calcal:
1. who is your source in America that sent you a car?

It seems you are using the guy for your own satisfaction while you are waiting for the main.

The guy seems so reducdant in her life that at no point of her write up as she ever consider his opinion.. She's always telling him what she is doing or what is being done. Not like both of them are taking decisions together or sharing a plan. Obviously. You didnt seek his help at any point(not financial) maybe his choice of car, his colour. If he had a clearing agent, ask him on price, even if you have source. Sometimes it makes people feel a like team. Just imagine you working in an organisation, your boss just comes shares his plan, take his decision , shares is decisions with you guys. Im sure your motivation will be different compared to when you have a boss that comes, seek your opinion, communicate the goals and objective and allow you win atimes, give you a task and engage you. Makes you feel like an important part of decision making. Just be sincere like your write up.

skj1377:
Let me add this point. Am currently mentoring a girl not to accept her boyfriend of 7 years back. The guy will ghost her for no reason for half a year at times then come back and ask for forgiveness. She has forgiven him 5 times already this would be the sixth time.
Recently the guy has been calling and asking for a 6th chance.
In my opinion, go back to the marriage/ dating market but Avoid using your car till you have a serious man. Park the car and remove the battery head, the car will restrict your social contact probability and restrict you to only a class of people.
Once you have a serious man tell him you have whatever it is that you have.

Smiles.. Funny.. Bros even you need mentoring, you are misleading people's children..

babakb:


I don't understand you guys, so she should have listened to all the insults? The useless guy is just jealous of her success, if he really wanted to apologise to her he would have done it face to face.
Besides she has followed up with calls for 3 weeks and he is not responding, who is he, even GOD ALMIGHTY forgives let alone one useless leaching rat,
OP dump him and move on with your life.

Lol.. Jealous of her success?? C'mon. Even she mentioned the guy gave amoral support. That guy doesn't appear to me like an hater, he just have a little misconception about her personality which he might. Not be comfortable with. It will not be a crime to explain few things to the niqqa. Its a relationship and there are still knowing each others flaw. Cutting him off and waiting for him to call back then waiting one whole week.. C'mon.. Lets be fair. If he was your brother. Im sure its the same advise you'd give him. The op writeup is sincere and balance. She needs some truth not anyone taking sides.

babakb:


Look at how heartless people like you sound, do you know how hard it is to make money out there, the useless guy has been leaching on her for 4 good years yet she should keep quiet and listen to all his insults on phone, it's like you guys want OP to develop high BP or become a slave to that egocentric guy.

OP listen with your 2 ears, harden your heart and dump that bastard, take your mom and sister and cruise your car, focus on your hustle and the right guy will approach you, if you accept him back you will never be happy.

The guy wasn't an hungry lad, I'm sure she will have moved too. She might just be a nice lady that care, not like the guy depends on her too survive. But regardless of all the rant, which I think is wrong. Hanging up the phone on him wasn't right either.. The guy is man enuf not too have called her back or again. Based on your advise she shouldn't have called the niqqa back.. I love a man with integrity.. Never lose such a man, just settle scores with him that's if he still wants back. A lot of hungry lots will form loyalty just too drain you and get / milk you and still ghost... He's my man of the year tho

thebosstrevor1:
Insecured Men can not handle independent women.

He is financially not buoyant so he already feeling threatened.

If you are planning of marrying him, dont do it, you will regret it, his insecurities will make you go mad and might end up making the marriage filled with fights.

You don't want to be with a man that will accuse you of cheating, that will monitor your movements and accuse you of everything bad all because you have more money than him.

If he doesn't pick his call, ex him, go find for your levels.

Even after she mentioned there were both financially buoyant, trust the guy too isn't doing badly.. Sometimes some people read undertone when you speak, it might not be insecurities. Trust me. It will not just be the fact that she bought the car that will make baba ghost.. She said. "I ended the call" and still expected him too call back.. Who does that because "he should know you are hurt". Two wrongs don't make a right., hanging up on him was wrong, he yelling at you wasn't right either.. You waited a whole week for the niqqa too come running.. I like the sincerity in her write up but the guy wasn't totally wrong.

