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Omo, you dey vex oh. Funny you, I actually felt similarly. However, I am trying to avoid escalation here. Thanks bro, you na man weh dey dish am as e dey hot.

DonEd:
It's not pride to feel like you should be treated differently.

You are her husband and father of her child, why should she put u in the same crater as her siblings? And she already knows that u don't do uniform clothing.

It's a gift, granted, appreciate it but she should be reminded that you are her man.

If na me, it will just be in the wardrobe till she will use it to sew for herself.

Thanks bro. You're the real deal. I appreciate your deep understanding and input. Lesson well noted, boss.

ogashman:
To me it's nothing since the brothers are in the village and not in the same city with you. But
If u won't wear it, don't give it out so soon.....leave it for a long time before giving it out,by then she must have forgotten about it and won't feel bad.

That is how women are my brother.... My fiancée turned wife had given me some gifts that I just collected, said thank u and never used because I don't like them.


She has also given me many gifts I'm still using till date..

Be thankful that she was thoughtful to get u something.. Some people have never received any gifts from their spouse since they got married.

Lol, funny you. Thanks for your input.

Mom007:
Your wife is not serious.
You are right to feel one type of way but it's nothing to loose sleep over. Not every gift is a hit. Don't let this become an issue in your home. My husband has bought me clothes that are nothing like what I would wear or several sizes too small. It happens. Laugh over it and move on.

Omo, it may not end well oh. Funny enough, she may not be too happy to see me do that. God bless our good ladies, they are one of a kind.
I would rather not test the bomb.

tobby20:
I've read everybody opinion
Guy organise a family and friends end of year party . Buy same aso ebi with some chains and rings (exactly the same ). Gift your wife one b4 , and gift 2 girls in her presence also (like your sisters, female friends etc ) then watch her reaction .
Start from there

I felt the same way, seriously. But then, I am willing to focus on her pure intentions and perhaps, find a way to make her understand. But deep down, I hope the material gets changed. Let me wait till she calms.

Mumben:
@Op, you are not wrong to feel somehow, I think to remedy the situation, your wife can approach the seller and plead with him/her to exchange it with another material. It just doesn't make sense for you and her brothers to wear same material. My thoughts!!

Thanks for your deep input, I will take correction. Even though I believe my earlier decision wasn't based on pride (na villager I be, and besides, all men are equal). I just felt mine should be unique. Thanks again. We learn everyday.

frozen70:
We have to be appreciative of a gift given by loved one, Irrespective of how we fill about it

Now to your own issue, I know that you appreciate the gift but having the feeling that it shouldn't be the same colours with her brothers, doesn't add up

You have a special place in her heart and so does his brothers too

So kindly erase that thought and sew your own cloth and wear it for her to see that it's beautiful on you

If you and your brother in law are going on same occasion with you, call them and you guys can wear same uniform, it's shows love and understanding

You can even take pictures together for memorial sake

Once we can remove pride from our life, everything will be equal for us and we move on well without feeling that you class and level is bigger than another

Thank you for your deep understanding. I have been doing some thinking as well. Now I feel like I crushed her. I will sew it. Thanks again.

dawnomike:
You are right to feel the way you felt, but you shouldn't have expressed it that way...
Most times, ladies don't think as logically as men when ut comes to things like this.

Don't let that cause an issue... you beyond what you feel and look at the heart and thoughtfulness of her actions.

Thank you for your honest response. I never thought I will find myself confused on a matter like this (feeling bad but unsure if I am supposed to feel bad). Marriage is full of weird situations, honestly.

sunnymighty:
Personally I feel there is nothing wrong in this but then what do I know?Let's wait for the elders, we learn everyday.

I will make it brief, I hope.

Today is our six years wedding anniversary and my wife (a very good wife) decided to surprise me with a gift. She bought a material for me to sew native attire. Of course, she said I would have to settle the tailor charges when I get it made. No qualms. I was so excited and thankful. Then it came, she told me that she also bought exactly the same materials for her two elder brothers. My wife knows that I don't do anko (asoebi). Now I feel belittled and the gift looks more like a slap. I strongly feel that mine should not be the same with anyone else 's. That difference is key to me (even if mine is cheaper and of lower quality). I am her husband and the father of her child, not just any man. She has been my sole responsibility for the past six years and her first ever anniversary gift should not equate me to her brothers in the village.

