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Romance / Re: Should I Marry Her Or Not...help A Confused Brother by fredopareto(m): 9:54pm On Jan 22
When d desire isnt available den d availability become d desire...infact d best marriage now a days is to marry someone u don't love..ajeh u no go feel any regret....I give u my word...
Family / Re: A Brief Recall of How My Wife Fed Me This Year, 2021. by fredopareto(m): 11:04am On Dec 25, 2021
Congrats bro..Good work from your wife (kudos) if at all..make u na remember dose wey no get ....nd for d rest of us wey we no see dis kind food chop..next year go better...one love keep us together
Nairaland / General / Re: My Special Season's Greetings For Everyone Here. by fredopareto(m): 2:30pm On Jul 27, 2021
Lynette2cute:


I've been trying so hard to reach you, mails keep bouncing back. I'm glad to hear from you.
pls i dont see any of ur mail.is it me fredopareto u send mail or hardmirror
Politics / Re: Sunday Igboho's House Attacked By Army, 7 Killed (Videos) by fredopareto(m): 2:00pm On Jul 01, 2021
Unknown French soldier... Everything about Nigeria now is 'UKNOWN'
Romance / Re: 10 Ways Women Behave When They Are Not Satisfied In Bed by fredopareto(m): 2:04pm On Jun 15, 2021
MejiLoyon:
Madam op just say ways you behave when you are not satisfied. For all these does not apply. Woman wey no go satisfy go still shout ooosh aaaasshh. So guys to avoid stories up your game. When E sure for you you have nothing to worry about. As for me even if them circumcise you we know the pin to the punna . No be lie. Try dey drink herbs. Jedi once in a while. My own na Orijin. Nack am well. When you enter sansiro take your time. Play guitar with the kpekus. Finger am well. Don't be in a hurry to insert Sim. If plate clean lick am. Chop am happily. When time reach insert Sim. Back the kpekus. No mercy for am. Speed up. Ram it like Poundo yam. By the time her eyes turn upside down everywhere go don burst. I swear she will never leave.

Small secret....if you nack a kpekus with all you have, even if she wants to leave if she remember your nacking water go runaway her eyes.
Note...no be borehole. Do your best and leave the rest make you no go faint. Cheers
guy dey no dey win trophies ooooo..i do my best and leave d rest...
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga) / Re: Manchester City Vs Manchester United (0 - 2) On 7th March 2021 by fredopareto(m): 7:47pm On Mar 07, 2021
kingjooo:
2-1 or 3-1 final score.Quote me after the game,city can never loose to united @ETIHAD
hopefully u bury ur shame .. bad Belle
Health / Re: Engineering Graduate Drowns In Delta River 3 Months After Completing NYSC by fredopareto(m): 1:19pm On Jan 29, 2021
TheStakeHolder:


hmmm. So sad. May his soul rest in peace...

My people... You see that silent still voice inside you telling you what to do and what not to do? That's your guardian angel. Please listen to that voice...

lipsrsealed
guy forget.. If time don reach to go.. It is only Jah dt can pervert it.make I bust ur head..a yahoo guy was told not to visit any place for 1 month bcus of sudden death..he obey and Neva go out ..on d 6th day mak my guy buy bread from aboki wey dey in front of his house..pammu.. Na him wahala start b4 u no it..aboki broda don carry daga shuk d guy..na so peter die ooo..and d aboki and d yahoo guy still play togeda till 11pm a day b4 d tragedy..weda he follow or not..die na die..he go still die dat day...and dem go still talk say ..assume he follow dem..he for not die..my God give us d grace to live a fulfil life and die at peace
Celebrities / Re: Pasuma Celebrates His Daughter, Wasilat, On Her Birthday (Photos) by fredopareto(m): 5:10pm On Jan 22, 2021
Baawaa:
Happy birthday to her,may God bless her new age.
But she fumbled to let that "agbaya" calls Wasiu Ayinde to mess her up,
Aiye Toto ooo..na ur eye e hapun..mind ur own bizness.
Celebrities / Re: Pasuma Celebrates His Daughter, Wasilat, On Her Birthday (Photos) by fredopareto(m): 5:10pm On Jan 22, 2021
Baawaa:
Happy birthday to her,may God bless her new age.
But she fumbled to let that "agbaya" calls Wasiu Ayinde to mess her up,
Aiye Toto ooo..ma ur eye e hapun..mind ur own bizness.
Family / Re: What Will You Do In A Marriage Like Mine? by fredopareto(m): 2:14pm On Jan 20, 2021
Vevejoy:
Plesse forget the errors and focus on the content.

