₦airaland Forum

elantraceey:
Why shouldn't i? It's not as if i'll put it in my status , just to make the person am chatting with aware that am going off soon.

i don't believe dis. Tell him u are going offline but chat later. Not my MB has finished. Because all social network i have used i see and receive such request.

abbey621:
Your example has nothing to do with this situation. She didn't just shag him like a street girl, they got married, families were involved so I see no relation to the situation you mentioned. The only mistake she made was to put her trust in a human being, something many of us do everyday.

Tired of arguing with you!

i said wealth was what she fell for. She saw her future being guaranteed. It is as if u don't know girls. A girl of 26 years can leave a 28 year old man who is still struggling and coming up to marry a 45 years old man who is established but a windower forgetting dat d man was once a struggling young man at his early age. Dis is greed simple

abbey621:
Your example has nothing to do with this situation. She didn't just shag him like a street girl, they got married, families were involved so I see no relation to the situation you mentioned. The only mistake she made was to put her trust in a human being, something many of us do everyday.

it is d same way dese girls put deir trust on dose guy. Is it not d way d man use mouth to tell her dat her has divorced dat dese guys do use deir mouth to sweet talk d girls too.? What u are not getting here is dat d wealth of man played a major role here. Look at d comparism she gave between where she lives and d first wife and d school her children goes to and d first wife. Is her children not going to school? Is she not accommodated? A husband with a living wife, what do u expected, u share he has simple

SleekyGee:
well in my own area in lagos we usually have light from 9pm-9am

it isn't fair oo

add up all d hours and multiply by d number of days u will may get d 225 hours OP is talking about

abbey621:
I don't know about you but the place I did I.T for a year was in another state, the people I worked with we had nothing in common and after a year we all went separate ways, keep in mind this was a place I worked for a year o not to talk of someone that did I.T for only a few weeks. You need to wake up and realize life is not all about theories. In addition, when it comes to matters of the heart most people don't have time to do all the detective work you mentioned above, we are humans and operate largely on emotions, abeg give the poor girl a break, she no be James Bond!

in my earlier post i told u marriage is not a four years course or part-time work of six months. Here where i stay, come and see all dese young boys and girls f**king demselves as if tomorrow will not come. Now after putting d girls in a family way u hardly see d boys again. At nite dese girls come out with babies striped to deir back begging under d cover of d nite. So we wel dey keep our pkekus for d rite time we no know wetin we dey do? Because i know say putting a girl in a family way is not one month journey. Tell me all dese girls i make mention of where dey daft dat dey couldn't find out about who was shaggy dem?

abbey621:
You are not being reasonable, so you expect her to go back to where she did I.T after a year and start asking questions about the man's personal life and you also expect people there to entertain such questions. This is reality not a soap opera, better wake up! The best form of evidence was the man's family and unfortunately it didn't workout, if Nigeria was a more civilized society, I would say she should do a background check on him but that option does not exists as we no get verifiable database.

so i should wake up rite. Going dere to ask is now soap opera. Good. Dere are people i have met in certain place i work or other things, i have phone numbers of some of dem and actually close to at least one person. Call, if d person has no information, let dat one link u to anoda person. At least confide in one what is happening. But u make it all secret u suffer alone. U cannt be smart let someone what is happening to u. Unless u want to b secretive and greedy about it

Walahi, akuew magana

abbey621:
Once again you need to read the story again. While she was doing I.T he was married, he didn't claim to be single till after a year later. Please read the story again!

i have read and digested d story. She did IT a year before d man came calling saying all d pooo. Are u telling me she doesnt know where she did her IT a year ago to ask questions. Or are u telling me if u graduate even after ten years ur employer can not reach out to ur former school to find out certain things about u. Dey can chose to believe d certificate u presented and dey can chose to go further Dan dat to find out behind ur back

abbey621:
Please try to think before you write, I know you are intelligent enough to know that not everybody is a Christian. Furthermore she did not date him while he was married, they met after one year and he told her that he was now single, he confided in her that he was having marital problems and his wife wanted a separation, so it is very believable, he even went thru the process of involving his family, so a normal woman has no reason to doubt. Please try not to criticize without first examining all the points!

