You get what you deserve... most of the time. But generally, don't aim too high, 60-70% is a very good score, 50-60% is good and acceptable, I doubt you'll score too much yourself or else the ladies will be all over you. Whether by referral or otherwise, keep an open mind, you can meet your wife anywhere, if u meet her in a night club be ready to continue the night life. Look for someone who believes in you, respect you but doesn't fear you, preferable from a decent family, girls from broken homes are usually broken though not all of them, you can find the best things in unexpected places, I married the little girl that used to go and call my gf for me, Look for a normal girl thaf has reasonable or similar expectations as you do, that believes in marriage and that understands that sacrifice from both parties is necessary to make it work. I don't emphasis so much on love at the beginning, if she loves u, fair and good, if you marry a good person and you are good yourself then love will come eventually. Marry your type and kind. If u are a thief, marry a thief, if u are a pastor, marry a sister in church, not a club girl. I have friends who married from Facebook and are happy today , keep an open mind, be good to the people you meet and be prayerful, love will find you. Goodluck.

Just want to share my story with you guys so that u don't make the same mistake i did, I am lucky to still be alive today

My problem started about 14 yrs ago, then i was 20. I was in yr 2 then, I was at home one evenning when a girl came and knocked on my door, my parents were away then, she said she wanted to write gce and needed a mercenary to help her out. i asked her who directed her to me but she said i shudn't worry about that but that someone told her that if she wants to gets into school the next yr then she shud contact me. (In my waec, i made 8A's that was the best result in my state that yr) I told her i already had two clients and cannot take another, she asked me how much they paid me, i told her, she opened her handbag and gave me double the money i had previouly collected, she asked me to cancel my contract with them, i had to accept cos i was in it for the money, she said she also knew of my other requirements, ie two bottles of star and a pack of benson each day i go out with her for the exam. we started the exam and everything was going smoothly until i became interested in a girl at the centre, she quickly became jealous,  altho i don't like mixing biz with pleasure but since she has already paid me up front, i could do anything i wanted with (or so i tot) she said the other girl was distracting me cos i was also helping her inside the exam hall, she asked me to stop chasing the other girl, that she wasn't my sister and we could do anything i wanted, i said well no probs, getting sex and money, thats a mercenaries dream. the next day after the first paper i took her to a friends house close to the centre, after the initial pre-intimacy, i was about to enter her when she stopped me and asked me if i was sure i wanted to sex her, i was surprised and asked her if she was joking or what? she said i shud think twice before sexing her  cos my life/destiny is at stake ((i wish i had listened to her), but i just laughed and entered her. That was the beginning of my probs [(i just made love to a demon). To cut the story a little, we continued having sex everyday till the end of the exams and after the exams she continued coming to sex  me at home, infact became involved in a very serious relationship (or so i thought). i helped her with her jamb and the following yr she got admitted into uniport. everything was ok until she paid me an unexpected visit and caught me sexing another girl, (of course all along i have been dating other girls cos i was never really in love with her) that was the beginning of my probs. she just turned back and left to her house, i went after her and pleaded and pleaded but to no avail, she was so cold to me and told me that i was going to suffer. That night, a spiritual love crept into my heart, the next few days/weeks i tried to make up with her but to no avail, i was surprised with myself, i have never fallen in love with a girl b4 but this one was different, i was ready to do anything to make up with her, that was when she started bleeding me, asking me for money, the first time she told me that she needed 100k to pay for accomodation apartment in uniport, i asked her where she expects me to get that kind of money from, a 3rd yr engineering student, it was unimaginable, she said i shudn't worry, that the money will come, when it comes i shud bring it cos she needs it, i tot she was joking. the next day after my parents left for work, one of my dad's tenant came with about 120k to pay his rent, i told him that my dad has gone to work, he said i shud keep the money and give him when he comes back cos he (the tenant) was travelling and will be back next month. the moment he left, i now remembered my girl needed 100k for us to reconcile. i quickly got dressed, stopped a taxi and took a drop to her house (as if i was remote controlled).  