Kingsleyinfo:

come to think of it if she trusts me she should let me
have her passswords just like i would give her mine.

MRbrownJAY:

there are too many tools out there to get a person's password on ANY of their profiles and know what they are up to. the deal is to be aware that what you might find could shock you.
i have and i will snoop inside a person's emails, profiles, msn etc IF i feel that this person is not being completely honest with me. if i have no reason to believe foul play then i will let it be. people generally dont delete old emails and they are a goldmine for infos.
i have taken msn passwords before and even chatted with people who thought it was them.
i remember once i had a girl who would stay at my crib while i was at work and chat on msn on my computer but always delete her chat history, not knowing that i had a software that took a picture of the screen (every30sec) and everything she typed was saved. perfect for the msn chats. my home is booby trapped from the basement to the roof.
once i had an ex who fukced with my "prized possession" because she was a sick fukc. i changed the passwords to ALL her life (msn, yahoo, facebook, myspace) and deleted all her contacts. till this day she thinks it was a virus, dumbass!
ps: if you do that, dont forget to change the security question as well as the alternate email.

platinumnk:

mrjay, ure really cool and all but i think thats a BIT  much

Recoverd:

Yes i wuld n i did same tin wit my x,  Even used a dif username to chat wit hm. It took me 6months n d idiot came down from australia 2meet hs new catch n found out it was me. Lol. Broke u wit hm bt not witout sendin al d girls he dates online hs info n d pasword to all hs id. I dint love hm doe.

Recoverd:

Yes i wuld n i did same tin wit my x, Even used a dif username to chat wit hm. It took me 6months n d idiot came down from australia 2meet hs new catch n found out it was me. Lol. Broke u wit hm bt not witout sendin al d girls he dates online hs info n d pasword to all hs id. I dint love hm doe.

MRbrownJAY:

ROTFLMAO that will serve him right especially if he was sweet talking you too: I LUV U bla bla bla
i had a "girl" who was always on one of these english chat websites back in China so i did a profile with some fancy name and contacted her. i told her i was a wealthy man from NY who was in Beijing for business, looking for some girls to take out for HEAVY shopping and sex thereafter at my hotel "suite".
she fell right in the trap giving me her number etc. the silly part was that i (the NY business man) gave her an appointment for "shopping and sex" at the same time she was suppose to meet me. guess what? she called me and cancel our plans citing extra shifts at work.
some people just think they are clever and can only learn the HARD way!!!!

Gabry:

Huh? i thought all of this was suppose to be in the movies,  .

MRbrownJAY:

movies?! LOL people are so weak these days that it takes very little.  what it takes is just a nice sexy photo and the right words to see your "loved one" say some funny shit right in front of your eyes.
all the ladies out there that say" my man will never cheat" are fooling themselves. all it takes is just the right opportunity and a weakened mind(sometimes even less). its a known fact that the majority of men who have profiles on dating websites are married or "attached".

Gabry:

Jay, u make me very sad with that your statement. . . Is there no good people on earth anymore? Does everybody have to be bad? Im very sad. . . .  Now wonder I feel like going back to Disney land

MRbrownJAY:

hey Gabry, dont be sad on the account of what i believe in. that is just my beliefs.
if a person has been fortunate to encounter the right people in their lives then they will have a more positive view about it all. in my line of work i see it on a daily basis and through my experiences i know that there are good AND bad people out there.
as much as i would always give someone they respect, the minute something sounds.looks, feels weird, i will have to investigate, thats just the way i am.
what we have to understand is that, a good person can turn bad because of different reasons and sometimes they turn bad after +20yrs of marital bliss.
its just the way humans are made.
there are plenty of good people out there, the problem is that there are ten times more "bad people in good people clothing" that knowing who is who is casi impossible until your are waist deep into the relationship.
look around you, how many people under 40 do you know that has been "truly happily" married for more than 15yrs?!
the odd couple are out there but aint many that I know of. thanks to the internet for being able to make us investigators in our own rights. no need to pay high fees to hire a professional.
ask yourself this question, if you were/are married, would you be certain that your spouse will turn down a sexy fine young hottie all the time, even when he is pissed at you after a big quarrel?! or when you dont do what he would like you to do in the bedroom?

Gabry:

Hey Jay, nice to see your reply. Thank you jare. 
Well, uhmmm. . . Where I come from which is Labuan Island a very small island filled with a small population of people. Infact, its the smallest state in the whole of Malaysia. Many couples here are married for more than 20 years. Happily married, am not sure cause I dont dig into their lives but I sense they are living happily its because I see all these couples taking a daily walk at the park while holding hands almost everyday for so many years, and I see them go fishing together, go for movies together, go cycling together. . . Its like I see them spending time together like all the time and throughout my life.