So here's my issue.

I've been married for 6yrs and it's been a blissful journey- of course with minor issues here and there but nothing to worry about until May 5th 2020 when I'd say things turned upside down.

We live abroad and struggled to have kids but God finally blessed us with a beautiful daughter in Sept 2019. Child care being super expensive here, we wanted one of our moms to come help us with the baby when I return to work after my maternity leave. So on the eve of our wedding anniversary which was the 4th of May last year, I asked my husband for the say 10th time about beginning the procedure of bringing a mom over to help since I'll be returning to work. He asked which mom and I said in my exact words; "of course my mom" because I know that when a woman gives birth, her mom usually go to help her. Did that change our story? My God, marriage has been one hell of a thing since that day.

My husband said I am selfish, disrespectful, and want to dominate him. He said things will never be the same again and since then, my marriage has been a stress zone.

My husband is numb to my feelings. He's been ignoring me, I've been a nag I'll admit since tue incident last year. I now talk alot and mostly complain about everything whenever we are together. It's sad and I've actually had conversations with myself to ignore him and stop nagging but I continue to do it, I need help on how to shut up and observe.

I can cry from now to die kingdom come and this man wouldn't be moved. He cannot shift his stance because of me at all. He does whatever he likes and disregard everything I say. E.g before this crisis, we had an appointment to see our Dr to start trying for baby number two because the Dr's advised that since we just had a baby, it's best to try for another soonest given that we had challenges conceiving the first one. This man cancelled the appointment with our Dr and has blatantly refused to start trying for a baby right now. He says when the time comes he'll let me know. Up till now the time has not come despite the fact that delaying may impact our chance of conceiving again. What a life!� � �.

Also, he has decided that no parent will come and I'm back to work already. My poor baby who use to sleep till 9am now suffer in this winter getting up at 6am to be dropped off at daycare all because her father is angry and want to make sure he doesn't do anything that will make his wife smile. He'll rather spend thorns of money paying for daycare even after I've told him that I don't mind his mom coming. Mind u, I have a very good relationship with my inlaws, especially my mom inlaw so it's not an inlaw fight.

The worst of them all is that despite living abroad for 17yrs, this man believes so much in native doctors to the extend that I can't even explain. Infact it's something that I've always fought him about and talked against. I've even complained about it to his family. And guess what, when I talk against, he tells his native drs who of course has ignited the fire in our home. Can you believe that in this chaos this man took me on a vacation in August last year that he wanted to clear his mind so we can start a new chapter and be happy again only to tell me that I have been trying to use a charm on him in the past months thats why things got rough. He said the 3 women I am using appeared to him but he is stronger ����. I am laughing because I felt pity and ashamed for him. How can a grown man be this vulnerable to suitsayers? I have never in my entire life visited a native doctor for myself not to talk of going to take a charmI didn'tvisit the native drs when I was strugglingto have a baby and this man thinks I'llvisit one now to charm him. Wondering y he will even believe such a thing. Infact I don't even know any native doctor. So when he said that, I told him that if I had known that his change of attitude is because of this stupid reason, I would not have fought for my marriage like I did. Of course I got so mad and told him a piece of my mind. I am even ashamed of telling people that despite this man's exposure he consults native Dr's in Africa more than even the people in Africa. Infact if they say yes that's what he listens to. He has even paid a flight from here to Africa because a native Dr told him that his dad who raised him to be the man he is today is trying to kill him and he should come for protection.

