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EcoLaw:
Good evening Nairalanders, a friend of mine came to me for an advise.
My friend is in his late 30s,he has been in a relationship with his woman,they have been together for a period of 8 years,and they have 2 kids together.
This my friend has a younger brother,the younger brother told him that they should go and collect traditional marriage list from his woman family,so that traditional marriage can take place by December.
My friend worry is that,one,he is not financially capable to do traditional marriage rite as of now and secondly, he doesn't have a good paying job now. Another of his worry is that,he feels it shameful for his younger brother to sponsor his wedding,he is afraid won't he be insulted in the future by people,that he can't not pay his wife bride price,that it was somebody that married his wife for him. His brother told him not to worry about the financial responsibilities,that God will take control. My advice for him was that he should tell his brother to give him the money to go start
a business,maybe when the business balances,he can go and do the marriage rite. But his brother told him that the lady has tired for waiting for 8 years,that they should do the traditional marriage first,every other thing shall fall in place. This his brother have been supportive to him. Nairalanders please what's you take on this.

Even if he starts a business with it and uses money from the business to do the marriage rites, it's from his brother. He can't wish it away.

A brother is trying to help. The one that needs the help is trying to spin it with all sorts of negative narratives. Tufiakwa. Poor people have terrible mindsets. From the epistle, it is clear the elder brother isn't just stvpid. He has mental problem, unstable, create scenarios that do not exist in his head and at the same time would hold people responsible for his misfortunes


If we humans can humbly give, i don't see why we can't humble receive

If he considers his younger brother such an enemy, he should go it all out without him in his life completely.

Nonsense

Skillsmaster:
Good evening all. Forgive my typos.
Please I am in a state of confusion right now. I posted here on nairaland last year concerning me starting a teaching job in Abuja. I have been teaching in this school for a year and half now.

My salary is 40k (on appointment letter) but there is always deduction of 10% (4k) every month which they promised to pay all the deductions by end of each session. Till now, they are yet to pay it, giving excuses of no money on ground. But they paid it to those that resigned as far as two months notification is given.

I applied in other schools before the beginning of last term, two among the schools invited me for an interview but I didn't go because of this 10% of a thing. I made up my mind to resign beginning of this term so that I can collect my 10%. Last week, I got another invite from one of those schools I applied. I went and came out successful but their salary is 60k.

I requested for 100k but they said they can only pay 60k. I didn't accept it because of the distance. Early hour of Saturday, I received a message from the school, congratulating me that I have been shortlisted for employment. I was confuse because I didn't agree with the pay. And I will be teaching in primary section.

Assuming they can even pay me 80k, I can forget about the 10% and start another hustle there. (I planned relocating to the area because of distance).

Should I accept this offer and forget about the 10% (72k+) in the school I am now?
Or should I talk to them if they can allow me to resume by January so that I can collect my money from this school? Will they accept?

Please house, I need your input on this.

Note: I will go to the school and confirm if they've agreed to increase my pay. Before the invite, I have already made up my mind to tender my resignation letter immediately school resumes.

Tender the resignation letter now



Send flood of applciations to many instituitions. Schools would definitely be seeking teachers against next session. Your chances are not limited