Eeerrmm, So talking about various Certification course is your "Intellectual discourse"..Loll...I expected more,with the high crime rate and political crises in the society,u shoulda preached on that rather than this ur certification thing. if u wanna know more on various certification Courses and the impact it has onvarious persons at their place of work and how it's being implemented, why don't u visit the "CAREER" section rather than asking such question in a "DATING AND MEET UP SECTION"...
Ohh, this is obviously your tactics in getting an intelligent lady..Loll..no be by like this ooo

GENTLETEE:
In all fairness the fault is not from UBA but from your client who I perceive to be fraudulent. Why is your client incommunicado if he doesn't know what he is up to? Get your client physically and your problem is solved!

Why is everyone pointing accusing fingers to the client instead of the Useless UBA that had the guts and audacity to debit him since a fraudlent case was reported without his permission..If the OP was really a fraudster why didn't they arrest him immediately he came to the bank..UBA will never change..From their poor customer service to their non-challant attitude towards their customers..

OP, Don't be surprised your client connived with some UBA staffs..
CALL YOUR LAWYER IMMEDIATELY!!

CACAWA:


very dumb comment.

OP, kindly take note tat your bank has the right to corporate with law enforcement agencies when financial fraud investigation is ongoing.

However, the only reason they can take back any money from your account and pay to someone else without your consent are as follows:

1. He never requested for a transaction.
2. You never sent him the good/service.
3. You sent him the good/service and he has returned it.

If the bank has any proofs of the above, tell them to send it to you. If you have proofs against the above, send it to them.

Mind you, you must meet a lawyer to write to the bank, giving them 7 working days to respond or face the law. The bank has no right seizing your money if they cannot prove the above and it is up to you to sue them and claim serious damages.

Only a fool will consider this a helpless situation. Ignore those people saying your client has scammed you. As long as the money entered your account, the bank scammed you by returning it to him without your permission or a proof that you were a fraudster.

GBAM!!

At desert safari with future bae!

Doesn't fit him..

its obvious UTI IS GETTING MARRIED SOON...WATCH OUT!!

Burger01:
People sharing personal photos on public forum like it's out of fashion. Una get mind sha

Congrats

Dem get serious mind oooooo..Hmmm

jabojafa:
my dear plz dont agree to date him on PITY. If u dnt feel him den is no need leading him on. To kill d frndshp, kill d communicatn btw u two. Its either u tell him outrightly wit words dt it wont work or with ur actions. Bt Op how tall are u sef whether i fit recommend?

Lol..I'm 5ft7..it's not really about the height...I don't like it when a man is slim and not tall...it makes the man look too petite and not manly.. if a man is slim and tall,then it's good..if he's a bit chubby and tall, then better for me .tnxx tho..

socrateez:
My candid advice is that you should not sentence yourself to a life of misery and regret.

If you don't have feelings for him, cut off the relationship.

It's important that couples have a sense of pride in each other and desire each other's company.
Visual pleasure, psychological and physical appeal are necessary ingredients to a happy home.

If you don't like the guy let him go.

tnxx for this..I think I have to act on this.
Thank God we still have matured and reasonable people on nairaland.
Tnxx once again

OMG

crackhaus:

You are a confused human being!

Why did you decide to date him in the first place if he didn't tick your criteria?
And you say you're old enough to have two kids...well, even some 16year olds are old enough to have two kids.

You're not serious.

Crackhead its obvious u didn't read my post before rushing to spew the cracks/screws in ur head here..let me make it bold so it can be visible enough for u to read.
I said I was with him hoping I will gradually develop feelings for him as time goes on, but the reverse has been the case .. Hope u get it now.
N:B I said Matured advice from ADULTS only..Since u had Zero contribution to make, u should have ignored my post instead of trying to embarass urself!

PresVA:
What attracted you to him in the first place? If they're stronger than the turn offs, then give him a chance. .. if not, quit the relationship. ...

Tnxx

Onegai:
Do you like talking to him? Have you guys gone on a date? If yes and you're not still feeling him, please let him know "hey you're a really nice guy but I'm not sure we are working out. Let's be friends". Once you say that, do NOT act like a chic who will date him if he keeps pursuing her (no accepting gifts from him, no calling him after 8pm. to have heart to heart convos, no constantly messaging him when he changes his dp). Because that behaviour will be read to him that he had a chance, so he should try harder when the reality is that you're stringing him along. So treat him like a regular dude (call randomly, feel free to ignore him, no accepting gifts or dates disguised as 'hanging out').

If you treat him as a friend and maybe change your mind, then let him know. If he's still into you, alrighty. If you still don't send him, at least you didn't waste him. time and give him false hope and you and he can find people who care.

tnxx..this is one of the most meaningful comment so far..Tnxx once again!

Richy4:
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OH!!!!! He is slim..................

MY God!!!! he is not tall Enough........

Jezzzzz!!!! The colour of his teeth......

Hmmm!!! I have to play long........

just look at this key points in your statement and tell me how this sound to you. how old are you 16? because it sound to me like a JS3 girl statement.

I suggest you wait a little while to grow up. you are not matured enough to handle a long term relationship for now.

Excuse me dude! What I desire in my man is not a big deal..Every individual have wat they desire from a spouse or how they want their spouse to be. YOU can't date or marry any female that comes ur way. Just the way u have ur spec,same way another person does..
For the records I'm old enough to even have 2 kids already..if u think my reasons are not cogent enough,then u don't know wat attraction and admiration mean in a relationship/marriage.

Cutehector:
Girl, I got this to say to u.


God allows people to come into our lives for a reason. From what I see, ur lists in a man are just vague and unimportant. I still think u r a young girl.

