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Now what did I do

MRbrownJAY:
hey Gabry, dont be sad on the account of what i believe in. that is just my beliefs.
if a person has been fortunate to encounter the right people in their lives then they will have a more positive view about it all. in my line of work i see it on a daily basis and through my experiences i know that there are good AND bad people out there.
as much as i would always give someone they respect, the minute something sounds.looks, feels weird, i will have to investigate, thats just the way i am.
what we have to understand is that, a good person can turn bad because of different reasons and sometimes they turn bad after +20yrs of marital bliss.
its just the way humans are made.
there are plenty of good people out there, the problem is that there are ten times more "bad people in good people clothing" that knowing who is who is casi impossible until your are waist deep into the relationship.
look around you, how many people under 40 do you know that has been "truly happily" married for more than 15yrs?!
the odd couple are out there but aint many that I know of. thanks to the internet for being able to make us investigators in our own rights. no need to pay high fees to hire a professional.
ask yourself this question, if you were/are married, would you be certain that your spouse will turn down a sexy fine young hottie all the time, even when he is pissed at you after a big quarrel?! or when you dont do what he would like you to do in the bedroom?

Hey Jay, nice to see your reply. Thank you jare.

Well, uhmmm. . . Where I come from which is Labuan Island a very small island filled with a small population of people. Infact, its the smallest state in the whole of Malaysia. Many couples here are married for more than 20 years. Happily married, am not sure cause I dont dig into their lives but I sense they are living happily its because I see all these couples taking a daily walk at the park while holding hands almost everyday for so many years, and I see them go fishing together, go for movies together, go cycling together. . . Its like I see them spending time together like all the time and throughout my life.

Of course there are bound to be rough times throughout a relationshionship but I see them having patience, endurance and tolerance is what made them last long together.

Whether my spouse is up for young hot stuff or not, its all up to him. He is old enough to think for hisself and as for me, Im not going to tell him off on whats wrong and right its because I am not his mother. I have one formula in relationships which is this.

Trust him/her = go on with relationship without a doubt

Dont trust = investigate = heart broken / doubt

As a conclusion, if I dont trust my man, I wont be with him in the first place. I have so man y things in life which I want to do and to investigate on my partner is not one of them as it is actually a waste of time.

U mean to say we act like we're married?

Poster, Ill say give him time. Its not like he is cheating on you or anything.

If it makes u feel any better, Im Asian and my bf is Nigerian and when we first dated, my bf did not introudce me to his parents at all for 6 months and I tell my family that this bf of mine is a best friend and he is not my bf at all. After 6 months, we both agreed to come clean and so he told his family about me and I told my family about him. Thats just it

IFELEKE:
Speak for yourself!

Why, did ma pardner torment you abi?

oyinda.:
so you are basically married. category #2

No Im not married naaa! and that is so not us

2. they're basically married to each other and you will hardly find romeo without juliet at any point in time. this type last long and is favorable but you wonder if either partner has a life outside of the relationship. not that it matters anyway. . .

No. 1: We are not married

No. 2: We dont spend time with each other 24/7. In the day time we are apart cause I go to my school and do my job and he goes to his school and do his job. We only meet when we come back but I have to cook so we meet when we eat. At times he goes out with his friends and at times I go out with my friends. We do this at least twice to three times a week. I have my music lessons and classes and he has to do his work on the comp so we are not seeing each other. So basically we do have a life outside the relationshipOh! And because Im an event organizer, Im unable to see him all the time sha.

So nope. I dont consider myself as No, 2 at all.

My relationship is nothing like the above though.

We live together in the same house but we rent other rooms other people. I go to work and school in the day time and he does the same, when we come back, I do the cooking for the house and the guys watches fwrestling (usually) on tv and than we eat and usually my housemate will do the cleaning up. We take turns really. This is on weekdays.

If theres a football match in the middle of the night on TV, his friends would come over so I would prepare some food for them to eat at night just incase they get hungry but usually I would prepare snacks. And I am off to bed or doing some ironing or housework while chatting online or go online on forums.

I would have my gf's come to the house at times for a Movie Night or just to Keep In touch and usually my bf would join in the conversation, We all dont mind cause we love his presence but at times, he will go out with his friends to the football field cause theres a night match or they would go to the bar and have a drink. I would go and see the football match with them if Im free.

Saturday day time we clean the house (do some spring cleaning) and depending what we have install for the day sometimes our friends called us over for a BBQ or we got to the beach for a picnic or we just talk at home or at the park. . .  Depends. . . we wouldSaturday Night, we both always go to the movies together and Sunday morning we both go to church and in the afternoon, I will give music instrument classes while he does his work on the computer.

Preety much like this for the past few years of our relationship.

romade:
now myko write a new one so i can judge

Thats right pardner. U tell him!

mykali:
Ade
are you following in Gabry's footsteps?

