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africanman85:
I have a girl am currently dating and she is mummy girl but she doesn't have money. How do I make her invest?

there's no way she won't have any money at all. Even the one given to her by other folks. You can tell her to buy things for you with her money, and don't pay back. Tell her things u like; it could be to buy fruits, snacks, anything. Tell her to do things for you - dont beg or persuade her, just give her instructions, send her on errands, ask her to cook for u, give you a massage etc. So many things bro. Anything to serve you, ask her to do it. For me I always make them invest in some sort of way from very early on, it might be initially difficult for u if u didn't start on that footing but start anyway; start small and at the same time reduce your own investments in her. With women less is more: text less, call less, spend less, invest less and if shes into you, she'll do more. A lady I'm seeing who is even older than I am and I'm not even dating her seriously keeps telling me she hasn't done all what she does for me to another man; she says it out loud, that confirmed to me that alot of men don't know their value and make women invest in them.

It's more accurate to say they are men that have no self respect. I didn't have motherly love; infact I grew up with a malignant narcissist mother that abused me emotionally, verbally and even physically but I have a very high level of respect for my self. I don't tolerate any form of disrespect from women.

Saw this man drive past in his SUV one night a couple of months ago in calabar. Its all a grand scheme towards 2031, his real intention is to be the next governor of CRS. He'll step down and endorse Tinubu, then probably be rewarded with a juicy appointment afterwards.

Ekele22:
Simping do not start now and will not end now.
Samson in the Bible was the first simo.and he lost his eyes and died.
Omo,
Nigeria men simp alot and that is what is making our girls lazy and rude.

I know a girl , we normally chat up and discus together when we are less busy, she also yell me how stupid some of our men are

Fine girl , but why spend on her.

This girl will just chat up his male friends she has almost 10 and be demanding money from them

She told me that some week she make almost 100k from such demands

She will call one, I want to eat sharwarma, the fool will send 10k.

She will call another and the call goes on.
I doubted her initially until she did that in my presence and I almost lost hope on my gender.

Men, take care of yourself .
Naija women no send you oooo.
Anyone enter your trap , bleep craze comot from her body

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some women make a living off keeping men solely for resource extraction

Israel5:
He wrote his will before passing. It was confirmed. His siblings and mother are to share it.

he knew he was living on borrowed time

It's very simple; Alcohol is sex fuel. It lowers the inhibitions of both parties and also causes relaxation, thereby boosting sexual appetite.

Perewenkle1:
I don’t like when wrong information is given attention and most of the times, yes.
No amount of diet can prevent prostate enlargement, it’s common to black men, over 80% of blacks men will have it in their lifetime, what they should be talking about is how to survive it, don’t get me wrong, good diet is good for you.
First, regular blood work is needed at age 40 and older to monitor it, your blood work should tell your PSA level.
In Nigeria, most doctors will recommend surgery, please don’t, your regular medication will control it and if it blocks your urine, an insertion is needed to drain your bladder through your penis. Worst case is laser surgery to reduce the enlargement size through your penis, please do not let anyone cut your body as surgery to remove prostate , in Naija you will not make it. I have not seen anyone who did prostate surgery in Naija who survived after few months.

OK I want to clarify something - if surgery is done to take out the prostate, it means you've lost sexual function right?

EmmyMaestro:
Is it true that their women (Calabar) are skillful in the oza room.

I want to confirm before I include it as no. 11

it's actually an over exaggeration

Pacesetter123:
Can you tell me,apart from the Bekwara L.G.A,is Bekwara tribe found in another L.G.A.?
because I know a tribe like Ejagham,they are found in so many L.G.A.s of CRS.
Is Bekwara also found in other LGA like that or it's only that one LGA?

it's not

JESHAL007:
@emmaodet, times have changed,

it will literally burn me if the woman I married ever said this of me

Malaria is one sickness I really detest. Just recovered today since Friday of last week. Really wish mosquitoes were not a thing.

Nice read. You hit the nail on the head

DJperdurabo:
Be rest assured he spent some good money to accomplish this. If he tells you otherwise (claiming all that alpha shit), he's lying between his teeth!

if your basics are sorted you don't need a lot of money to sleep with naija girls. Jettison this your mentality

He'll be like 2 or 3 years older than that age. He didn't take out much from his real age

Pukkalolo:
This is an interesting question. I'll create a thread/topic on it and mention you, so you won't miss it.

I'm also interested in the thread. I'd appreciate it if you mention me as well

You knew that you married relatively late, that's the more reason why you should have embraced the burden of making routine exercise and fitness your lifestyle. I'm not sure of her age, but she's still very active in the game - women in their 30s and early to mid 40s tend to be very Hot before they gradually slip into menopause. You had your work cut out, but you refused to accept the burden of performance.