I gently told her to at least change the color of mine, but she has been moody since, claiming that she bought it since November and kept it with the seller, she only collected it yesterday. God knows that I don't intend to use that material. I might just give it to her younger brother next time he visits.

For the matured men (my elders in marriage), please am I on the wrong here? I am open to honest responses.

I just feel that mine should be different, the price doesn't matter. The value for me is rooted in mine being different. I do things for my sister too, but never on the same level with my wife. Her's is always different to reflect her unique place in my life.

Sorry, not so brief after all.

I will make it brief.

Today is our six years wedding anniversary and my wife (a very good wife) decided to surprise me with a gift. She bought a material for me to sew native attire. Of course, she said I would have to settle the tailor charges when I get it made. No qualms. I was so excited and thankful. Then it came, she told me that she also bought exactly the same materials for her two elder brothers. My wife knows that I don't do anko (asoebi). Now I feel belittled and the gift looks more like a slap. I strongly feel that mine should not be the same with anyone else 's. That difference is key to me (even if mine is cheaper and of lower quality). I am her husband and the family of her child, not just any man. She has been my sole responsibility for the past six years and her first ever anniversary gift should not equate me to her brothers in the village.

I gently told her to at least change the color of mine, but she has been moody since. God knows that I don't intend to use that material. I might just give it to her younger brother next time he visits.

For the matured men (my elders in marriage), please am I on the wrong here. I am open to honest responses.

I just feel that mine should be different, the price doesn't matter. The value for me is rooted in mine being different. I do things for my sister too, but never on the same level with my wife. Her's is always different to reflect her unique place in my life.

Sorry, not so brief after all.

Just call it what it is; putting Fulanis in their place. Bunch of a-holes.

Nice one Fintiri. More of you across the North and Nigeria as a whole.

Hope it is not subscription renewal.

Funny stuff.

Dude was like "You go die well"

Sounds like a blessing.

Waina da miyar taushe.
From Kano.
My wife prepared it and my 4 year old daughter shared this to our neighbors (door to door), all Muslims too. We live peacefully together. Similarly, we don't cook during Sallah celebrations because we get flooded with food as well; being the only Christians around.

Las las, your neighbor is the one most qualified to receive your kindness and love, second only to your family.

Added:

Second pic is this morning, for the two neighbors that were not around yesterday.

Our love for God should be evident in how we treat those around us.

Have a blessed Christmas celebration.

Please add that the useless old man is a Fulani man, fortifying his tribesmen to attack Hausa people. Just to be clear,

Omoh!

You big toe no be hia.

Good. I knew this right from childhood. A typical Hausa woman from the village knows this, that is what our mothers do after the harvest is completed. In Hausa culture, Kulikuli and groundnut oil is part of the many food items a bride takes with her to her husband's house, and most of them are home-made.

CodeTemplarr:
You can try it and tel us how it went. Every dish you see today was either an experiment by someone or divine idea.

Sure thing.

Sunday is the date.

Thanks.

olawooro:
Very possible. I have eaten it several times
It is called 'iyan anamo'. (Pounded potatoes) Thou it does not have starch like yam. If you want it to be better, don't pound it when still hot, let it cool.

It can also be mixed with yam, cocoyam, plantain or cassava

Thanks for the heads-up as regards pounding temperature. We will try it on Sunday (my work free day), since I will do the pounding.

Coming soon....

Wow!

Thanks a lot.

We will give it a try. I might post the result when we do.

Gracias.

Mariangeles:
Potatoes might not have enough starch to bind, but I think it might be okay.
So, there's no harm in trying it.

See. There's even such a product as poundo potato.
It's potato flour for making swallow meals, for those who don't like too much starch in their diet.

illicit:
Call it food...

So people do it? And is it nice?
That's all we need to know.

Thanks.