Keep improving yourself. Maybe add a skill too it , get certification like cipm,ican, etc. Then target advert without specification and most importantly. Leverage connection. Referrals and who you know that knows somebody in position then be on good integrity and open too learning.. Cheers

thebigkendo:
Na wa oh.. & i was here thinking corollas don't use to overheat

It was the drivers carelessness.. twas just the fan that wasn't working properly, the temperature was sure working but illiterate are the most difficult people to manage especially when you are not there. It was avoidable but the deed has been done anyways..

TRYGO:
@firstclass3030.
if you have such fears of your car not being OK afterwards, y not go ahead, and get another engine?

I have rebuilt a lot more engines, including 1zz, 2gr, 1mz, Honda pilots, v8 infinities, etc.
Those vehicles are still in service.



Regards,
Joseph

Can I get a cost please.

Thanks for your prompt response.

TRYGO:
I fill your pain dude!
1. its either the mechanic you had previously that worked on the head, via taking it to a machine shop, didn't complete the job, or the machine shop wasn't competent.

2. As long as you've started using an adapter for the spark plugs port, this suggests your piston rings are worn out.

3. Black oil in the radiator? What is the source of this oil? Can you investigate that?
Could you also kindly check the transmission system dipstick for any milky colour(suspension).
The black "oil" might be from your transmission system,.or the engine oil is already finding it's way onto the cooling system.

4. Sure you can overhaul that engine.
Just make sure you get someone competent to do the job.






Regards,
Joseph
DW Nig Ltd
08066643532
Isolo,
Lagos
www.dxta.com.ng

Thanks so much for your input sir and your concern. . I checked your website and found out your office can handle such.. can I get to know the price it will cost to overhaul the engine, it's a 1zz-fe engine 1.6ltr. Corolla bank model.. I'm in between selling it but the price offer have been ridiculousent or finding means to fix but my major fear is having an issue afterwards..

TPound:



The only fix requires is to fix the engine into the car

Obviously it's the best bet and safest. I'd work on these.. Thanks sir for your concern

Lexusgs430:



A totally better replacement engine....... That would offer you some form of warranty.....

Attempting to fix your old engine, is simply throwing good money at bad.............

Wow. . Thank you so much for the concern. I'd work on this. I felt so too

TPound:


Replace sir

It comes clean after wards sir?? Or still under uncertainty?? That's my major fear..

Lexusgs430:



Buy a better replacement engine............

Complete engine change you mean ?? Like those that make the car come clean or will still require more fix?? Sorry it's a first car owner

asamwababy:


Can you afford another engine now or sooner.

If yes, then replace engine.

I actually don't have that strength now.. hence my cry for help.. said it's ranging from 160-180k but the ringing seems feasible.. He said like 60-70k. I don't know.. I'm just confused

Hello gurus in the house
I had to register just to ask these questions
* my car had a very bad overheating lately, the mechanic claim too give the cylinder too a Turner. Did servicing , changed coils and plugs. It came good, fast forward one week now, I still notice black oil in the radiator after washing radiator after the overheating that burnt the cylinder then. The car jerked yesterday, the rewire guy noticed one plug was soaked. We changed it with adapter , came good but I notice is consumes more fuel. Fast forward this morning, just for me too start it and it's jerking. I'm almost feed up.. its a 04 corolla. Please I'm fustrated and fed. The guy suggested ringing of engine or overhaul. The mileage is like 160084.

I need urgent guidance please. I'm losing it. Thanks fam

Hello gurus in the house
I had to register just to ask these questions
* my car had a very bad overheating lately, the mechanic claim too give the cylinder too a Turner. Did servicing , changed coils and plugs. It came good, fast forward one week now, I still notice black oil in the radiator after washing radiator after the overheating that burnt the cylinder then. The car jerked yesterday, the rewire guy noticed one plug was soaked. We changed it with adapter , came good but I notice it consumes more fuel lately. Fast forward this morning, just for me too start it and it's jerking. I'm almost feed up.. its a 04 corolla. Please I'm fustrated and fed. The guy suggested ringing of engine or overhaul. The mileage is like 160084.

I need urgent guidance please. I'm losing it. Thanks fam