what i know is she didnt investigate properly because her place of IT would have helped if he was truly single. I believe her boss wasn't her only friend wen she did her IT. So y didnt she ask questions. Dere is no how some workers will not know d current state of d man. Abegi na greed. If na guy wen no get much she go drill d guy with questions even ask d kind of soup d guy chop last

carefreewannabe:
God also hates people who judge others.

so d prophet dat told King David how he snatched his subordinate's wife(bathsabad), God will punish him rite. Or John the Baptist who told King Herod what he did by taking anoda man's wife is judging Herod rite and God will punish John the Baptist for saying it out. Is dat what u are saying

abbey621:
The bolded statement does not make sense to me. If you read the description well, the guy was married when they met and she only did her I.T there for a few weeks. You can't blame someone based on assumptions, like you said we were not there so anybody condemning her should keep quiet!

fine knowing dat he is married is enough to keep her distance. Is she a divorce'. So y going for divorcee. As a Christian, it is forbidden to marry a man or a woman whose partner is still alive. Can u see y marriages should be taken seriously. It is not four years course or part-time job

dondiggy:
And someone I know is threading this path. I tried talking to her to leave the married man alone, he has nothing to offer her on the long run (though the man is giving her money for upkeep sha) but she won't listen

once d money is coming she sees nothing wrong and d man dey chop her pkekus too.

abbey621:
Nairalanders will always amaze me. See useless responses, some even calling her greedy. Do you people read at all or are your brains clogged up due to the amount of pollution in Nigeria. I will not be so quick to condemn the poor woman based on a few things.

1: Nigeria operates in both the physical and spiritual realm. ( Who knows maybe the guy was told that in order for his wife to bear children for him, he must mate with another woman)

2: We all know how Nigerian bosses are. They get really close to their employees and sometimes take advantage of them easily.

3: If you developed a friendship with a guy and after a while he informed you that his situation has changed(often times thru a sad, pathetic format), you would feel pity for him. If you like the guy a little before, the likeness will multiply times 100 and feelings develop.

4: It is possible the guy's family were in on it, this makes it very believable!

My advice to any woman is to always insist on a court wedding. This way you can be rest assured of at least the possibility of a court settlement followed by a divorce. Also shey the woman no get family ni, if someone did this to my sis, na war o!

as much as we were not dere u inclusive. She did her IT dere. Do u know whether d Slot for IT was given as favour for marriage? Even with d status of d man? I once asked a girl out, do u know what she told me? Dat anyone dat guarantee her placement for IT she will date d person. I asked her several questions concerning her reasoning. She kept insisting on dat conditions. Now supposing i have such power to fix her up. What do think will be happening. U cannt defend d actions of girls sometimes because d way dey act keep u wondering

sholikay:
What soever you sow,thou shalt reap..dnt worry ma'am,karma wil come on them..

yes true. She is reaping hers now because she coverted anoda woman's husband but d man's harvest is also coming

Wendy80:
Yes oh. She has even stopped gisting me abt her relationship cos she can't stand d truth I tell her. How can a man be telling u I wanto divorce my wife so I can marry U and u believe him. And she'll even be asking him how far with d divorce thing now.. so disgusting.
I give up on some girls

eyaaa. Dats one of d blind girls wen make guys dey abuse girls. Even ur advice no change am. A dog dat is going to perish will never hear d whistle of d owner

Amjustme:
Dont knw y am nt even moved by dis. D guy was married, u went ahead to marry him nw ur ranting dat u didnt snatch sm1's husband? U tink d wife wld jst fold her hands n watch u steal her husband away frm her simply cos she no get children? Ur d wicked 1 my sister and dnt even bring GOD into dis cos na u HE go punish.
And to ladies, grow up jor! Get ur own man n stop settling for 'crumps'.
NEXT? rolling my eyes.