when i got to her house, the sis said she went to the market so i decided to wait across the street in a restaurant, while waiting i decided to kool of a little and ordered for a bottle of star, eventually i took about 4 bottles (then my limit was 3 bottles) i became tipsy and that was when i realised myself, what was i doing with 120k (my dad's money in my gf's house) my goodness, i had never don such b4, i was a good boy, a little bit spoilt like everyone else but not totally irresponsible as to give a girl 120k of my dad's rent money, part of which will be used for my education and feeding the entire family. i quickly paid for my drinks, took a taxi back home, my mum was back from work then so i handed what was left of the money over to her, i had taking #200 naira from each bundle of 20k, to pay for my booze and keep some pocket change. About 5 mins later she arrived, and was waiting for me at a restaurant across the road, when i went over she asked me for the money (as if she knew about it), i asked her which money, she told me that i brought her 100k for her but that i left b4 she came back, i asked her how she knew about it cos i didn't tell anyone, she said she knew, that if i rem she told me yesterday that the money will come, so i shud hand it over to her, i told her then since she knows everything she shud know that i have given it to my mum, she said i shud go back to the house and get it the money, i told her she was crazy and that she should get out of my site, i want nothing to do with her again, she said ok, and left, that was the beginning of my suffering, the momemt the booze cleared from my head i started weeping, i was in total despair, as if i shud go back to get the money and give to her, it was impossible of course cos my mum has handed the money over to dad, i went back and bought more booze, when i am drunk i will forget about her but the moment my head clears i will start weeping again, it continued for somedays, i slept with diffente girls, non could make me forget about her, only alcohol, my friends were worried was i was strong one among us, i usually laugh at them when they go out of their way to plz their gf's, a friend suggested i go to club and dance and groove away my sorrow, it didn't work, another suggested marijuana, i tried it a little but my body couldnt take it cos i started crying, i went to her house in tears, pleading, she asked me to go and get her money or else i shudn't come back, i waited outside for her, till midnight, she never came out to meet me, my problems continued for almost 2 weeks i was drinkiing constantly to forget her, i couldn't afford beer anymore and was owing all the restaurants aound my home, i now resorted to ogogoro/kai-kai (locally made gin). i will buy a coke bottle of it, keep it in my room and drinnk it the moment i start thinking of her, still no solution, i was killing myself with alcohol, i was lucky lecturers were on strike then else maybe i wouldn't have been able to attend lectures. eventually another friend suggested that maybe the girl is using charms on me and that we shud go to a spiritualist that he knows, WE WENT---that was my second mistake. When we got there i told the The spiritualist my story and he took a look at my palm and told me that i have a very bright destiny/star, that the girl knows and that since i wasn't going to marry her she wants to steal my star/destiny. he said i shud give him 3 days for spiritual consultations and then he will solve the prob, i asked him how i;m i supposed to manage for 3 days cos i can't do without alcohol else i will start weeping. He told me to go and get him a ring and come back teh next day, I did, the next day he gave me back the ring and told me that i shud wear it and go and visit the girl, i shud come back and tell him anyting that happens. the moment i put on the ring i forgot about my love for the girl, i threw away the bottle of chelsea dry gin i had in my pocket and headed straight to her house, when i got there, i sent for her and surprising she came out in immediately, unlike her, she has not been bothering to come out to c me, last time i went there she told me i was crazy and that i shud go and get her the 100k if i want to continue being her friend. when she came out she stood at a distance and refused to sit beside me at the restaurant, the first thing she asked me was "who gave u that ring?" i just laughed and said it was mine that i just bought it, she now said "if u like urself, u better throw away that ring immediately or else there will be no end to ur suffering" she now turned back and left, i went after her and she stopped, turned round and warned me sternly not to ever come to her house again, that she was thru with me, she doesn't want any money or anything to do with me again, she went back to her house adn i returned to my spiritualist to tell him what happened, i was happy thinking the ring has worked, i didn't know what i was getting into, oh-if only i had gone to a church for prayers, my life today would have been different, anyway i forgot everything about her, stopped drinking and became my normal self again, but another prob started, a bigger one, that still lingers till today -THE RING,  there was more to that ring that i didn't know about, i shud have listened to her, infact, i shudn't have gone close to the spiritualist in the first place, to be contd

