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Ignorance.

Dear Gentlemen, Every woman deserves a man who will proudly praise her in front of other women and anyone else.

Dear Ladies, Never put up with a man who constantly puts you down or has the audacity to disrespect you. Can I get an AMEN?

I don't like football.

iwakolewa:
And they look so good together.

Very true.

Beautiful!!!! Its just dat many of us have this insatiable desire for love or healthy relationships; yet, some people are not willing to make d sacrifices necessary for a healthy relationship.

I wish them nothing but d best...

scobaba:
I'm currently in Milan Italy for a training(job related). All the while I had been getting along with all my colleagues from other countries around the world.

On wednesday, I got called out while in the middle of a group work presentation.
The lady 'politely' announced to the whole class I had to be excused for a few minutes for 'ebola awareness'.

By the time I came back to class 20minutes later....i had no friend again.

I later complained to the training organisers and the lady came back next day to explain to the class, it was nothing serious, just a little. Chit chat required with all 'ebola countries' participants, but for wier, the harm had already been done.....everybody avoided me, except the Angola and Ghana participants.

The Ebola stigma for Nigeria, is still very much out there.

Sorry about that. We should fight it elsewhere to decrease the likelihood of needing to fight it here. African lives are every bit as valuable as lives in America, Italy or anywhere else.

Ok.

I think so.... However, nothing is as painful as staying stuck somewhere you don't belong.

At age 20 - 25yrs, they will be screening guys to date as if it's MTN project fame, and by the time they are more than 28yrs, they will start searching for guys as if it's Gulder Ultimate Search.
MOST of this ladies will be killing themselves trying to wear expensive weeve-ons, when they all know that most of the guys out there don't even know the difference between a Brazilian hair and darling yaki..!!!

LADIES,
No man ever wants a 'crazy' wife! It is only guys who want a 'crazy' girlfriend, so don't be deceived.,

A guy who wants you to party hard every weekend, expose your bosoms, wear skimpy clothes, loud make ups and get down with 11 bottles of beer while he is on 3 will NEVER marry you!

A guy who wants sex everywhere with you when he is not yet married to you will see you as a Love-peddler when the time for marriage eventually comes...
Have you ever wondered why most of these crazy guys go for the 'timid' and 'local' looking girls when it comes to marriage but dump the sexy, sassy and gorgeous looking ones .....
I'm not saying that looking good is bad, in fact looking good is good business, but you have got to look beyond that and pay more attention to things that keep a home
If you truly want to attract a decent man, please be decent yourself and do not let any man use you to pass time!

#‎BE_WISE‬#

Nice piece, However, after going through it, it brings me to several questions we ought to ask ourselves ever so often: Why should I get married? How will marriage change me? Does being married change the public's perception of me? You know, all the
usual questions.

tosingcfr: Nice one. Hopefully, love would find me too one of these days

Amen to that. Not just love but "True Love"..... Very rear though.

What a beautiful story with an outstanding lesson to be learned. This write up is nothing but the real secret of peaceful and happy union, be it in the family, work place, market, school etc. I love this so much "what you give is what you get". I wish everyone will read this especially the potential wives to be.

Nice read... Thoughtful. Its very TRUE that "A lot of people are in love with the picture of marriage" especially the female folks. Most of them just want to get married for the sake of it.... Just to wear the ring. Its much more than that.

True that. Thoughtful of you.....

I have a question to ask every grown men & women on this platform and I hope to see some powerful replies.. So, tell me..

QUESTION, how possible is it that one will date for a whole year, spending ' quality ' time with that person, even having plans for the future with that person, then wake up one morning and say " I don't love you, I never did, I don't think I can " Now, tell me.. What happened for the past 12 months? Was it LOVE or LUST ? Or was it LONLINESS that kicked in disguising as LOVE?

