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dakmanzero:
My apologies. I won't edit my post, however,  If it was in real life there would be no taking that statement back. Also let it be on record that a person belittling the suffering of a sickle cell patient caused an emotional outburst from me.

The feeling of rage you inspired in me had NOTHING to do with the fact that you are a woman. A man who beats women is an animal, but rage is natural. You can't say a man who feels angry at a woman is an animal any more than you can say a man that feels hot is a furnace- I said i would be fighting for my LIFE against it. What I would have done in real life would be to get up, walk out and refuse to see your face for the rest of the day because I would *definitely* feel that strong.

If you felt I was trying to scare you you are missing the point ENTIRELY.

Now, I apologise for the  outburst but NOT FOR MY POSITION. You HAVE to understand that what you said is far worse than careless- it is wicked. Sicklers are doomed to a painful death, one that I have witnessed twice and they spend their entire lives living in its approaching shadow. How dare you compare that to a headache? If you are a decent person at all you *will* apologise. Not to me, because I am not a sickler. I'm not holding my breath for that, anyway.




@davidylan

Letting my anger out like that was ill-advised. But freedom has limits that do not extend into the realm of evil, malice and wickedness. If she is free to be wicked then so are armed robbers and thieves. The only excuse would be ignorance but even that is invalid if she does not acknowledge it with an apology. And like I said earlier, not to me. I'm not the one that has to treat every year past 21 like its living on borrowed time.

You keep talking about the pain the ss child feels. Why not emphasise the power available for them to be pain free. What about the several possible pains that comes from sicknesses you have no control over. What if you are struck with cancer? Who will you blame? What will you do? Maybe soon we ll be told that only if AA and AA gets married that there ll be no chance for cancer. Again if traffic experts in lagos tells you the chance of surviving road accidents on our roads you ll be shocked. Does that mean you wont live for work? Death lives with us, pain surrounds us, yet we make faith choices to go ahead with our lives. SS is an issue that should never be a determinant of who we choose to marry.

Hmmmn! Having read through all the comments, i feel really troubled for our world. Man naturally likes to live and thread paths that offers no challenge or suggests impending danger. The first question we need to answer is : Why should people marry? Whats the primary purpose of marriage? If this is well understood then one will be armed will the right approach to the genotype issue. Something still surprises me. We encourage the guy above to have faith for another partner yet we dont think it makes sense to have faith to give birth to as or aa. Faith is not "wishing". Faith is a knowing that the outcome will be good. Notice i said "knowing". Now marriage is filled with many unkown challenges. E.g lack of child birth, autism, cerebal palsy, paralysis, sickle cell, cancer, etc. People who encountered any of these challenges never desired it but were eventually forced to live with it. Now isnt it wisdom to set our hearts in positions where we are strong to face any challenge ahead because they will surely come. The point isnt seeking what we term "appropriate conditions for marriage" rather we should have two folkd who see marriage as an opportunity to show our love triumphs over life challenges and difficulties. Our many comments only makes SS folks now living appear hopeless and worthless. Being SS isnt fatal. Its only a call for the individual to reach out to the superior spirit within and live out that victory. Remember when jesus was asked about the man born blind, saying whos at fault. Jesus said no one was to be blamed, but that the situation was there for Gods glory to be manifest. See, we can only enjoy life if we live it by faith. We were created to be driven by the unseen. Today you refuse to apply faith to genotyoe issues. But if in future you are struck with cancer you will then seek faith as the only hope. Be faithfilled folks.