Of course there are bound to be rough times throughout a relationshionship but I see them having patience, endurance and tolerance is what made them last long together.

Whether my spouse is up for young hot stuff or not, its all up to him. He is old enough to think for hisself and as for me, Im not going to tell him off on whats wrong and right its because I am not his mother. I have one formula in relationships which is this.

Trust him/her = go on with relationship without a doubt

Dont trust = investigate = heart broken / doubt

As a conclusion, if I dont trust my man, I wont be with him in the first place. I have so man y things in life which I want to do and to investigate on my partner is not one of them as it is actually a waste of time.

MRbrownJAY:

LOL people are so weak these days that it takes very little. 

Very true

MRbrownJAY:

yeah you are right about giving someone the benefit of the doubt but as i stated before:
as much as i would always give someone their respect, the minute something sounds, looks, feels weird, i will have to investigate, thats just the way i am.

a person who doesnt question something that they feel is not right is a fool. love is about being comfortable with the person in front of you, if for some reason, what he said or did make you suspicious then you have to look deeper.

as for where you live, a smaller island community like yours(population less than 90000) will have less of these problems as it is much more difficult to hide it but it is not unfound. if there is only a handful of great women then whoever "catches" one will make sure that he keeps her for life. also the masses isnt affected by whats going on around them as easily as on the "real world" as the media, TV, Internet etc is not in "everyone's face". temptations are everywhere but if we all know each other then temptations are lessen because you might too easily get busted. i am sure if i go to some remote village in some nigerian jungle, i will find such places too where everyone know everybody and where people have more respect for marriages, not because they lack that special gene that makes mn easily cheats but because it is harder to do it there(but yet not impossible)
like i said earlier on another thread, men (and women) dont cheat because of a particular reason, some do it because they are at a weak point of their life, others because they are upset and want to get back at someone, others because of peer pressure, others because they think they will never get caught and it is available AND MY FAVORITE because they can and want to. in most marriages, people cheating dont do it with someone who is particularly "better"qualitywise than their spouse but just because its different.

Gabry:

Suddenly I tink its not about the size of the place but I think its up to people actually. U have the self controlled ones and you have the easily influence ones. I just realize, yeah, my hometown could be small and all but they are actualy alot of rich people here. When u are rich, anything is possible. U can do and have your affiars out of the area if you want to.

Still, I feel sad. . . . I always think that this world is beautiful and life is wonderful untill this thread somehow reminded me that this earth has a dirty side to it

MRbrownJAY:

it has to do with who knows you. a person known by everyone would have a hard time going to his mistress's place because everyone would know him and seeing him enter a girl 's home(that they probably all know) will spell trouble.
the rich guys from your island that can travel probably do, you just dont know about what they do when they get to their destination(if they go without their spouses). men and women cheat because the opportunity is there so the smaller the community, the less opportunity there is.
people can have the best intentions to NOT cheat and still cheat because of the situations the find themselves into and because they are weak at the time due to whatever reasons (alcohol, anger, stress, loneliness, horniness, foolishness etc).

Gabry:

Jay, have u ever fall weak?

nethacker:

Then u r getting closer to ur grave

MRbrownJAY:

MANY TIMES. i am not perfect and will never claim to be.
i am human and as much as i would like not to, i have cheated when i was younger and less "forward" in my relationship.
any man who can turn down a beautiful sexy naked women is stronger than the most of us men.
its been a while since i have cheated on my partners because i am totally honest with them these days(a man who doesnt learn from his mistake is a fool!!!!!), they know what kind of freak they got and i will never pretend to be someone i am not.
people have to accept me the way i am (like i accept them the way they are) if for any reasons there is no compatibility then we do not need to go any further as my sexual life is high there as anything else in my life.
it is not THE most important thing but it is needed to make my"engine" function right.
also cheating is not really the main issue but what you do after you did the act (whatever that may be) some people will try to hide it while i wouldnt and instead would come clean. it wouldnt change anything about the cheating but it would let that person decide if they want to carry on being with me, knowing full well of what i did.
ps: this happened a few time when i was in my transition from being who i am today.

Gabry:

Im glad you know the difference between right and wrong now Jay but let me tell u something about life. I believe that in life, whatever you do, theres always a price to pay. Do you suppose your partner cheated on you its because you cheated on others?