#‎confused ‬

CHEMICAL TERRORISM - Patrick Sawyer was under surveillance in Liberia for Ebola-Liberian govt said he escaped quarantine and sneaked into Nigeria-CCTV footage at Liberian airport showed him avoiding contact with people and at a point lying prostrate on the floor looking like he was in deep pain-His sister with whom he had contact died of Ebola that he was aware of-When he arrived Nigeria he didn't avoid contact with people rather he allowed airport staff to carry him-At the hospital in Lagos he allowed medical personnel to treat him just as they would any normal patient-When asked if he came in contact with an Ebola victim at the point he started showing symptoms his answer was negative-When test confirmed the obvious and he was confronted with the truth, he reacted in a violent manner urinating on the medical staff, at least one of them-Sawyer who was enroute to Calabar was insistent on continuing his journey despite his condition-Liberian govt has apologised to Nigeria for exporting Ebola to Nigeria-Nigerian govt has approached US for the ZMAPP test drug they used on 2 American health workers who contracted the virus in Sierra Leone-Obama said its too early to bring the drug to Africa, that what Africa needs is improved health facilities, yet with all their improved health facilities they chose ZMAPP for their own-A vaccine for Ebola is underway we are told and will be ready latest July next year-The vaccine will 1st be administered in Africa, how generous and selfless they are with the vaccine but not the curative drug-Is somebody thinking at all? -Dont forget Sawyer was a Liberian American with his family resident in America-If people in high places could volunteer themselves as suicide bombers in countries like Afghanistan, Iraq, Pakistan etc, do you think they can't volunteer for chemical terrorism suicide mission?-The conventional terrorism exported to Africa and heavily funded by them to destabilize our economy and depopulate us seem no longer enough-God is watching but we too have to watch our backs-Should we trust them with their so called vaccine when it comes?-Africa, its time to start thinking, time to start asking questions-We have lived with monkeys, chimpanzees, gorillas, wild animals that have always been part of our delicacies and never had ebola-Why now and why always Africa. HIV/AIDS in Africa 1st likewise ebola? JUST THINKING ALOUD.

Girl : it is nice meeting a man like you on facebook, i only thought that facebook are full of kids

Man : (laughs ) dearie, no facebook is cool and fun, its for everyone.. So, i will like to know and know you better and further.

Girl : oh,yea.. Am blessing as you know already, am calm and friendly.. You will get to know with time as we keep communicating.

Man : great, am a patient man. I will flow with that.. So, are we friends now? I want us to be best of friends. If you want same.. Telling each other things and bonding up.. Lol.

Girl : (laughs ) you are funny. Well, as what am feeling, I can tell we'll be best of friends

WEEKS LATER

Girl : helo dear. Can you help me with something? I really need your help pls

Man :Yes dear, what's wrong? Talk to me

Girl : i need you to help me with some money, am having issues with my parents and my apartment in school.. Pls help me out

Man : ok, send me your acct. No.

MONEY SENT AND RECIEVED

Girl : woooooow, thanks so much, you are truly my bestie. #‎wink‬

Man : no, don't mention, what are friends for.... Anything you want within my reach, just tell me..

Girl (chuckles ) awwwww... You are rare, i like you..

Man :i like you too, just keep being a good girl

MONTHS LATER

MAN : hello bestfriend, can you pay me a visit this weekend, want to meet you. It will be fun..

Girl : (seen at 3:09pm )
Girl: delete chat
Girl: block contact
Girl: de'activate whatsapp
Girl: block on facebook
Girl: removes sim card & destroy

THE END

Not so crazy in love? Beyonce and Jay Z have been avoiding one another on tour amidst reports their marriage is in trouble, sources tell Us Weekly.
Beyonce and Jay Z may look cozy on stage, but in private, the two have continued to spend time apart amidst reports that their marriage is in trouble, multiple sources reveal in the new issue of Us Weekly.
"They stayed separately in both New York and L.A. for several nights," an insider close to the rapper, 44, tells Us of how Jay and Bey have been avoiding each other during their joint On the Run tour. 

Even more telling, a real-estate insider says the "Single Ladies" songstress, 32, has been touring apartments solo in NYC's Chelsea neighborhood. "There was no Jay Z in sight," the source tells Us.

Despite continuing to show their love on stage—the parents to Blue Ivy shared a kiss on Aug. 3 during their show at L.A.'s Rose Bowl—sources predict the duo will announce they're splitting after the tour wraps Sept. 13. 

However, another source close to the couple—who married in 2008—is adamant that "they are happy."

"They have issues, like every other couple," the Beyonce pal insists.

jhydebaba: OP, I don't need a soothsayer to tell me u are single and just sulking
Keep hopes alive, someday, u'll be coupled

Don't be caught up with the fallacy of making hasty conclusions. To be precise, am in a committed relationship. I actually posted this stuff based on what a close friend is going through at this present time. Why using someone & loving them for fun? Why making someone raise their hope in you & plan their future with you yet you are not to stay with them forever? Why doing things that you well know that will hurt someone’s feelings and even break their heart? Why blinding someone with your sugar coated love? Why doing stupid things that won’t strengthen your relationship? What will you gain at the end of it all? Is it the good sex, money, luxurious earthly things, what? Seriously, why dividing the love you have for someone that sacrifices a lot for you? A whole lot of questions begging for answers!!!!