Ebawaters:
First i want to appreciate you guys. I have received alot of bashing here. People calling me simp and others laying curses. And there are some guys here,that want me to get my phone back. I will say thank you guys for the care and advice. The problem now i cannot collect back the phone from her.
The receipt is with the girl and it carries her name. I'm just a stranger in that land who come to work there. I'm avoiding having an issue with an indigen that can escalate to my work place. I can't bear the shame if people find out I did such thing. I came here because it was a faceless forum. To pour out on what is bothering my mind.
I can't lie I'm not good with women. Sometime if am trying to be careful with them one way or the other i will still loose guard. All the things are just happening to me, because i am been pressured to settle down. I'm not getting younger anymore.

let it go, use this as part of your learning curve

She's attempting to turn him into something she's gonna hate. Him deciding to go silent and not react to issues when he's angry is a masculine move, he better sticks to it and not allow her pull him off centre.

This guy will be like 25% body fat atleast

After knowing what I know now about intersexual dynamics, and knowing them from when they became a couple, not surprised they got divorced.

shotuns:
China owns worse upon that population of about 1.5 billion people, having hardly seen 12 good players for the national team.

Talking of China, the only notable player i think theyve produced that I remember is a certain Dong fang Zhuo - played for man utd circa 2007, 2008

UKEMY:
My cOusin she is a single mum and she got married to a Man,I have lots of single moms but they are almost all same.
1.They all blame their baby daddy.
2.They all begs a lot
3.Lieing na water

Ladies should be sincere to themselves,cause it's their greed and reckless lifestyle that made them Single mama with the baby daddy not seeing them suitable as their wife.

My story
My babe left me,banged a guy,she got pregnant and was almost abandoned by the guy,she ran to me for assistance.
I gave her money for antenatal,money for Diapers and milk sometimes but ehhhh ,
Single mothers are highly manipulative.

Single mothers should marry advanced in age men or single fathers not young guy.

I have no issue with single mothers but can't start paying school fees immediately

most have low self-esteem, and they're highly manipulative to psychopathic levels.

ravensckar:
Health workers, topmost on the list.

Civil servants i.e local govt, ministry, secretariat, following closely.

The two categories knack themselves shamelessly without hiding it. The rest dey learn work for where dem dey.

#Picks_tooth.

lol. You're correct with the ranking. Didn't know about civil servants until I got posted for the first time as a newbie, within a week i was flirting with and bedding the lady i shared an office with. Way older than me 🙃 . Six months later I was posted out sha, and just before then a guy was posted there who happens to come from her place, and their body language suggested she did same with him. She told me how from their conversation she discovered he's married to her childhood friend. A year down the line, We aren't as chummy as we were, but we still jamming. While I was in the same work place with her, I suspected she was/has been passed around, from my observations and by listening to what she wasn't saying.

N/B: she was always telling me of how she's being disturbed by the men in the office and how she doesn't wanna get involved with them.

Dzzzz:
Bro many are lazy and many wanna eat their cake and have it..😒

it's cos of greed. Not laziness

V

Joshbaba1:
I beg to differ on this your assertion. I use to believe this your theory until I dated a girl who is super jealous and would get a angry if a lady do as much as smiled at me or my jokes. I thought she wasn't cheating too until when I found out she was sleeping with more than 15 guys and I'm not exaggerating. She makes me see ladies differently since then.

don't mind the person u quoted. Women do it alot. When a woman becomes overly accusatory of you cheating even when there's no modicum of evidence, she's most likely cheating. It's called projection. I've experienced it as well

If it happened when you were with a really attractive girl, I would have said there might be a problem but in this case you said you don't find her attractive, which i think is the reason. There's a way you'll not be attracted to someone that even taking a pill might not help
Your erection might even still fall while you're inside her. Been there.

Pukkalolo:
First, the idea that raw attraction or genuine desire has an “expiry date” like carton milk…

Nah…That's totally false…

You're confusing temporary “interest” vs raw desire.

They are two totally different things…


First off…

You're right… Interest can wear off because of life's stress, arguments, familiarity… She might pull away, stop texting first, or wherever… but that’s interest dying. Not raw desire.

Raw desire doesn’t just evaporate because time passed or Instagram flooded her feed with male options.

Raw desire can go dormant. It can get buried under resentment or life circumstances. But it doesn’t expire like a coupon code.

Here’s the key difference:

You can lose interest in a woman who’s smoking hot…maybe because she disrespected you, maybe you got distracted with work and hustle…and then, one day, you catch a glimpse of her in those sexy tight jeans, smell her perfume… and boom. That raw pull hits you again like a truck. You never “lost” the raw desire. It was just sleeping.

