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debbydams:
not all single mothers tho,we still have some with pride and dignity..it not necessary you take responsibilities of the kid,the kid has bn doinh fine before u came to the picture..not all single mother flirt with their baby daddy..

This is true!

NaijirianKing:
Hopefully younger women can see the mistakes of giving themselves to unserious men, and begin to respect themselves, and focus on finding a man who will marry them before starting down the road of indiscriminate fornication.

We need a return to traditionalism. Hopefully the younger generation of women can learn from the mistakes of this generation and move accordingly.

Many girls have to realise their pussypower is a temporary and short period power, so they have to use it sensibly and humble themselves.

NaijirianKing:
The number one trait of a toxic female is one who cannot see their own fault, and is always blameless.

This means that she cannot learn from her mistakes, because according to her, she doesn't make them. It's always everyone else.

One who doesn't acknowledge their mistakes can never learn from them, one who can't learn from their mistakes can never grow. A person who doesn't grow is forever stunted.

This is the biggest red flag of all. Avoid such toxicity.

Brilliant post!

Terrier99:
How many single fathers do you see asking the new wife to pay the fees, feed, cloth and be responsible for the upbringing of the children of their Exes?
Try to dey use your brain.

Don't mind him.

Senseless!

steveekeoma:
Some men can be responsible while dating but can be irresponsible when issue of i am pregnant comes up.
However, a man can do anything to get woman most especially when the woman is
feeling stubborn to get and at last littered her for exhibiting pride in the first place.

For have access to the kpeku is rare to see a woman does that the a man she has seen as irresponsible.

Then she better have sense and have an abortion.

jiboladhino:
We guys are hypocrites castigating single mothers , but when it comes to single fathers we have no problem with them dating single girls abi .... Nigerians and double standard

Nonsense statement!

Do women expend their resources of the man and his child?

luminouz:
Please stop all this talk. You are very wrong.
Saying a woman with a child doesn't owe you any upfront revelation is simply BS. When should she tell me then? After the first few fûcks? A few thousand fūcks? 3 months to wedding? Or when I'm about 130 years old?

Most single mothers I know always tell you upfront. That way, the man can decide if he wants to stay or not. Secondly,it gives no room for pretense and lies. What you see is what you get and that's how it should be.

Are you sure you are a man? It's very weird hearing this from a guy who wouldn't want to cater for other men's kids.

Don't mind him with that foolish opinion.

mikovo2002:
I am presently dating a single mother, she had never review the father of her son. All she always tell me is that she didn't know the wereabout of her child father. She put her son first. I am just like second fiddle in the house
She even bought a land in the name of her son bearing the child surname. She save her money for towards the upkeep of her child while my money is for us

Dump her ass immediately.

You are just a charity to her.

adanny01:
Let me tell you where you are wrong especially the highlighted.

Does this lady have the right to find love again, if I may ask you? She certainly does. You dont expect her to tell every man she meets on the street that she has a son. Do you expect her to wear a T shirt saying I have a son so that people like you can just stay clear of her.

You have your rights, your rights starts where others end.

If you wish fairness, you also need to think of the father of the child whether women do to him what you did to her.

I am not saying you were wrong to bail from the relationship that never started, I am saying when you bailed like that, you make it look like she did you wrong but actually she never did. She is also looking for the same thing you are looking for and she never lied to you. In fact, your relationship was not there yet.

Please, next time before you ask a girl for her contact, endeavor to ask her if she has a child so this would not repeat. Dont blame if you dont ask.

What stewpid post!

Was he a man on the streets?

Normal human being speaking to love interests or friends for period of time forget to mention their kids in their stories?

A sensible human being does not know having a kid is a factor in relationships that should be disclosed?

Stop talking nonsense and think you are making "mature sense".

AfroKnight:
Oh. Did she truly like me? Is that why she hid a simple fact from me until I was hooked and it would be difficult to just walk away from a burgeoning beautiful relationship? Well, I don’t want to raise stepchildren. It’s my choice. Am I a bad guy for that? Should I be forced to raised her kid just because I like her?

If a man hid his child from your discussion until you started daydreaming about him and cannot do without calling him everyday, would you be a bad person for choosing not to continue the relationship? Wouldn’t you have preferred to know about the kid from the onset so you can decide if you wouldn’t mind?

Don't mind her.

She is just an incredibly selfish single mother who thinks shaming tactics is her way of getting her selfish ways.

ozuone:
Apart from death of spouse.. most single mothers will quote the father of her child as Irresponsible just to be spiteful because she herself must be very Irresponsible.

The way she took the baby from the previous baby daddy is the same way she will take your own baby and run and will call you Irresponsible..

Infact single mothers prefer a widower or maybe someone with reproduction wahala because they don't want any competition.

He child will come first in your property before your biological children.

Not all single.mothers are bad . But apart from issues like domestic violence or death of spouse.

Its a no go area

I never trust what a woman says.

I only trust what I see and hear for myself.

I don't take second-hand information from women about their exes.

lawkenoz:
Bro you are very on point....take it from someone talking from experience....it's emotionally draining and damn complicated to date them. The majority who have tried have the same story that's evidence enough by itself.

You scenario was exactly my experience, she hid the kids existence from me cuz we were in separate countries. I only got to find out months later after we got serious. When asked of the kids father you can guess the response she gave....same line you
Typed in the original post.....this women never disappoint like clockwork!

I said okay not bad, lemme try getting to know the kid and make it work. I live in the same country with her parents so her mom brought the kid over and I went visiting to get to know the parents and my prospective step child. Everything went well, I loved the kid even discussed a formal adoption for the child after the nuptials since the father in her words abandoned it.