Good people neva last, the man u may be shooing away might turn out to be Godsent.

well, I'm not as young as u think, I'm old enough to be in a relationship and get married somedaym
Tnxx for ur contribution.

I met a guy through a friend of mine, he asked for a relationship, and I decided to give it a trial, hoping that I could have feelings for him and the relationship would work out.
As each day goes by, I don't feel anything for him cos of the following reasons:
1. He's Slim..I like chubby guys.
2. We're of the same height, I'm even alil bit taller.. I've always wished to have a man who's taller than myself.
3. Finally, I don't like the color of his teeth,Loll..This may sound funny, but its the truth.
I know some people might say I'm being picky, but I'm not cos its not too much to desire from the kinda man I wanna be with and hopefully settle down with.
This guy calls me often and chats me up..I play along by reciprocating the call sometimes.
I don't have feelings for this guy, I've been thinking my feelings for him will grow but it hasn't ..sometimes I feel like telling him the reasons I don't like him, but I decide to hold it back so I don't make him feel sad.
I've known him for just 2 weeks..Please wat can I do or how should I go about it??


Do I just come out straight and tell him it can't work out cos he's really having high hopes about everything...Or is it possible I love him eventually someday(which I'm not really sure of)
Please advice me! Matured advice from adults ONLY!!

Wat's up with Khloe kardasian's butts in ur write-up??

Jwhizzy:
Fleeky, office romance can be difficult to end amicably, seeing as you see each other everyday. You need to tell him you need time to figure out what's best for you and you'll appreciate if he can respect that. Once you get some breathing room, it's easier to think and build a firm resolve.
All in all, put you first and follow your heart.

Thanks..

internet:


Make a decision stand firm.
Avoid him.
if possible change jobs

Lol @the bolded, I wish it was that easy...

rawpadgin:
Some guys are so st.upid! from ur article the guy has done nothin wrong yet he's apologizing to u

just because ur instinct tells u he is a two-timer u want to breakup wit him

apparently, u are seeing someone else

#thesegirlsain'tloyal

He still communicates with a gal he claims they're no longer dating, a girl he was dating before he met me..I saw a picture of both of them out on a date in his phone..When I asked him about that, he said it was when I was always talking about breaking up that they went out.
I jst wanna break-up...I'M NOT SEEING ANYBODY AT THE MOMENT ..that's just my decision and I want the break-up to be for real.

I forgot to add this... Strictly matured advices from matured persons ..
My thread isn't a playground please

I've been breaking up with this particular guy several times but he keeps apologising and begging me to come back.But because i still have little feelings for him, I usually accept him back and we become cool again..
But the problem is that I don't trust him, my instincts tells me that he flirts with other girls, even though he denies it and convinces me to be cool. I'm fed up of everything, I want to break up completely and be firm with my decision because he keeps begging me whenever I say "Its over". I won't listen to his "Please and sorry or watever he has to say again"
My question is, How do I break-up completely with him because we work in the same office on the Island..Sincerely, my heart is fed up of everything, even though I still have little feelings for him but I believe I can handle it,cos with time, everything will fade. So How do I avoid him completely? I want to break-up, Please advice me on how to go about it

Lisaflex:
He said he'd call,ryt?Get on wt ur lyf...If hez interested in u,he'll call...If u go on 2 call him,u myt keep second guessing urslf (wondering if he really likes u or its jes u forcing fnz) + U myt seem desperate..... Sm ppl, esp d guys wld tell u 2 call n even ask him out n dt its not a big deal,wld even mk him lyk u more n bla bla bladi bla bla...Bliv me, these dudes wld say one fn here n in reality wld turn ryt round n do d opp

Hmmm..Thanks, I'll jst act on this ur advice.




Thanks all

I met a guy at an event today, he gave me his number and i sent my number to his phone via sms as he instructed me to do(I sent the sms while I was already on my way home), up till now he hasn't called, I'm kinda worried cos i like him already(my kind of person)..and the little we talked, he asked if I'll be available to hangout this weekend i said yeaa,he just said okay.I've been expecting his call, but he hasn't called yet. Could he be married? I didn't see any ring, even though I know some married men don't wear their rings..He didn't even look married. Well, I don't think he's married...
Can I call him? but I don't wanna look desperate(dats my fear). What should I do? Matured advice plss!

ogeoflyf:
Reason I have only one female friend ..

same here too..I have just one female friend..and I even prefer to be friends with guys..

@Op, Sorry about all what your friends made you go through...I can be your friend

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UnknownT:
[b]If you had gone, there wouldn't be any room for them to kiss,cuddle and even snap the acts. For advice? I believe the poster below me has an advice for you

@the bolded, that was exactly what he told me. Hmmm..

A guy I met invited me for his birthday but I refused to go because he told me chika is coming.(Chika is a girl he was dating before he met me ,but he claimed they had issues and he'll break up with her soon but he didn't want to jst call it quits with her. He said he was jst going to give her space and with time ,she'k get tired of calling and that will be the end).
So 2 days after the birthday, I saw him..I had already made up my mind to end everything cos I couldn't cope, we talked, I asked him how the birthday was, he was still pissed that I didn't come or wish him a happy birthday. I suspected a lot would have happened btw both of them, since I didn't come. Later I took his phone secretly n checked his pictures, I saw pictures of both of them kissing n cuddling on his bed, I was shocked cos he told me nothing of such happened. Immediately, I called it quits, he started begging, then he sent a break up msg to the girl, she replied the msg begging him not to end their relationship.
He says he has finally chosen me over her..but I'm still worried over the pics and everything..I'm having double minds(whether to quit the relationship or continue), but I still love him..
Pls what should I do? Matured advices...