I decided to tell his mom about the accusation. His mom told me she scolded at him and warned him never to say such nonsense. Well I just pity him and I'm praying for him. But truth is I regret my marriage to him because of these his believes. I just don't believe in divorce and don't even have the heart to move out I would have done so. Mind u, I am 100% independent so it's not an issue of being scared of surviving alone.

Well one Sunday night as usual I talked to him like crazy and he said "all he wants is for our relationship to work and he will put in his best effort with support from me. I said I want same and will put in my best effort with support from him too*. This happened around september and things have been like normal on and off since then.

I have a few worries which I'd like you to advise me on the way forward.
- My husband is heartless. No matter how I lament, cry, beg, approach him nicely. Infact no matter the manner in which I bring up an issue to him, he doesn't get moved at all. He stays on his stance and doesn't care. How am I suppose to live with a man like this. He goes mute when I try having a conversation with him.

- I have a weakness of talking alot which I acknowledge and I'm doing my best to work on it though I'm yet to change completely. But I can say there's a huge improvement. Infact I'm able to walk away now.

Can a marriage really work out out without a compromise from both parties? I feel like I am compromising alot but this man is doing whatever he likes. In all of these he doesn't cheat but has abused me physically 4times in our 6yrs of marriage which I'm still pained about. The worst abuse right now is emotional abuse and I've told him so several times.

We use to be an exemplary and happy couple up till this may 2020. What will you do in a situation like mine With? With a man like my husband who I'd say lacks empathy and a concience how do I deal with him? His mom said she talked to him but I don't see any difference.

I feel miserable right now in my marriage. Since I got married this is our hardest hit and unfortunately it got prolonged probably bc of his native Dr's who told him I am using a charm on him which he believed.


Help me out please
maka y..dis story don tey naw
Romance / Re: I Engaged My Girlfriend, Now I Am Thinking Of Calling Off The Engagement by fredopareto(m): 2:32am On Jan 16, 2021
I hate dis word..."She is one girl that every man will like to have as wife" ..nobody will Neva marry a double dated woman..so notin good abt her..except if she is good on bed

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Celebrities / Re: Blessing Egbe: No Need For DNA If We Marry As Virgins by fredopareto(m): 4:04pm On Jan 07, 2021
obembet:
I think the best we can do is to close our legs from all this wicked guys.. and if possible to keep our virginity, it will save us from all this mess.

But what about those that have already loss it?
super glue is available nd cheaper naw
Politics / Re: "Recipe For Poverty" - Reno Omokri Lists The Things That Can Make A Person Poor by fredopareto(m): 7:44pm On Dec 27, 2020
Righteousness2:


Nobody needs to put you under pressure!
But I Tell you look for a good ground to sow seeds.
It is Amazing..

I Have Emptied my account got GOD on various occasions..

I Have Experienced Good things for it.

You Cannot give bigger than GOD.

Do it joyfully not by compulsion
the truth of it is..God doesn't need ur money b4 him bless you.der4 d same money u sow.if a friend or family is need of it I trust u ..u no go Give or u give small and it written love is greatest of all..until we begin show love for each oda.Neva d less style na style if it work for u ..continue

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Food / Re: The Poor Meal Man Got In Ibadan N10k Per Night Hotel by fredopareto(m): 7:26pm On Dec 04, 2020
etrange:
Lol... 10k per night? Such cheap hotels really exist?
dey cope urself...we no ur type

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Politics / Re: Official Results Of Edo Governorship Election 2020 As Announced By INEC by fredopareto(m): 9:21am On Sep 20, 2020
Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright...
Oshiomhole, Kabaka, ize Iya mumu, captain hosa, tinubu and APC don't know what they have put their hand into
I told you all obaseki is gonna coast to victory... uhunwmode my local government of origin nor dey fuckkk up...as am typing now i dey my village....