Few months to the engagement and set date for return to naija to conclude the traditional rites, Babe went AWOL. Stopped picking my calls, her parents as well. There was no way I could reach her, plus I couldn't just travel to her location due to I
Being in a different continent and my job demand.

To Cut the long story short, I had a friend who stays I. The same country to help me check up on them, turns out baby daddy showed up, somehow they made up and had a short lived rekindled love affair. I was seriously vexed but what could a brother do. Madam just ghosted me. I had to let it go ultimately.

Now here comes the interesting part, the baby daddy knocked her up with twins and vanishes again. 3 months to her EDD and 4 to my wedding she calls me up out of the blue and starts pontificating. Sounds like a movie but I was living it in real time.

Single moms? Hell no to any young single man. If you don't love drama stay far away.

What an incredibly selfish biaaatch!

AutoChick4U:
Mary the Mother of Jesus was even Pregnant and Joseph sha Married her. Whether na man or holy spirit impregnate am is irrelevant.

How many men today would give their love to a pregnant lady

Why should I give my love to a pregnant lady I did not impregnate?

This your useless shaming tactics to get your selfish ends?

Suspect33:
we've made it a norm which was never the case with the previous generations, sexual immorality is no longer frowned upon, people now engage in sexual acts without any iota of shame, this generation will destroy itself

Stop talking nonsense!

Before you ancestors and village came under oyinbo rule and long after it, dem dey marry and unmarry multiple women, including those already with kids.

AutoChick4U:
Now this is where communication is very important. A single mom who still sees, talks to d baby daddy is a suspect. Besides the lady in this your story is a very dumb fvck.

Many single moms are not in contact with their baby fathers and managing alone just like me. Theres minus zero possibility of such happening in my case anyways

I said it!

I could smell single mother.

But not the type you want to ever be with. Those illogical questions reek of a very selfish and unreasonable person you don't want to get in a mess with.

biggie73:
For me, I won't take care of another man's kiddo. Let everyone be responsible enough for his or her kiddo.

I was trying to date one sometimes ago. Barely after 3 calls, she was asking me for her son's tuition to the University as if I was the father.

Anyway to call the crazy story short, I told her to go resolve her issues with her baby-daddy.

Her head no correct!

You for curse her entire village.

AutoChick4U:
Why u go wan Beat her kid? Is it that you dragging to come first before her kids? Can't you share in d affection? Must it be a competition?

What an incredible foolish set of questions.

So when a man beats his own biological kids, it is because he is "dragging to come first before the kids"? Or he is in competition with the kids?

Incredibly foolish!

I smell a single mother here. And definitely the type men should avoid because she will never be logical with you when raising her kids, she just needs you to be around to pay for them and save her. She needs you to sacrifice your interests, assets and focus on only her own. Her means of delivering this selfish agenda will be the foolish and illogical reasoning and shaming statements like this "Can't you share in d affection".

Her child can misbehave and disrespect you while you pay for his or her life and all she will tell you is "Leave my child alone! Can't you share in d affection otherwise you are not a real man".

Avoid like Coronavirus!

paulolee:
saw the game...seems penalties is making it look too easy n very soft on dt record..
five goals and four penalties already after jus three games? meaning just one goal from open play ?? habaa naa....even fernandez no do reach dis wan na..
congrats shaa mk e no b like say i de hate...

Give Penaldo some credit.

It is 3 penaltes he has scored. Plus 2 tap-ins in open play.

majamajic:
U can't compare , he is from another world

A world called "Penalty"?

ZUKKYY:
Wether na PK or FK goal na goal... Ororo de real goat �

Please list up to 5 free kicks he has scored in the last 5 years.

GoldBoss:
At 36 cristiano Ronaldo still breaks goal scoring records, His speed is something to write about, At this rate he can play till 45, A true champion, This guy is one reason I became a football fan, everyone loves this guy, his so-called haters are only pretending. CR7.

His "speed"?

At taking 2 penalties?

Lamasta:
Show me the international trophy messi have one biko no time to argue

I told you to tell me the one that Ronaldo has won that Messi has not won.

Oya, go and find and tell me.

Amotolongbo:
My brain can’t lie on the same level with yours cos yours has been turned to manure for plants.

What defines a scoring position in a game of football ?
Are there definite scoring positions?

Your brain is the one which just got manure na.

Abi no be after manure you understood grammar?

Now water your brain to understand what a goal scoring position is.

Amotolongbo:
Now I realize where your brain lies.

What defines a scoring position?

If your brain is at a level where my brain is lying above it, you will know.

Lamasta:
If Messi had put his own at the back of the net may be he would have won an international trophy by now

When you get sense, you will tell me what international trophy that Ronaldo has won that Messi has not won more.

Lamasta:
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This your hatred for football GOAT Will not help you o

I love the picture. It is a sign of his reality.

GOAT at putting the ball on the penalty spot and blasting it into the net.

Angelmichael63:
who was involved in the last penalty sir.did you even watch the match at all?

I guess you too are struggling with grammar?

Amotolongbo:
How did the second penalty for Portugal happen today?

I guess you are struggling with grammar?

m140:
Arinya!!!
Bigman, wey don belleful and gainfully employed

Jobless, hungry, daft, unemployable scammer oponu!

"CEO of Gasline and MD of Gaslink"!!!

ojaysam25:
Congrat to ororo and portugal....his goals has help them to qualifer from that group of death but others need to step up.....6 of portugal 7 goals were supplied by ronaldo.

It is actually 5 of 6 goals.

3 out of the 5 goals were from penalties that did not involve Ronaldo in a scoring position before the foul, but which he typically rushes to get the ball for to improve his goal stats.