedeme King, in a statement, admitted that the service carried out what he called replacement of dead and retired officers. Sources informed our correspondent on Sunday that the NIS boss was asked to explain why he breached government directive on recruitment. The source added, “Following the report in The PUNCH about the illegal recruitment, the Interior minister issued a query to the CG, Immigration. Though the top management of the ministry was also involved in the employment racket, the minister feigned ignorance and asked Abeshi to explain the secret recruitment into the service.” It was further learnt that some top NIS officials had been undermining Abeshi by hoisting Customs’ flags on their official cars, in apparent but subtle disrespect to the NIS boss. According to military tradition, only the NIS boss could hoist the service flag on his car while other senior officers would fold theirs unless when visiting a formation under them. “All the DCGs (deputy CGs) have been hoisting the flags on their cars in what is considered a disrespect to the CG. Their grouse is that Abeshi should have retired by December, 2015 but he is still in office and the government is not saying anything about it. He is over 60 years and he has spent over 35 years in service, so the DCGs are hoisting their flags, contrary to the service tradition,” the source told our correspondent. The NIS Public Relations Officer, Ekpedeme King, said he was not sure that the CG was issued a query. “I don’t think so. If he was issued a query, he would have shown it to me,” he said over the telephone. The Press Secretary to the minister, Osaigbovo Ehisienmen, said he would check the files and get back to our correspondent, but when contacted again, he said, “I have no authority to check the minister’s files; I don’t think there was anything like that (query).”

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Jaymima:
Eleyin gidigan!

how are u doing my christain sister? Guess u r a witness

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Don't just jump into marriage with an empty head about matrimony, you will have problems. How many men can tolerate their wives nagging let alone shouting? It's said that, you should be quiet when your spouse is angry, when one person is fire, the other person should be water... Brothers, when your wife steps on your feet intentionally or mistakenly, don't let your eyes turn red, just smile at her, if she did it intentionally, she is just playing with you, if she did it mistakenly, its not her fault. So why shout at her over every small mistake? As a man learn to ignore some things, don't be petty. Some men are feminist; Do "hide and seek" with your wife, sing poems for your wife in the garden or inside the house, even if she is teasing you. Assist her in the house chores, pound yam, fetch water, don't make her look like your maid. Bathe together, wake her up for prayers, swim with her if it's available, cook together, teach her how to cook if she doesn't know how to cook. 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