Same for women. A woman can lose interest in you, because she got bored, annoyed, distracted by life… and still have that raw desire flood in back the second you flip the right switches again.

That’s why exes who “moved on” suddenly get wet when you show up looking sharper, acting dominant, reminding her “body” why it reacted to you in the first place.

Look, Zabiboy… Social media didn’t shorten the “desire window.” It only shortened the attention span window.

Abundance of male options on social media makes women flake faster on mild interest. But raw desire is biological, not algorithmic. A woman scrolling past 1,000 cute guys on TikTok doesn’t erase the imprint you left on her nervous system if you genuinely triggered her raw animalistic circuits once.


Now, you said the “third-world desire is fake because of survival instincts” line…


Lolz… you're wrong…

But true, women prioritize providers more openly. They’ll admit it outright, like my Bleep buddies did, she told me: “I’m marrying the rich guy even though I don't desire him sexually.” That’s hypergamy on full display: securing resources while secretly chasing raw desire.

So no…raw desire doesn’t expire.

That’s why a woman can swear she’s “over you,” block you, marry someone else… and still melt the second she sights you because your presence triggered that emotion and primal desire in her.

Interest comes and goes. Raw desire stays forever.

you're right. This is what happened between me and an older lady I met last year. First time we were intimate she almost ripped off my clothes ,sucking n licking me everywhere. That's raw desire. As time went on ,I could feel the interest wane n I also pulled back but when we met again she couldn't have enough of me

AngelSlay:
I've worked as a housekeeper in a hotel if you know what we use the towels to clean you won't use them if you lodge 😌. We use to give people water from the pool to bath and we use to give used towel to another guest if you disturb us too much.

u use the towel to clean things like what

Wouldn't wish to see this person naked, and without makeup

JESHAL007:
Scarcity

For this one, I agree. Truth be told, I am indeed in scarcity, its not as if I don't know. I'm very red pill aware; I've been following this thread for a while and I know the nitty gritty of women nature. There's only one thing that's holding me back from optimising my options, and it's something I'm working on to fix by 1st quarter of next year latest. The thing though is I don't show it to her. I don't let her sense it, from the way I act. I'm not needy, I dont crave her attention. If anything she's the one that is always wanting to get my attention and I don't give it out to her all the time; In fact she's always complaining of me not calling her. In my mind I am just enjoying the moment but at the same time it dawned on me that she's not exclusive. I've not told her about the recent discovery, I just told her that we should run a test, that its something I always do periodically. So yeah, I will agree n I'm aware I'm in scarcity for now, but I'm not a simp neither am I beta. My plan is to enforce the boundary and if she's not OK with it, I'll walk away

I wouldn't have had a problem of continuing to smash but I'm concerned about my health, she has said different times that she can't let me use a condom on her. I got her to do an sti test after I saw the dirty chats with the guy she says is just a friend, now I want her to do another one after the recent chats I saw of her. I mentioned it to her to run the test and she rebuffed it saying she's clean, doesn't have money and other excuses. I want to bring it up again in the coming week, because salary will be paid, how do I go about it

gentlegiant95:
I've asked severally for her to open up to me and tell me if she's seeing other persons, so we can be clear on what we're doing, atleast so i can start protecting my self (we usually have unprotected sex) but she wouldn't budge, even after I saw her chats with that guy, she claims she's had nothing with him which is hard to believe, and I've also seen a recent chat on her phone in which she referred to someone she says is her brother as "my love"

I've asked severally for her to open up to me and tell me if she's seeing other persons, so we can be clear on what we're doing, atleast so i can start protecting my self (we usually have unprotected sex) but she wouldn't budge, even after I saw her chats with that guy, she claims she's had nothing with him which is hard to believe, and I've also seen a recent chat on her phone in which she referred to someone she says is her brother as "my love"

gentlegiant95:
Guys i have a question; I usually hear that women are very good at hiding the different men that they're seeing from each other, how true is that? I ask this because there's this lady I'm in a "relationship" with, I have evidence that she's seeing other people, I have even seen a dirty chat of her and someone she claimed is just a friend in the past, stopped talking to her,she begged me n after sometime started seeing her again. As a result of that I decided that I won't fully commit myself to the "ship" cos I'm not the only person in her life. So she basically carries the whole thing. Calls me daily or every other day, I barely call. She has invested in me in different little ways, cooks for me, parted with her cash etc. I wanted to know could it be that I'm her best option, in spite of the fact that I'm younger than she is, though I'm not financially stable yet. I don't even have a place of my own yet, we regularly meet in a hotel, which sometimes she contributes to the bills and also brings food for me or buys stuff when she comes. What do u guys think?