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MadamVanessa:
Very stupiid and useless comment


For one month a man failed to give the wife money due to some financial crisis, which was not deliberate, a woman have the gut to packed out of a man's house without even telling him. Who does that? She was never a wife , she only stick to the guy because all was rosy, it it's also a clear indication that woman didn't love the husband.



To the OP, forget about that kind of woman, she doesn't worth it. I pray you get you fit back on track.


I am a woman, i can never support her.

� you know before now,I would have this exact opinion of yours.but the years have thought me better.it’s best not to judge from just one persons opinion.for a woman to leave after thirteen years,there’s just more to this story than the op is dishing out it’s not just about the money.

Pecoleee345:
Previous thread https://www.nairaland.com/6653469/another-marriage-crash

So over last weekend.... I called family meeting my mum, elder brother and I went to my wife parents house... her family members were present.

They wanted to resolve things between us but no one gave a Bleep about me....they asked her to speak and she said alot of things both truth and lies.

I was lambasted from both sides and I let them finished properly before dropping the bomb......I looked into her eyes straight up and told her am divorcing you.

They were all stunned.... they were now interested in my side of the story.

I decided not to say anything.....am not the type that bad mouth people to score points or look good (my ex-wife is very good at that)....I just told her family to demand the truth from her.

My advice to young men.

1. Make sure u know the background of the lady u wanna get involved with....the way of life etc.

The mistake I made was not evaluating her background...... We came from completely different backgrounds....eg where she comes from people talking crazy and shouting at one another isn't a big deal but me it was a Taboo infact in my parents' house u can't talk with high tones for normal discussions.

2. See forget love and looks...... Make sure you know the main reason she wants to marry you.

I know she loves me but she had another motive which is am meant to give her everything she wants in Life.... She had that mind set of her responsibilities is totally dependent on me.

She told me she can only spare or borrow me money towards doing anything in the house but it is my duty to provide anything she wants even the riddicules ones.

3. For your peace of mind stay away from most ladies raised by single mothers because most her poison to hate men right from teens by their mother.

They are mostly insecure....they believe all men cheat and can never trust.
Comes with mad jealousy

They mostly have anger issue.... they will tell you I don't take shit... trying to show they are strong and can't take what their mother took despite you not doing any shit.....they want to have say in everything just to show you are equal.

They are always quick to be on the defensive
Just to mention a few

I once told my wife am not like your father when I couldn't take the policing, sneaking and threat anymore.

See as a man no one gives a shit about you..... people are sympathetic towards the female and expect you to take whatever she throws at you but you need your peace of mind.
The society has made it possible for women to get away with lot of things.

If you found a woman you want to marry please put love aside and get to really know her background well......cohabit with her for 6month......lastly even if you don't have money, please borrow and go for comprehensive medical check up with her.... (check your sperm count and the state of her womb) please.

Background check or not,humans are capable of just about anything.I don’t see how someone who claims to love another find so much fault.we sometimes bring out the beast in others as a result of things we say or do.the fact that she’s had 2miscarriages is enough to put her on edge almost always.her “weak womb due to abortions”is only an excuse used to score yourself points and bring her down.Truth is,you are tired of the marriage and want out.people have gone through worst and yet worked it out.

elay44:
Bro I only read stuff as a guest. this your post made me register on nairaland. I am in this same boat the, threats, jealousy, anger, no support financially,( I earn very well to take care of the family but it can be exhausting sometimes) etc. but we have Kids . I salute your courage bro. you need to be in this shoes to understand what this bro went through. you can comment and call names but you just can't understand. I feel you and I am very happy for you. thanks for speaking up and being an encouragement. a lot of men are going through shit all in the name of love. forget redplliers. we are not built to be violent, we geniuely care for people, that just how we are wired. but we are taken for granted and our nature taken for weakness.

Iv also been a guest for so many years but joined because of your reply to the post.
I have a few questions:was ur wife violent before now?or is it possible that her anger,threats and jealousy are as a result of something you’re doing or not doing?is her lack of financial contributions her choice or she wasn’t lucky getting a job?
Please dear men,yes you provide but please it won’t cost anything to regard the one you are providing for.some rub the infidelity in their wives ‘ faces,go out without mentioning whereabouts and come back when it pleases them.one can’t dish out thrash to another and expect loving in return.
marriage is a tasking institution,it takes conscious effort from both parties,understanding,patience plus constant communication to make things work.