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[quote author=emusmith post=41695430]Good evening friends.

Here we come again, Oliviaarims and myself, Emusmith.

This collabo-thread focuses on exposing the Tight-Corners Ladies Put Guys through, Vice versa.

Being in a tight-corner with the opposite sex is being in a circumstance where you are "confused", not knowing what to do.

I'm from the Guy's Angle: Tight-Corner Situations Ladies Put Guys In.

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1. She expects him to ask her out over and over and over again before saying, "Yes".


Oh 21st Century ladies, be considerate! Those laws of yours are rather too much! Hian! A nice guy has just broken out of his own laws to approach you but you absurd rules drives him away. To some girls, a guy must ask them out for nothing less than a month. Does that portray him as serious? Nah, he might just be a player. Be flexible, young lady. When you set those 'standards', consider your age also. Let's be real, other girls are also bothering him. He leaves them because of you and you're forming, 'principled' and 'expensive'. Loosen up a little in 2016.


2. She makes him fall in love with her and then starts acting funny when he's trying to reciprocate.


Some chicks can be funny. After giving him a red light, he goes away and then all of a sudden, she starts caring rekindling old flames. Perhaps, he has erased all memories of her. This puts him in a fixed situation because he loves her. If you tell him, No, please leave him alone and go away. Don't ask him for anything. Don't commit him to your affairs. This is wicked! Some guys sef needs a strong heart.


3. She wakes up one morning and calls quit a marriage-bound relationship of years for just "no reason."

Young guy has planned his life with her only for her to wake one morning to call it quit. That's not cool. Where should he start from?


4. Comes to a date with her friends.

This is so childish, mehn! What if he didn't plan for that, what situation are you putting him?


5. Compels him get intimate and later deny he "forced himself" on her.

This happens as I learnt. Maybe, just a few but it does and it's precarious situation for a guy to be in. Yes, he didn't hold on to his guns but you should come as a protective cover and not an enemy.


6. Giving him the ultimatum of "Meet this need of mine or I'll break up with you"


Especially when she notices he loves her, she starts misbehaving and demanding unnecessarily. That's unfair. Is your love for sale? If it is, you're not fit to be called a 'Lady'.


7. Keeping mute and expecting him to read your mind after a quarrel you staged.

Not all guys are mind-readers. Don't be complicated by playing deaf on his honest questions. If you're mad, be simple and open up. Don't expect him to be a mind-reader overnight.


Understanding is the key to a smooth relationship. Every relationship thrives on it. Even before he officially asks you out, you could be observant and enough to know a thing or two about him. These days, some ladies just sit with their lazy self on their couch, consuming one love movie after the other; expecting a guy to lick their feet. To such ladies I say, It's possible if you believe. Keep believing!

#Passes the mic to oliviaarims#


Oliviaarims So true, Mr Smith.

I'll be speaking from the Ladies' Point of View.

Sometimes, in the process of getting to know that person for a potential relationship, we raise up the red flag without intending to do so. And this leaves the other party in a fix. Sometimes, it could mark the end of a relationship in potentiality.To avoid these, here are a number of things a guy unconsciously does which puts a girl in a tight-corner.

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1. You hardly Call, Text or Ping.

If you're looking at dating a girl, then these things are quite important if she's to take you seriously. It mustn't be an every day affair. Infact, if u guys aren't already very close, u shouldn't call everyday. But if you're still in the process of making her warm up to u and and to start considering u seriously, then u have to let her know she's on your mind. An occasional call, text or ping will do. But they shouldn't be too infrequent, like once in a month. This will leave her confused as to your intentions. 

You're formal with her. Come on, this is a girl u want to get into a relationship with. Loosen up! If you're uncharacteristically formal with her, she's most likely going to assume you're not very much into her.

2. You put up an "I don't care attitude"  about the guys around her.

This is assuming u know there are a number of guys she's involved with.. Friends or whatever they may be. Or it's just this one particular guy. If u never ask her about it, or act like u didn't even notice, she may quickly conclude that u don't like her enough to even get a lil bit jealous and concerned about her male friends.

3. Girls are always flocking around you.

If you're this dude, then she'd assume you're a flirt and probably want to flirt with her too or perhaps that you just like female friends and want to enlist her in your train of mere female friends.

4. You don't spend enough time with her.

If when eventually when u guys get to see each other, you're always in a hurry to leave, she'd presume u don't very much enjoy her company or that she's not important enough for u to spend quality time with.

5. You never invite her to your house.

This would seem really weird to her, especially as guys are quite fast in inviting girls over to their crib. And perhaps, when u do invite her, friends are always around. Trust me, she wouldn't be happy about this. She may not be expecting you to sleep with her, but it would be much appreciated if you two are alone. .

6. You don't allow her meet friends and family.

Even if you aren't an item yet, it would be a lil bothersome if she hasn't met any of your friends, at least. Maybe not family yet, but your friends. Because she believes that if really u like her, then ur friends would have known and would have wanted to meet her. 

7. Inviting her for an occasion and leaving her to herself

Now, this is so not nice. No matter how pre-occupied u seem to be at the occasion, she'd never feel happy being left alone, esp if she's in an unfamiliar territory. The proper thing to do is to first acknowledge her presence, if both of u didn't come in together, and then, sit with her, if possible. Otherwise, occasionally check in on her. This will show that u truly care. 

 As a guy, if u do most of those things, youl'd have succeeded in pushing your potential girl friend to the brink of giving up on you. She'd be uncertain about how you feel about her and your intentions. And if care's not taken, she'd start giving you attitude and give up on you totally.


That's cool, Oliviaarims. Both guys and ladies have their expectations from the opposite sex so it leaves us with the responsibility to find out exactly what our mates appreciate so we don't put them in a tight corner.

Good night.

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