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Ivynwa: How are you girl? Have tried to pm/mail you but not succeeding. Hope you are doing fine?

sexkillz: [color=#000030]Lol. After the ooohing and the aaahing and the oh my goding, things fall apart. Chei

You can't stop the feeling. That's what you get for violating another woman's property. There is always a price to pay. Sorry. [/color]

djeezy: @op, do you want the man to divorce his wife and marry you or do you want to stop being jealous? If its the later, then here's what I got for you. First, you have to relocate to a locus where you won't see them. Second, you have to realise that what will be will be and what will not, will not be. Telling his wife about this might just blow things outta proportion and I don't think you'll also like the idea of being a second wife. To sum this up, I'll advice you to move on with your life untill the baby is born.

Kosigift: Am I seriously reading dis??
Ohh, just wen I thought I've read it all... Smh
And to think dat u aint even asking of how to get ur sorry self out of dis mess, makes me weep!

Pataki: Both the idle d1ck married men and the OP are guilty. She smacks of as being overly desperate for a relationship. Sounds like a despondent lady that needs to air her frustration online.

femishosho@gmai:
i know how you feel as i am going through my pregnancy alone as the father does not want to know, but we were not married so the circumstances are different , he should be really happy for you two.
even though my babies fathers says he does not want to be involved, since he said that, comes around sometimes and communicates via phone which is comforting to know not all communications are lost . but i do not depend on him or have any emotional reliance so i know if he still has a stubborn attitude and cowards out of his responsibility when the birth arrives i am strong and independent enough to cope alone . maybe you should not leave him but have an attitude ,where your prepared emotionally if he still acts this way towards you and the baby later on.

Smuthx: Your situation is totally different. Dont put in these context. you are not married why the op is married.

Guitarlife: HHHHHmmmmmmm!!!! okay lemme breathe first *inhales/exhales*
Okay these are the highlights of this post......
1. You started screwing this guy at six-furking-teen OMG!!! Pray tell, when did you loose your virginity ?
2. You don't have an education and are not planning on getting one soon.
3. You obviously have wealthy and responsible parents who would rather endure the agony of watching you roast in a bid to correct you and make your life better.
4. You don't think your parents are intelligent and caring enough to handle and manage a recalcitrant , pregnant-out-of-wedlock daughter.
5. You obviously have no atom of feeling, you are devilish, selfish and possesed. You screwed a woman's husband for for years while still walking their kids in the park for the same period huh ? I bet you met in church. I have that feeling.
6. You are daft to have forgotten so soon newtons law that says for every action there exists an equal and opposite reaction. The action here is denying a woman and her three children the joy of a loving and committed father and the reaction is the cold, lonely and deserted spell you are about to endure.
7. You obviously thought he was gon divorce his wife cos of your stinky pussy huh ? How the tables turn, you are no more than a piece of trash. Worth even less than a packet of used condoms to him. You are now to him a malignant and cancerous infestation ravaging his whole system. as we type, he is heavily brainstorming the best and most efficient way to quarantine and possibly decapitate you from his body.
8. You are sure to get a pittyparty from your fellow home breakers here on Nairaland. Your parents most likely don't cheat on themselves and have managed to raise a beautiful home which you have chosen not to follow in their path.
Whos is the bastard now,YOU or YOUR INNOCENT BABY?

*its okay to grab a tissue at this point cos I have not even started yet I'll be back after playing this stubborn piece by Mozart on my violin*

PrettyCindy: Op, you are one out of a thousand girls who have experienced this. Majority will abort the child and live with the guilt and consequences of whatever may go wrong in the process of the abortion. A few will decide to keep the pregnancy, nuture it and have the baby. The begining wont be easy i tell you. There will be lots of regrets and side talks but at the end, you will always be proud of yourself.

Should you decide to keep the baby, with your family and friends support and love, you will be alright. When i was pregnant and living in a state very far from my parents, my friends (all married ladies) were always there for me. I never felt lonely or had time to even think about the marriage or ex. And when i put to bed, it was in my family home. My parents, siblings, friends never gave me breathing space so there was no time or room to think about the situation with ex. My child is one year old now and its like ex never existed in the first place!

All i'm trying to say is that you can be pregnant with no boyfriend and still be happy. Efemena and debrief has said alot and you should listen to them.

Forget about the man and move on with your life.

Idowuogbo: d bolded sounds a lot better. jus teasing**

jokes aside, the person you allow get to you,conquers you...

Also....am sure u no one thing you can recycle is wasted time. MOVE ON! Its all about u and your baby's welfare,stop feeding him wiv your attention. ok?

Idowuogbo: ooops! one more thing mama, change ur thread title pls...

Idowuogbo: If d abuse continues, report him to the Police.

Idowuogbo: oh ok! well... me think u is immature and silly for posting his details.

wot wud posting his details do? change times or wot? gal.. get a grip!

u liv in d uk, dey are tons and tons of channels available to you if u truly want him to take up his responsibility.

do d right thing and stop letting ur emotions get d best of u.

debrief08: Poster, You and this man both live in the UK, why not go and report to welfare?
Why the internet war and naming him on a website? Use the right channels and please consider this baby and what is healthy for him / her.You need to stay healthy and calm, don't let anger or bitterness hurt you or your baby.
Do the right thing, get support and tell your family so they can help.
Best wishes dear

Idowuogbo: ewo! i sabi g guy o! efosa mamaki? d no 2 for bucci?

ileobatojo: Exactly. OP simply needs to do what's best for her coming baby. The wife finding out or not or his church reputation being ruined is not her problem.


I actually think the OP's problem is that she still wants to be with this guy. She has already decided to keep the baby, what is the remaining drama all about then? By the way, has this man been beating you?


*assuming this story is real*

Efemena_xy: Okay, let's take this slowly:



You're not in the jungle! And neither is he going to "kill" you!

How much worse can things get for you? You're pregnant (and alone, I daresay), for a married man.

What's happening here is, he's got you exactly where he want you to be. i.e: He's welding the fear factor over you. This is the classical example of a man who wants to eat his cake and have it. An older married man who ought to know better, playing around with a minor. As far as he's concerned, he doesn't want his wife to know what's been going on between you both for the past 4 years. That's why you think he'll kill you, so as to not meddle with his marriage.



Good. And they should. You shouldn't let him get away with it. Your friends and family have your best interests at heart. They aren't the enemy here.




And rightly so, if this like you say, has been going on for 4 years! You need to stop covering up for him. He's an adult who should bear the consequences of his actions.




That's not for you to worry about now. You need to focus on the present and the mess you've got yourself into.



What I'm going to say here is harsh, but you need to hear and learn from it. If you offer yourself on a plate to a man, you're more or less like a doormat screaming "Take me!", which is exactly what's happened. It takes a very disciplined man to say "NO". This guy is far from that and whatever you think he feels for you is certainly not love but lust.

Having a child on your own at such a young age changes your life, big time...and it's not going to be easy.

I still advocate whatever you choose to do, get your family involved to support you. You're going to need all the help you can get.

Best of luck, girl.