skywalker240:
give it time baby, its just a month old. And most of us menfolks dont say i love u, we rather show it in our actions..but then i will advice u to give it a lil time and study ur beu and dont jus fall deeply inlove...and pls stop acting like the immature girl who is insecure.


Jus trynna help.

Ok...thanks

AnakinSkywalker:


Well,I am very realistic and pragmatic. I know realistically such behavior is from the following reasons.

1. Something triggered it
2. It is his game plan
3. It is just you being a little anxious

It is why I say first try to discuss the matter with him and ask him if anything is wrong. Not in an accusing manner.

If he says all his well, then keep being his girlfriend and play your part in making the relationship happy. It takes the two of you to make it work. One person alone cannot be said to be in a RELATIONSHIP. So do your part.

It could also be that you like him so much you are a trifle paranoid about loosing his company. Hence you notice and are anxious over his countenance and disposition.

Just talk it out so you do not come across as insensitive or not discerning and then go back to being the cool girlfriend that you are.

Thanks a lot, I really appreciate.

AnakinSkywalker:
One month is too short for some guys to be fully involved. Note that you don't necessarily have to sleep with him before he shows his interest in you.


I think you are still strangers and getting to know each other. What happened when you visited him? Was there any misunderstanding?

Probably his interest is not "love" for now and the accompanying fantasies that ladies (including yourself) would like to ascribe to it. Perhaps, he wants a girlfriend yet nothing too emotional or serious.

He shows no enthusiasm. It could be that you do not really excite him or that is just the way he is.

Look carefully at him and ask if he is the excitable type. If he is and he is hardly excited about you then you do have a cause for concern. The gut feeling is yours.

Why don't you try to raise it jokingly and peacefully with him and see his reaction? Note do not out rightly accuse him. Just let him know you love to be appreciated and you love to be found interesting.

His reaction/response/notion on the matter will tell you a lot afterwards.

there was no misunderstanding, he even dropped me at the bus stop,where I got a cab home..he likes to discuss about us and we flow well, he has been sounding serious..I dunno what to think..just surprised at the attitude this evening. Till now he hasn't replied my chat or called back,very strange. Hmmm

NiRfreak:
You don't need advice yet...chill...He's probably trying to gain control of the relationship as a real man......

Get busy......or form busy......the trend might reverse.

I'll get more busy and form busy..thanks

AceDomino:
Relax.
And if you start doubting him as early as these, you will surely break up in no time.
Patience.. that's the key

thanks

MRBrownJ:


the fact that you expect a man to say he loves you after 30days, regardless of that person r what happens in that r/ship, means you are clueless about love. i guess in your world, whether rain or shine, love must appear after 30 days, right? timed love indeed!

but hey, its been 30days, so i guess you love him right? care to tell us what you supposedly "love" about that stranger? or better yet, what do you really know about this stranger?

Hmmm

More advices

halfricanadian:


tank u

How are u na wats good

stop derailing my thread... is it soo difficult to comprehend

MRBrownJ:
i guess some women dont know the definition of BEING BUSY. i guess she doesnt believe that he could be doing something more important than her.

as for the NO i love after a months, i can only laugh in Chinese!!!!! this is the perfect example of a gal who has no idea what love is. dey there waiting!!!

hmmm...what do u mean by "I have no idea of what love is" ?

Lovebirds don't derail my thread..Kindly create your own thread and exit..Thanks!

It's unusual for him not to have replied my chat or returned the call for over 45mins

tomdfirst:
after dis post pls don't post anything here for the next 5 years..

Why?

Oma307:
For the fact that he missed ur call doesn't mean he is flexing with another woman he might probably be busy





just get ur mind relax and calm

Hmmm...OK, I swore never to suspect him cos all the times i spent with him he always sound very sincere and promising..
I'm just wondering why he hasn't told me "he loves me",dunno if its a childish thinking.

I have been dating this guy for almost a month now,he has not said "I love u" to me. I visited today,got home and called him to notify that i'm home,he missed the call,but called later and we spoke alittle,i saad i'll chat him up later, afyer about 30mins i chatted him up,he hasnt responded,i called twice cos i'm wondering wats happening,he didnt pick, i dont want to suapect him,but my naughty mind is wondering if he could be chilling with another gal,lol..I dunno if it's right to suspect him,as i'm already becoming uncomfortable.
I'm confused, please advice me on what to do.

Bunk3R:
Clone means intentional look alike. It's lyk sayin it's a fake iphone, it luks lyk iphone nd d user interface luks lyk ios but d specs r not dat of an iphone nd it probably runs an android wth ios skin

OK...thanks

Please what does the word "Cloned" means when you say IPhone 6 cloned...
What features does a cloned Iphone6s have... and what's the difference between iPhone 6 and iPhone 6 cloned...?

Bamz:


Fleeky,

I very much understand you but won't it be rash of this leads to a break up?

You're disappointed alright, this could be a one off event, and it would be very harsh judging from this.