Obaseki my real niggarrr

Ambode is a pussy asss niggarrr...with no balls...

If not for security reasons and police and SARS wahalar shebi i for disclose my location immediately i leave my village enter Benin city make we real niggarrrs for Nairaland meet in Benin city make we drink enough bottles and smoke enough weed

e go shock u
Nairaland / General / Re: My Special Season's Greetings For Everyone Here. by fredopareto(m): 9:18am On Sep 20, 2020
Lynette2cute:
Hardmirror, it's been a while since we communicated. Hope you're fine? Please reply once you see this mention.
Yap.. tanks very much.. Jah bless u
Family / Re: Could My Wife Be Cheating On Me? Advice Needed by fredopareto(m): 9:16am On Sep 20, 2020
dayleke:


Pls bro, which song be this and by who?
tuface ft rugged man
Politics / Re: Revolution Now August 5th Protest: Omoyele Sowore Gives Updates by fredopareto(m): 5:24pm On Aug 04, 2020
In fela voice
My people self they fear too much
We fear for the thing we no see
We fear for the air around us
We fear to fight for freedom
We fear to fight for liberty
We fear to fight for justice
We fear to fight for happiness
We always get reason to fear:
We no wan die
We no wan wound
We no wan quench
We no wan go
I get one child
Mama dey for house
Papa dey for house
I wan build house
I don build house
I no want quench
I want enjoy
I no wan go

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Religion / Re: Fifteen Basic Beliefs You Didn't Know About Jehovah's Witnesses by fredopareto(m): 5:17pm On Aug 04, 2020
Janosky:


Jesus Christ has risen to heaven. John 20:17

Revelations 3:5,12,21 , Jesus Christ himself CONFESSED that John 4:23,24. 17:3.
Acts 3:13. Isaiah 43:10-12 . 1 Corinthians 3:23 is the truth.

Compare John 14:28, John 20:17,30-31 and Revelations 3:5,12,21.
Is the spiritual realm Superior to the physical realm?

Therefore, Jesus utterances of Revelations 3:5,12 in the spiritual realm is solid EVIDENCES of his inferior status in heaven as well as earth.

Trinity GIBBERISH goes straight to the Sewage Tank grin
wat re u saying Naw..guy we no dey bible study
Religion / Re: Fifteen Basic Beliefs You Didn't Know About Jehovah's Witnesses by fredopareto(m): 1:14pm On Aug 02, 2020
Janosky:

Others worship triune deities.
JWs worship the one true God.
John 4:23,24. 17:3.
Jesus Christ is his servant.
Acts 3:13. Isaiah 43:10-12 . 1 Corinthians 3:23.
hmm..bt dsame Bible...it is well
Religion / Re: Fifteen Basic Beliefs You Didn't Know About Jehovah's Witnesses by fredopareto(m): 12:45pm On Aug 02, 2020
andycom:


1cor 13vs 8-10
Love never fails. But if there are gifts of prophecy, they will be done away with; if there are tongues, they will cease; if there is knowledge, it will be done away with. 9 For we have partial knowledge and we prophesy partially, 10 but when what is complete comes, what is partial will be done away with.


It made mention of "if" there are tongues, they will cease or stopped.

Then your 2nd question, it's of no use putting 2 unlike terms in a marriage. When you have different religious beliefs how do you think the marriage will work? And most importantly 1cor 7vs 39 encourages everyone to marry only in the lord.
so re we serving different God by ni
Religion / Re: Fifteen Basic Beliefs You Didn't Know About Jehovah's Witnesses by fredopareto(m): 11:04am On Aug 02, 2020
tunjijones:


I am not a JW member. But I always wonder why other Christians hate JW this bad.

Most of the Bible teaching I knw today was from my book of Bible story authored by JW.