Answers please?
We are trying to settle a matter here, I suggested to my wife that we should try it, but the Hausa in her is standing in the way, she will only agree if people actually prepare a food like that (to avoid wasting precious potatoes and soup making time).

If yes, please what is the name of the food and will you recommend it?
Thanks.

Dangerous business, can get you killed you know.

Funny guy.

TheChameleon:
I took and I have started looking at my neighbour's wife.

Please tell me the second pics is just a joke

TheChameleon:


When Pastor was screaming " Spare the ROD and spoil the child"

Baltasar heard " spare the ROD and spoil the GF"

The weyrey probably creampied Pastor's wife cos he doesn't use silencer on his bazooka.

Abeg show us the video of Pastor's wife.

SYSTEM222:
Shm

So you are the sick person that posted that nonsense comment on the YouTube video and still came here to repost it again?

You got the replies that suit you.

Rubbish.

Let's see what the NBA, and human rights organizations have to say about this. I hope the bolt guy cashes out big from this foolish man who thinks himself a deity.

By the standard of God's law, if we are judged by it, we are sure to fail and be condemned. This will bring eternal, and absolute separation from God. But Christ came and paid that ultimate price in advance for all who believe, so in Him, we are considered righteous by God, hence, the requirements of the law are fully met for us in Christ.

Morbeta11:
This one don finally give Jesus the post of Evangelist and not GO....them Don do coup ontop tithe matter

As in ey? E choke.

Old scammer. Na only on tithe matter we dey hear your voice. Of course, and also when a non Yoruba is president. Even a Yoruba vice presidency will glue his mouth against government atrocities.

Nothing out of the ordinary. My colleague (married with kids) did something similar when (during discussion) she found out my wife was away for a week. I was complaining that I find it hard to cook, and even when I do, I don't enjoy it. Very Godly lady. Treats me like a son.

The death of His Majesty is something many will mistake as the death of a random victim of the so called "bandits". However, nothing can be further from the truth. To be clear, what the Fulani infested government of Nigeria call bandits is actually a highly organized Fulani militia, trained, armed and fully backed by the Fulani infested Nigerian military. You only need to follow the nonchalant attitude of the Nigerian government towards the atrocities of Fulani militia in Nigeria to see the handwriting on the wall. No document is more binding than the body language of the government on this matter (Fulani terrorists collect ransom using accounts that are supposed to be BVN linked, make calls using sim cards that are supposed to be NIN linked, go to known rural markets and restock, carry out massacres without fear of interruption from uniformed men, reside in well known forests and even host their benefactors to lunches and dinners, you name it).

The Sarkin Gobir is not just an Emir (for Muslims). He is a Sarki of the great Gobir tribe of the Hausa nation. To other Hausawa from other Hausa tribes, who are still under the devilish yoke of Fulani rule, the Sarkin Gobir is a symbol of hope that the gate of Hausa still stands. This hope cuts across religious lines. I myself, being of Kano blood, consider the Sarkin Gobir as my King, even here in Kano. I owe no loyalty to the two fools parading as Sarakunan Kano. Every true and enlightened son of the Hausa nation is bound to naturally share this view.

So, for those who are busy saying the North is reaping what they sowed and nurtured, please understand this: The North is bleeding from wounds inflicted by a cancer that has taken a strong hold on it. This same cancer, is to a large extent, responsible for the deplorable state of Nigeria as a whole. Whether you accept it or not, the North is a major determinant of who leads Nigeria (no thanks to Igbos/Yoruba disunity). This determinant tends to be diseased. Hence, its sickness spreads. While you hail the atrocities of Fulani militia in Northern Nigeria, do well to hail the very people whose future it is desperately trying to protect; the same people benefiting from the status quo in Nigeria.

There is a battle for the soul of Northern Nigeria, a war against the forces that are determined to keep it enslaved and preventing the new dawn that is coming.

Komai nisan ramin karya, gaskiya za ta kure shi. A kwana a tashi, mai rarrafe zai tashi.

Allah ya jikan Mai martaba, ya Kuma kafa tsatsonsa a gadon sarautarsa.