In relationships, we make mistakes to grow. People will always offer ill advises on here. When your man returns discuss with him like I said. Don't assume because if you were in his shoes you'd not do what he did, don't assume anything. Be understanding. Let love shape you.

Hmmmm...Ok,thanks.

Bamz:
Fleeky,

This is a simple situation. I hope you won't complicate it.

Synopsis
You're mad because you feel he should've given you the money he budgeted for the wedding.

If you were in his shoes, would you do the same?

He didn't ask how far, and that's bad, when you're confronting him, this is the only argument you have.

For someone I love and I'm in a relationship with, I'll do it..what's the big deal? i don't expect him to give me all the money he wants to travel with,Never!..for instance,if I budgeted 10k for my trip, I can give 3k and say the person should just manage..I will want to make sure u smile once again...nothing is too small...
But in his own case,he didn't ask afterwards how I was faring,etc..I will keep saying it over and over again,a guy that truly and really loves a girl will do something,no matter how little..its not nice at all...I'm disappointed.. this can actually lead to a break up cos I don't ask...I'm not the asking type..
Thanks..

Bisjosh:
My dear forget all those insulting u.

If a guy is really into u(genuinely loves and cares for u), he would do things without u asking and vice versa.
Do u also buy him gifts?
You are not his priority that's why.

Now, when he arrives sit him down and talk to him about It. This is the time to know if you are his real deal or not.

Personally, cnt do that to someone I love.

Tnxx for the advice.. Buy gift for someone that has never bought me a gift,lol..I got him a card last X'mas and I didn't get anything.. I like sharing, I wanted to use that to introduce the method of buying gifts for each other.. but I guess it didn't work..ohh,he got me a cake for my birthday.. I'm loosing interest cos it's obvious I'm not his priority cos I believe a guy who really loves and cares won't see that as a big deal.
Thanks.

sexymoma:
This shouldn't be a case seriously
how were you coping before you met him..
abeg bone the guy joor... let him be convinced that you aren't after his cash
and Good for you... you are even working my sister comot mind jooor
Or are you thinking of cheating on him... cos i won't advice you to do that atleast from your words the guy isn't maltreating you.
i can only advice you to call him and tell him your mind, let him know you aren't happy with the way he did...

tnxx for this advice..But right now I'm not even in the mood of calling him..that's to show how I feel.I'm not even the type that asks a lot.
Hmmm, tnxx once again

KashyBaby:
At first, ladies shud never rely to their bf when it comes to money....once this is involved, things changed...same with the men.

U have to find ways to survive, girl and never ask ur bf again...anyway, always remember the ball is round..

I don't rely on him, moreover I work..I just asked for an assistance which I don't see as being bad.A guy should be able to assist his gal once in a while,it's not a big deal.
Well,Thanks.

I met a certain guy and we've been dating for some months now, on wednesday, he called me and i sounded moody and asked for him to help me with some cash cos i haven't been paid salary at work, he said he just sent some money to his brother that's ill in enugu and that he would have shared it if i told him earlier, then i said no problems.He said there's problem cos how will i cope, i said i don't know oo..the next day he told me he's traveling for his cousin's wedding, i said okay.
He didn't ask me about how i'm faring again and he didn't send me money but he has travelled to enugu now,on his way already..that means he had money..Is that not greed? i feel bitter and fed up with the relationship,it's not fair,i don't ask him for a favour, this is the 1st time i"m asking him for money,he gave me once for my hair which i didnt ask for and usually gives me tfare whenever i visit. Or was it because i said no problem,or wat??Even though, a caring guy is supposed to send me something or ask how far..he hasn't asked me how i'm coping and if i still need the money..he hasn't asked me anything concerning that.i don't think he's serious,he doesn't care about me..i feel he's self-centered.i want to confront him about it..What do you guys think and how should i go about it??
Please Advice me!

Congrats!!Let's Roll

Where is the remaining part of the crushed leg?
RIP!

Same here too ...its sooo difficult for me to ask a guy for cash.

benedictac:
Ask a guy either ur friend that's close to her or a family member now this is the game let guy take her to jewelry shop and ask her to help him choose a ring for a supposed girlfriend he wants to surprise. Now the babe helps in picking then the guy could buy it there or check the seize. With this u've killed 2 birds with 1 stone. You are not only buying her seize, u are also getting the one she loves. hope this helps sha.

Nor mind me too much of soap opera. But u will thank me later.

Beautiful idea..Op go with this

Penisinpenisout:


Looks normal to me ohh, whats wrong with it?

Loll,It's ur monicker, you obviously won't see anything wrong in it.

Penisinpenisout:
This is beyond stupi.d

@ ur monicker...Nothing wey person no go see for nairaland,Loll

This robbers can be very wicked and heartless..Therefore, I have no mercy for them..Good for them!

OK

Her chewing stick leg never ceases to amaze me! Lol

Cheap ride!