Not everyone that you see in a relationship is happy and comfortable
Some are happy, Some are fulfilled..
But do you know that Many are in pain
They’re stressed, ever in regrets, tears, torture. They have sleepless nights,
They are lonely and others are not contented at all. Therefore, take your time in choosing the right person to spend your life with. Don’t rush because being single is not a curse. Keep praying to GOD to help you in finding the right person. Put all the right attitude in place. Do away with all the bad attitude. Take care of yourself and always smell good.

Being SINGLE is better than being in a wrong relationship.
#‎Smiles‬#

Have you prayerfully considered these characteristics when choosing a potential marriage partner?
it wasn’t difficult to draft this list. These are the women I tell my spiritual cronies to avoid:

1. THE UNBELIEVER - In my previous column, I reminded women that the Bible is absolutely clear on this point: Christians should not marry unbelievers. Second Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). Apart from your decision to follow Christ, marriage is the single most important decision you will ever make. Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. You need a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves you. Put spiritual maturity at the top of your list of qualities you want in a wife.

2. THE MATERIAL GIRL - One young friend of mine was engaged to a girl from a rich family. He saved up money for months to buy a ring, but when he proposed she told him he needed to go back to the jewelry store to buy a bigger diamond. She pushed her fiance to go into debt for a ring that fit her expectations. She wanted a Tiffany’s lifestyle on his Wal-Mart budget. I warned my friend that he was stepping into serious trouble. Unless you want to live in debt for the rest of your life, do not marry a girl who has dollar signs in her eyes and eight credit cards in her Gucci purse.

3. THE DIVA - Some macho guys like to throw their weight around and pretend they are superior to women. Divas are the female version of this nightmare. They think the world revolves around them, and they don’t think twice about hurting somebody else to prove their point. Their words are harsh and their finger-snapping demands are unreasonable. Some of these women might end up in leadership positions at church, but don’t be fooled by their super-spiritual talk. Real leaders are humble. If you don’t see Christlike humility in the woman you are dating, back away from her and keep looking.

4. THE DELILAH - Remember Samson? He was anointed by God with superhuman strength, but he lost his power when a seductive woman figured out his secret and gave her man the world’s most famous haircut. Like Delilah, a woman who hasn’t yielded her sexuality to God will blind you with her charms, break your heart and snip your anointing off. If the “Christian” woman you met at church dresses provocatively, flirts with other guys, posts sexually inappropriate comments on Facebook or tells you she’s OK with sex before marriage, get out of that relationship before she traps you.

5. THE CONTENTIOUS WOMAN - A young man told me recently that he dated a girl who had serious resentment in her heart because of past hurts. A friend of mine told me "Before I would propose, I told my fiancee she had to deal with this,” he explained. “It would have been a deal-breaker, but there was a powerful breakthrough and now they are engaged.” This guy realized that unresolved bitterness can ruin a marriage. Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” If the woman you are dating is seething with anger and unforgiveness, your life together will be ruined by arguing, door-slamming and endless drama. Insist that she get prayer and counseling.

6. THE CONTROLLER ÷ Marriage is a 50/50 partnership, and the only way it works is when both husband and wife practice mutual submission according to Ephesians 5:21. Just as some guys think they can run a marriage like a dictatorship, some women try to manipulate decisions to get their way. This is why premarital counseling is so important! You don’t want to wait until you’ve been married for two weeks to find out that your wife doesn’t trust you and wants to call all the shots.

7. THE MAMA'S GIRL - It’s normal for a new wife to call her mom regularly for advice and support. It is not normal for her to talk to her mother five times a day about every detail of her marriage, including her sex life. That’s weird. Yet I have counseled guys whose wives allowed their mothers (or fathers) total control of their marriages. Genesis 2:24 says a man is to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. Parents should stay in the background of their children’s marriages. If your girlfriend hasn’t cut the apron strings, proceed with caution.

8. THE ADDICT - So many people in the church today have not been properly discipled. Many still struggle with various types of addictions—to alcohol, illegal drugs, prescription medicines or Indecency—either because we don’t confront these sins from the pulpit or we don’t offer enough compassionate support to strugglers. Jesus can completely set a person free from these habits, but you don’t want to wait until you’re married to find out your wife isn’t sober. You may still be called to be married, but it is not wise to tie the knot until your girlfriend faces her issues head-on.

