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I am from the UK and interesting in travelling to nigeria to live for a while. Can anyone advise me on how I could go about getting a visa. Do I need to have a job before hand with sponsorship, (if so where is the best place for foreigners to find jobs). Is it easy for a foreigner to find a job? I would be mainly interested in office work but am quite flexible with this.

When coming to nigeria how much money would I need in US$ to get set up with place to live etc.

Can anyone suggest a repretable private investigator in nigeria (lagos) who I can contact from overseas to assist me to find someone. I am a little concerned about looking for someone on the net, have them take my money and getting nothing.

I have what i think is a nigerian phone number that i need to call.

Firstly i have what i think is a home number it starts with 014 and has 9 digits,  the second is i think a mobile number is starts with 080 and has 11 digits. 

Is this correct for nigerian numbers and what do i need to call from overseas to contact these numbers.

Thanks for so many responses, both good and bad.  As much as I dont want to hear negative things it is nothing compared to what i will get from my family and friends when i tell them.  Things like "are you stupid" "how can you raise a baby with no father" "why not have an abortion" are coming to mind.  However, I am the one looking at the baby on the ultrasound and listening to the heartbeat and it is my life.

I dont want to cause arguments between posters, everyone can have their own opinion, it is hard to put all the details into one post for people to make informed responses

What a few people have said is correct, i dont want anything from the father financially etc, but i do want my child to know its family and herritage.  The child is half nigerian and i want it to know about its nationality, country etc.

I am 35 years old, i have a university degree and a job.  I dont need anyone to hold my hand.  I am in a position both financially and emotionally to raise a child on my own.  However,  I dont want my child to not know who its father is.  I want to be able to tell the child who its father is and the circumstances.  

We are both living in Korea at the moment and have been dating for a year.

What is going to happen in the future if the child goes looking for his father.  My boyfriend is indicating that if his family and wife found out then he would be left with nothing, no family, no money etc (completely ousted from his village).  Is this really what can happen.  In my county people get divorced, move on, stay together through problems etc.  they family sticks by them and supports them.  He is indicating that this is impossible.

I have spent my morning looking for a place in which to ask advise, this is the first time a have posted a message to this site and i have to say i am not so impressed with it.

I know nothing about nigerian family beliefs, values etc.  I have already made the decision to keep the baby no matter what the concequences are.  I am asking about what i can expect in the future for my child.

there are many nigerian men living in foreign countries for years while they have familys back in nigeria and therefore i expect that this is not the first time this circumstance has happened.

The reason why I posted this message is to find out if anyone else has been/is/has heard of a similar situation and what was the outcome.

I dont think all nigerian men are dogs,  i dont hate my boyfriend etc, i am trying to understand the situation he is in as my background and family is very different to what his appears to be.

If i just wanted sympathy and bagging nigerian men would i have posted to this site

Hi,  i am a white girl and i have been living overseas for a while now,  my boyfriend is a Nigerian man.  I recently found out i am pregnant and am opposed to abortion.  When i discussed this with my boyfriend i found out that he actually has a wife and daughter back in Nigeria already and wants the situation to just dissapear.

He does not want anyone in Nigeria to find out about this, however i do not want to have an abortion.  He has given me the impression that it would cause big problems for him.

I plan on returning to my own country and going ahead with the pregnancy, i dont expect marriage etc from him, but i would like him to recognize his has a child and not to have it be a secret for the rest of the child's life.

Any suggestions.  and can anyone advise what would be the consequences of his wife and family finding out.