Hmmm! I sense jelousy for hia! How dare u compare me with your ballz. Whos da one dey fear of chinko rap? No be me jor. . .

uhmmm. . . Thats people can be bashful here I guess

yes

He has a gun in his profile. Make me fear sha

I love him!

TOYOSI20:
ma b day was on monday naa, just having a good time naa gabby, LOL!!

How come u no go tell me its your buffday?

My luv!:
Wetin dey worry dis peep
(sorry, wrong thread) Ph-ph-ph-em, I didn' mean to
(finds exit sharp sharp!)

See how you move your bom bom to dat door! Chei!

dominique:


and how are we gonna figure out the secret loff affairs that goes on here huh

LOL! Una be amebo abi?

Phemour:
Phemi Olaiya doesn't need private (secret loff)

If i loff someone i say it plane

For example: I loff Aishatu, Tyty, Teissys, Lysaa n i make it clear

Phemi!!! Stop it with your childish dreams! Mama Ngozi is mad at you! Go sit one conner!

darne:
And D (Class Captain walks In,.)
Damn,., i only left for a short time,, Look at this Ki Making Noise here,, (Brings Out Sheet Of Paper To start Writing Names Of Noise Makers In D Class),, So Una Berra Behave B`coz Mr Darne Don Come To Write Names Of Noise Makers And Hand it Over to Uncle Seun And U knw that means u`ll all get a 10 strokes/lashes Of Cane from him,,

Oh ya! Come smack ma bom bom and I will smack u silly!

darne:
And D (Class Captain walks In,.)

Oh so i have a Rite to ?

To wetin

Weenie

wanville:
Gabry and IIce
me three lol I'm like that too but but every once in a while, a girl has to come off her high horse and take free goods. . .lol. I didn't ask him- he offered. So maybe sef na God wan use him 2 save me $200 dollars

nahhh. . . The only person whom fit give me free is my bf but even that he needs a reason for giving me free things cause I dont like to sound like a beggar.

MRbrownJAY:
movies?! LOL people are so weak these days that it takes very little.  what it takes is just a nice sexy photo and the right words to see your "loved one" say some funny shit right in front of your eyes.
all the ladies out there that say" my man will never cheat" are fooling themselves. all it takes is just the right opportunity and a weakened mind(sometimes even less). its a known fact that the majority of men who have profiles on dating websites are married or "attached".

Jay, u make me very sad with that your statement. . . Is there no good people on earth anymore? Does everybody have to be bad? Im very sad. . . . Now wonder I feel like going back to Disney land

pweety

patwhizkid:
Gabby, we were discussing, and he was saying somthing i dont like.
So i slept off.

Seriously, that guy has got issues!

I like Toast, Baked Beans, Bacon, Lettuce, Tomatoes, Eggs, Sausages and Cheese and Pink Guava Juice

I have just arive here with ma vacuum cleaner. So who want to meet up with me Gabry da WInch?

No I wont!

From 1983?

patwhizkid:
He vexed me dis morning, when we're talking.

he's always like that. Wassup with that?

Phemi!!! I know u love women but abeg!!! Stick to one!!! I will not tolerate you playing around with all the women at one go!

topup:
[color=#008855]Seun, if this isn't enough for you to re-introduce private messaging I don't know what is. .
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I had proposed this yars ago but they said something like its for the security of the members. I still dont understand that up till this date

swit D:
So u'r inloff with Goodass .

se na goodass ask u out ?

Me in loff with Greg? Nahhh. We are just brothers and sisters in Christ!


@topic.

hallo Munchkin

sesman:
it mean someone wants to be your papa ngozi

Papa Ngozi? U mean Goodass abi?

TOYOSI20:
ma pooh bear

Ma suga plum!

@Topic

Sweetie pear!

Now what are u doing? U trying to catch balloon abi?

Recoverd:
Yes i wuld n i did same tin wit my x, Even used a dif username to chat wit hm. It took me 6months n d idiot came down from australia 2meet hs new catch n found out it was me. Lol. Broke u wit hm bt not witout sendin al d girls he dates online hs info n d pasword to all hs id. I dint love hm doe.

MRbrownJAY:
ROTFLMAO that will serve him right especially if he was sweet talking you too: I LUV U bla bla bla
i had a "girl" who was always on one of these english chat websites back in China so i did a profile with some fancy name and contacted her. i told her i was a wealthy man from NY who was in Beijing for business, looking for some girls to take out for HEAVY shopping and sex thereafter at my hotel "suite".
she fell right in the trap giving me her number etc. the silly part was that i (the NY business man) gave her an appointment for "shopping and sex" at the same time she was suppose to meet me. guess what? she called me and cancel our plans citing extra shifts at work.
some people just think they are clever and can only learn the HARD way!!!!

Huh? i thought all of this was suppose to be in the movies, .