I also read awake a lot cos is very educative. And they give you this awake and other literature free of charge and only ask you to donate voluntarily.

Can you imagine my friend went to buy this redeem church prayer book where the price is boldly written to be 1000 naira and they were selling it for 1200 naira. Inside the church Oooo. Not on the street or in a bookshop. It was right inside the church.
on dis u get right ...even der mode of service very simplicity and well sound and knowledgeable with bible teaching.. Bt my other question... Re we serving dsame God..
Religion / Re: Fifteen Basic Beliefs You Didn't Know About Jehovah's Witnesses by fredopareto(m): 11:04am On Aug 02, 2020
tunjijones:


I am not a JW member. But I always wonder why other Christians hate JW this bad.

Most of the Bible teaching I knw today was from my book of Bible story authored by JW.

I also read awake a lot cos is very educative. And they give you this awake and other literature free of charge and only ask you to donate voluntarily.

Can you imagine my friend went to buy this redeem church prayer book where the price is boldly written to be 1000 naira and they were selling it for 1200 naira. Inside the church Oooo. Not on the street or in a bookshop. It was right inside the church.
on dis u get right ...even der mode of service very simplicity and well sound and knowledge with bible teaching.. Bt my other question... Re we serving dsame God..

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Religion / Re: Fifteen Basic Beliefs You Didn't Know About Jehovah's Witnesses by fredopareto(m): 10:46am On Aug 02, 2020
tunjijones:


Do you even know what the Bible teach about speaking in tongues?

Do you think all this gibberish that pastors says all in the name if speaking in tongues is right.

The Bible teach that if you are speaking in tongue and there is no interpreter it's better to keep shut cos u are just mumbling rubbish cos no one understands u.

Any church I go and I see a pastor speak in tongues with a microphone, that will be the last day I go to that church.
u re right and wrong...bt dey don't allow it at all even in ur closet...what of teaching of d holy spirit nkot
Religion / Re: Fifteen Basic Beliefs You Didn't Know About Jehovah's Witnesses by fredopareto(m): 10:43am On Aug 02, 2020
andycom:


Answer 1 Corinthians chap 13 vs 8-10.
Pls read this and get back to me. Thanks
is talking about "love" bt my question isn't answer ...let me add dis to it..dey don't allow dere children's to marry other denominations?
Religion / Re: Fifteen Basic Beliefs You Didn't Know About Jehovah's Witnesses by fredopareto(m): 10:20am On Aug 02, 2020
Dey don't believe in holy spirit talkless of speaking in tongue?

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Crime / Re: My Funny Encounter With A Scammer (photos) by fredopareto(m): 1:11am On Jul 12, 2020
Me self I get one wey I wan fool..will b glad if u can teach me d fake alert soft...ajayi.alfred@gmail.com or perphap ur watsaap digit
Romance / Re: A Secret Only A Few Know. by fredopareto(m): 2:41pm On May 18, 2020
Add me
08061566744
Family / Re: Opinions Needed!!-closed by fredopareto(m): 2:03pm On Apr 29, 2020
God hate divorce BT der is difference btwn separation and divorce...
U re doing a great work..bt I want u to know culture re different and it has b so from d beginning (bible history) wat I wan u to do is to write on how relevant both re and give us more reason why we must look beyond dat..do research ooo

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Romance / Re: My Wife's Sister Wants Me To Sleep With Her. by fredopareto(m): 10:53pm On Apr 28, 2020
GodSaklek:


Cut wat?... Are u normal?

Why don't u try and cut Urs, you hypocrite
if dem say make u go school u refuse to go..see d result Naw..u carry my mata for head..guy ow market.....na proverb ooooo
Romance / Re: My Wife's Sister Wants Me To Sleep With Her. by fredopareto(m): 9:17pm On Apr 28, 2020
Law36.if your manhood will cause u to bleep ur sister wife cut it off it is beta u lose halve part of ur body Dan d whole body perish in d lake of tiganza(hell fire)

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