Abeg no vex say she shiit for church. She is asking for how to clean d pooo

byvan:
The Gold has dug her out.

female beings be contented and peace. Che!! What about dat single bobo wel dey toast u, u know fast forward he own but na anoda person owe u fast forward.

nebukadnezzari:
ONLY GOD KNOWS WHO SHE DUMPED AND SMASHED HIS HEART INTO A GAZILLION PIECES, MAKING HIM A MONSTER TO OTHER GIRLS. CRAP!!!

i always tell girls to trend softly because dis greed dey have can put dem into a poo

stagger:
"My God will judge them".

OP you are funny. Which God? Have you not read the bible where it clearly siad that God is not mocked? You had no qualms marrying a man you knew was previously married and by definition, not available for you while his wife was still alive. Now you call God to judge them. The man and his wife now have kids. They are the ones legally married. You are nowhere. Better take your life and keep moving. Don't bring God into this matter.

hmmm. True talk. We have people wel dey reason well well here.

byvan:
She had it coming, single ladies should wait for single men and stop lingering around married men hoping to become the next best thing in their lives . She wouldn't look twice if this man was broke, let her bear the consequences of her indiscretions. If you are going to marry a divorcee, get in touch with the ex and ask questions. Walk out of the mess if you are really tired .

thank u. U hit d nail on d head. If d man was broke and single, she won't look at him twice. She went for gold not minding if d man was properly divorce. She had single toaster but because dose ones were still struggling she went for already made. Well done oooo

MizMyColi:
I really wish ladies would learn from this story and steer clear off married men.

Whether they claim divorce or not, please keep your distance until you're able to put two and two together.

Unmarried ladies should limit contact with married men, it is not good for their image.

This is sad.
Those couples in the OP must have done a voodoo of sorts on the young lady. She became a willing pawn in their game

yeah. I suspect d same because once she takes in her partner also take in.....wondering

ireneony:
are you trying to tell me,you can't help a lady without asking for sex....
This attitude is so unbearable, abeg men make Una change.
Is not every lady that has the syndrome of maga-rism

it is because u are a lady. If u see excessive demand some girls put on guys dey call just friends not boyfriend ooo., u will understand y guys will want sex in return. It is easy to blame guys oooo. Until u are a man den will understand

Romanciella:
she lets u know wen shes menstrating

long time. Happy new year. Good D.P u no longer pout.

Romanciella:
she lets u know wen shes menstrating

long time. Happy new year. Good D.P u no longer pout.

fabulousmann:
yes when they first met women they were amazed n wondered am d physical body of a woman

now u are talking. Happy new year

fabulousmann:
yes when they first met women they were amazed n wondered am d physical body of a woman

now u are talking. Happy new year

fabulousmann:
the men brot the women considering their nature

no it should be d women. U believe men are move by sight

fabulousmann:
women are rom venus

both now met on earth. Who arrived first?

babyfun:
Not having sex with their wives for months to punish her
Another person starts yanshing wife and they start crying....

dis is d most deadly. Never u take sex as a punishment on ur spouse because d devil will be glad to use it in destroying d marriage. It is a temple u must not take to d dogs

nellaluv:
Men are such big babies, smh

yeah. Girls like big babies in d house before d small babies start coming

Very true. Married men take note. Wedding was a day thing, y spend so much energy dere and now behave childish in d real business of marriage.

dis one done begin run a mouth like Alhaji Labaran Maku..d governorship desperador

kenex4ever:
the husband is the brave one to me because he gambled with his life.
And he is also stupid, what is there in giving dem what dey want, that's how people put their lives in danger unnecessary and mind u, if they are in a gang other members would still come 2 hunt dat family in future.

we are awaiting d remaining gang dats if dey exist.

lazy men. to work na problem. even wen dem steal d money., jeweries and phones., na on top vagi..na dem go spend am.. dem thank God say no bi my area d thing happen. I for remove deir hands and cripple dem for life