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Sometimes? Dude you should regret that sham of a marriage ALL the time.

Moreso, that dirty thing you call a wife should be in jail for the ABUSE she inflicted on those little CHILDREN. You are also an enabler of child abuse by refusing to report her to relevant authorities.

Forget these women citing "depression" etc.. sometimes a badly behaved woman is simply a badly behaved woman and should be treated accordingly.

I can't stand simps who employ KIDS for their LAZY wives in the guise of "housemaids" and further turn a blind eye to the maltreatment of these innocent maids

You and that w!tch must be jailed.

Richy4:
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My brother, I am not in that guy's head to know what he was thinking.I don't wanna be the devil's advocate. But to out rightly assume that the guy wanted to use the OP as a means of moving abroad is just preposterous..

Yes he was married before. But now he was no longer married... you said it as if you were sure that he was in another relationship after his divorce, saw OP abandoned that and ran after OP because she was living in UK.. what if he was concentrating in bringing his kids up, and was not interested in any other relationship because of his previous experience. But Then he saw OP, since he has known her before, decided to rekindle the flame again since they have known each other before.

Most of those guys you were talking about that can't give a second glance to a single mother were Bachelors. Not in this case when both of them got their baggage that they were coming with into this relationship..

Besides, all those 15+ that you mentioned, the OP was not single then neither was the man in question.. Assuming u attended high school in the '90s, u would have agreed with me or know how easy it was to loose contacts with close friends .. Cellphone that was rampant nowadays was not like that those days.. ask any one that attended college in the '90 if he/she still know quarter of the were about of their school mates.

I see where you're coming from. You've got a point.

Richy4:
Really? .. I didn't see any red flag. But Why did you think the OP's side of the story was the gospel truth and finds red flags all over the man's side of the story? Was it because of environmental differences? She lives in UK which was paradise to every Nigerian .. and the man lives in Nigeria which was hell therefore no credibility whatsoever in anything he says correct ? If he can take her side of the story without much issue why do u think she shouldn't take his?

Relationship is about taking risk and making sacrifices.. If she can't take relationship risk and see where it's gonna lead, maybe she has no business going into it in the place
because whether she likes it or not, heartache will be there, she will get hurt unintentionally or intentionally..If she doesn't want to take a leap, it's OK but I dislike reading about people thinking every one is interested in relocating when matters of the heart is involved...

Though I know where she was coming from.. once stung by a bee, everything including housefly now looks like bees... But I think She was going this whole thing the wrong way.. She wants her kid to have a father figure.. Also want his EX to know she is desirable.. What about her emotional feelings..

Don't get me wrong my guy, the dude is 42years old and has been married before.

Likewise, OP is a 40year old single mother and we all know that most guys wouldn't give a second thought to a woman with her SMV unless there's something to be gained (in this case could be papers?) I just have a strong feeling that the guy sees OP as a ticket out of 9ja.

His supposed marriage packed up in his 20s - why wait 15+ years before reaching out to OP?

Too many red flags in his story