Your best rule to follow in choosing a wife is found in Proverbs 31:30: “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Look past the outward qualities that the world says are important, and look at the heart.

To get the other side of this story, read my last week column "10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry."

Have you prayerfully considered these characteristics when choosing a potential marriage partner?
it wasn’t difficult to draft this list. These are the women I tell my spiritual cronies to avoid:

1. THE UNBELIEVER - In my previous column, I reminded women that the Bible is absolutely clear on this point: Christians should not marry unbelievers. Second Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be bound together with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (NASB). Apart from your decision to follow Christ, marriage is the single most important decision you will ever make. Don’t blow it by ignoring the obvious. You need a wife who loves Jesus more than she loves you. Put spiritual maturity at the top of your list of qualities you want in a wife.

2. THE MATERIAL GIRL - One young friend of mine was engaged to a girl from a rich family. He saved up money for months to buy a ring, but when he proposed she told him he needed to go back to the jewelry store to buy a bigger diamond. She pushed her fiance to go into debt for a ring that fit her expectations. She wanted a Tiffany’s lifestyle on his Wal-Mart budget. I warned my friend that he was stepping into serious trouble. Unless you want to live in debt for the rest of your life, do not marry a girl who has dollar signs in her eyes and eight credit cards in her Gucci purse.

3. THE DIVA - Some macho guys like to throw their weight around and pretend they are superior to women. Divas are the female version of this nightmare. They think the world revolves around them, and they don’t think twice about hurting somebody else to prove their point. Their words are harsh and their finger-snapping demands are unreasonable. Some of these women might end up in leadership positions at church, but don’t be fooled by their super-spiritual talk. Real leaders are humble. If you don’t see Christlike humility in the woman you are dating, back away from her and keep looking.

4. THE DELILAH - Remember Samson? He was anointed by God with superhuman strength, but he lost his power when a seductive woman figured out his secret and gave her man the world’s most famous haircut. Like Delilah, a woman who hasn’t yielded her sexuality to God will blind you with her charms, break your heart and snip your anointing off. If the “Christian” woman you met at church dresses provocatively, flirts with other guys, posts sexually inappropriate comments on Facebook or tells you she’s OK with sex before marriage, get out of that relationship before she traps you.

5. THE CONTENTIOUS WOMAN - A young man told me recently that he dated a girl who had serious resentment in her heart because of past hurts. A friend of mine told me "Before I would propose, I told my fiancee she had to deal with this,” he explained. “It would have been a deal-breaker, but there was a powerful breakthrough and now they are engaged.” This guy realized that unresolved bitterness can ruin a marriage. Proverbs 21:9 says, “It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in a house shared with a contentious woman.” If the woman you are dating is seething with anger and unforgiveness, your life together will be ruined by arguing, door-slamming and endless drama. Insist that she get prayer and counseling.

6. THE CONTROLLER ÷ Marriage is a 50/50 partnership, and the only way it works is when both husband and wife practice mutual submission according to Ephesians 5:21. Just as some guys think they can run a marriage like a dictatorship, some women try to manipulate decisions to get their way. This is why premarital counseling is so important! You don’t want to wait until you’ve been married for two weeks to find out that your wife doesn’t trust you and wants to call all the shots.

7. THE MAMA'S GIRL - It’s normal for a new wife to call her mom regularly for advice and support. It is not normal for her to talk to her mother five times a day about every detail of her marriage, including her sex life. That’s weird. Yet I have counseled guys whose wives allowed their mothers (or fathers) total control of their marriages. Genesis 2:24 says a man is to leave his parents and cleave to his wife. Parents should stay in the background of their children’s marriages. If your girlfriend hasn’t cut the apron strings, proceed with caution.

8. THE ADDICT - So many people in the church today have not been properly discipled. Many still struggle with various types of addictions—to alcohol, illegal drugs, prescription medicines or pornography—either because we don’t confront these sins from the pulpit or we don’t offer enough compassionate support to strugglers. Jesus can completely set a person free from these habits, but you don’t want to wait until you’re married to find out your wife isn’t sober. You may still be called to be married, but it is not wise to tie the knot until your girlfriend faces her issues head-on.

Your best rule to follow in choosing a wife is found in Proverbs 31:30: “Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.” Look past the outward qualities that the world says are important, and look at the heart.

To get the other side of this story, read my last week column "10 Men Christian Women Should Never Marry."

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