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I went back to the spiritualist (Tony) and told him everything that happened and how she reacted to the ring, and that i now believe everything he said, that she cast a spell on me and wants to eventually steal my destiny. Tony told me that the job has not been finished yet, that the ring is just a temporary solution, he went on to tell me that everytime i have sex with her (kate) she will later wash out the semen from her private part and use it to prepare a meal for herself, that over the years she has been making a meal of my semen and by so doing taking my destiny gradually, of course there are a lot of rituals involved, according to him she has gone very far but she has not succeeded yet, but that she has done enough to affect me already, i didn't believe everything he was telling me anyway but i saw the manifestation on her reaction to the ring, it was as if she was scared of the ring and fled from me. Tony now told me that i shudn't have involved myself with the kate in the first place, that her dad is a strong native doctor and he initiated her into the ocult world at birth, according to tony, kate posseses more powers than him so he cannot retrieve my destiny from her, cos she is more powerful than him, that either i accept her wish and marry her, or he will appeal to a higher body to interfere on my behalf. I told him that i can't even contemplate marrying the daughter of a native doctor. MOREOVER i was just in my 3rd yr so marriage was not in my immediate plans. Anyway he said i will undergo spiritual bath for a week while he will forward my case to a higher council for a more permanent solution and 2 prevent future destiny thieves from having access to my destiny, stupid me, i went along cos he has convinced me with d ring. Anyway i was glad to be my normal self again and had stopped rem kate, i took the spiritual bath, it involved coming to his hotel room, and bathing a water with some black substances floating on top, on the 5th or 6th day i started noticing something, i was becoming afraid of going to c the man, on the last day of the bath i was scared that something might happen to me there, so i went with a friend and had him wait for me at the hotel lobby, i didn't tell him who i came to meet at the hotel, the spiritualist tony told me that he noticed that i was scared that i shudn't worry, it will go away, i took the last bath and he declared me healed, that the council has interceded on my behalf, the girl has been asked to stay away from my destiny, i was now as free as a bird. but that it wasn't easy cos she was a very powerful person in the spiritual realm. he advised me not to go back to her on my own cos if i did, the whole thing will start again and this time the council willl not help me out.  I don't know what exactly Tony did for me but i became very sensitive to people around me, i started noticing things i wasn't noticing b4, i will enter a taxi or bus and i will suddenly feel that the occupants of the bus wanted to kidnap me and take me away for rituals. I will enter a restaurant to eat and i feel the sudden feeling that i would be poisoned, if i look around i will notice some ppl looking at me strangely, gradually it dawned on me that i was now a target of a cult group that needed me for rituals. I started having terrible dreams, in my dreams i will often see skulls that have been used for rituals, ppl will be pursuing me and will be trying to kidnap me for rituals, i went back to the hotel to see tony but i was told that he has gone back to his state, no contact address. I was now alone in my despair. School resumed and i went back to school, the fear persisted, i told my friend and he suggested i join a cult group, that my fears will go away. I told him that i wasn't scared of my fellow students but that there are ppl hunting, watching me, tracking my movement etc he convinced me when i join the cult that all that fear will go away, that his friends will be my friends and i will be too connected to be scared of anything,  that was how i joined . in my 4th yr, after avoiding the advances of various cult groups from my yr till 3rd yr, i succumed to my friends request and became a member of . to be contd, After my initiation, we were taken to Ogoni to various protection charms, adding more probs to the exising ones. I become so jazzed up that i couldn't even take injections, needles couldn't enter my body, to be contd