Hey, I wanted to share my breakup story online because I feel it’s a pretty rough one, almost surreal to me. I was with this guy for three years, he was my first ever love. We had a super healthy relationship, we were quite different, but the same humour, weirdness and we were pretty complicit. I liked him because we both loved tv, we loved outdoors, we loved to eat, he made me feel good, he was always there to listen and to support me through the hardships, he could always make me laugh and could really surprise me. When I tought he wasn’t listening most of the time he actually was, so then he’d remembered some small details of the conversation or about me and some time later, come up with that information in a very sweet way. He was very attentionate, very gentle and respectful.
Anyways, the hole time we were together, he always had that best friend (female). The first 2 years, I really liked her and so never was I jealous or anything, therefore they were seeing each other some times and I did not have any problem. She was also in a relationship. Then, she broke up and everything changed. She was always setting me aside in the conversations, she was quite mean and never including me in the conversation and always looking at my ex-boyfriend with a sad look. That’s when I realized she had feelings for him. I told my ex but he did not believe me. Months later, we broke up because we didnt have time for each other anymore, with school, friends, extracurriculars, we just couldn’t make it work, plus he had an internship coming during the summer and then he was leaving on an exchange in fall semester while I was leaving for my exchange in the winter semester. We would of been more than a year appart from each other and none of us (specially him) were ready to commit to that. So we broke up, not because of a lack of love, but because of the timing.
Then a week after we broke up, I saw thanks to snapchat, that he had left on a quick trip with that same female bestfriend. He told me that he simply needed to free his mind, she gave him the opportunity, I believed him. We kept talking some times because I wanted news from him and I was leaving on a trip. We broke up in january, it was then, in june that, after noticing that his bestfriend always had snapchats with a men’s hand but never showing him, so I had my suspicions, he finally told me they had been dating and seeing each other for a couple of months now and that it just happened out of the blue and that he never meant to hurt me or anything of the sort!
You can believe I was shocked, I had my doubts about this hole thing but I was shocked. Not even two days after telling me this big news and beeing liberated of this secret, she posted a picture of them together praising how he finally got out of the friendzone after years of friendship.
I am sad, shocked, like it’s just a big joke, like I’ve been played, like he wasn’t entirely honest with me about the reason of our breakup...
What to do....