₦airaland Forum

chinweub:
@Op which part of Nigeria are you from?

I understand girls from certain region of Nigeria are usually "married men" magnet and home destroyers

Mumu

Boyloaf:
look here @poster, wat is wrong wit u? u better be careful! I tink u r lookin for a reason to spoil somebody's relationship. u said he is engaged, then, u went ahead to say u feel he is nt happy, are u a prophet? Did he tell u he is nt happy? Why do u want to cause a fellow woman like u pain? Get your useless self out of his affairs and do nt plan to seduce him! Mind your own biz! Go and look for your own man! U really annoy me! Damn!

I get you.

Mynd_44:
How come the Job comes first in the list of good qualities

It just came in no particular order.

Thanks guys and I never said I was dating these married men. I simply said the attention from them is so much ranging from my work place and i have found myself almost falling and wanting their friendship(s). Those are two different statements.


@Afroxyz
Why are u guys wasting time. From her post it is obvious that she has made up her mind. Please leave this gold digger alone. Instead of her to look for a man to build, she is looking for ready made material. Ole
[quote][/quote]I simply don't have your time. If you are gold digger, not everyone is like you. People like you that cannot read and understand before spitting out garbage.

slimyem:
maybe you should tell him how you feel now  but remember you might complicate his present relationship if you do.
you did what you were supposed to do at 19.schooling,dating and fun not marriage.if he's meant to be yours,you'd get him back.if not,another Mr.right will come along  pretty soon.

I want to and have thought about it several times but i sometimes feel he would laugh at me or turn me down or talk about when he was so interested about marriage, i didn't agree then.

priest2u:
what happened to the auditor you have a crush on, in your office? couldn't he be the man you've been waiting for.

Anyway you still have time.

Lol the auditor is a crush i happened to have on him and didn't mind getting to know him better but he is acting tooooo slow, while the one i'm talking about now, i know that one very well.

freecocoa:
Han ha,is he the only man who's shown genuine interest in you?I thought there's a thread about a guy in your life or something,I don't see why you should see it as a loss except maybe you love him and want to be with him.

He is not the only one that has shown genuine interest but amongst the ones meeting me now and even one that talks marriage with me, he is the one with very good qualities as per, job, good family, good height, religion etc

They say what is yours will always be yours. What about in a situation where you let someone go and maybe that someone was yours?! I remember when I was 18/19, I met this gentleman who had a good job and was even talking about marriage, I didn't dismiss him but i wasn't ready at the same time. I had told him to give me small time to really figure out what i wanted, that i wasn't saying no but with school and all on my mind and so many a past/present relationship, let's see how time would play itself.
Now in my early 20's i look back and we still talk but he is already to engaged to someone else i don't think he really likes. I look back and tell myself he should have been my husband, a good husband material and then i remember i never dismissed him or even told him no out of selfish reasons, it was just too fast for me then.
Now I can't help but think and wonder if this is my own loss, that i should have just said yes when i was 18/19 years old or maybe that is not the person God has for me. I've even thought about telling him, i'm ready to settle down. Advice needed.

I feel my time is running out and at this age, i should have someone propose to me. Is this weird?

Pls no judgement or harsh judgement but at my workplace, most of the men who are married keep toasting me, maybe other females too and I now find myself getting attracted to perhaps one or two of them, wanting their friendship even though i know they are married and their family lives abroad.

obowunmi:
Is this your boss?

No an auditor that came to my office.

Sijo01:
Wait 4him to call u.
tak it easy so dt u'll not mess fins up.

I agree, the only problem is I feel I would wait for so long if he is still shy to approach or call me

obowunmi:
Btw, what's the point of this relationship ? To marry or just to date ?

Lol umm I think to date and possibly marry if compatible

.NET:
Take it easy, Love dey shack o. LOL. Let him call you first! I wish you luck.

.NET

Thanks, hope I'm not going to wait like forever.

He finally asked me for my number and even said he missed me a day I didn't come to work. Should i wait for him to call me first at least or do I call him myself?

OK He finally asked me for my number and even jokingly told me he missed me a day I didn't come to work. I don't know if i should call him or wait for him to call me.

sauer:
^if you can't treat him like a normal human and simply call him, then stop the whining on here. Leave the poor boy alone! Okay?

What do you mean Call him with what like I have his number? And who is whining?

Cuddlemii:
I think a simple conversation would do. Just have a chat with him from there tell him you both work in the same place & yet you don't have eachothers numbers that it would be handy in case of emergencies, God forbid & above all he is your friend.

From a conversation to a telephone conversation, the rest is history. Your boss setting you both up is a very wise decision as it would divert the shyness from the guy and the fear of approach from you. It would put both of you on the same balance so you start relating free or slightly freely. Best of luck, I know it would work out fine.

Lol We don't work in the same place. He is an auditor for my Company and wouldn't be here all through

Yield:
Your boss's nice for trying to set you up. Shy guys are cute, especially if they're shy around you. It's even worse if you're shy yourself because things can just get really awkward when you see each other and try to talk, lol. The next time you see him, smile and say hello, and hopefully you would be able to get a little conversation going. There's nothing wrong with you breaking the ice first. At the same time, if a guy's really interested in you, even if he's super shy, he would still find a way to summon up the courage to talk to you.

We've been able to talk every now and then though he has not been able to get my number or ask me for it even when he said he would call me tonight to talk and also we were having a conversation today or about to when his partner, the other auditor came in and winked so we stopped and I left lol

Thanks guysssssss for all the advice and approaches, would try those

But also the people we are working with and the other auditors with him make it much harder for us to even strike a friendly conversation.  You know how people gossip and would become suspicious if they see just us talking and that is the kind of setting that is more comfortable.

Every little chance I (we)get, I would wish he would quickly ask for my number or drop his on my table without others looking 'cos this is still an official setting/environment with different people.

mashnino:
^^and you also can't plan on what to disquss with him, make it look like a process, try and talk about sumting maybe work stuff or life issues like that and if he falls for the gist well then u can kip talkin bt dnt talk much oo, else he will be scard of you.

Wouldn't it be weird that after about a month or 2, it's now I'm talking to him about life, work etc? It's suspicious lol even though I know that my boss has discussed with him in trying to get us together

mashnino:
all the guy said above is okay. but he's shyness should not be taken for his general behaviour i mean, he may be a bera lover but very poor at approaching women. so like the guy said above drop all ya shyness and talk to him. if you are waitin for him madamme you go tire to dey wait

Ok but what if I ask and he turns me down? Lol,  I guess i'll try by friday at most to get the number but I wonder what to discuss with him,  Cannot just tell him I like him,

ArQueBusieR:
Nerds.

why?

sexylogan:
You hav to put aside your shyness and ask him directly for his number. Think of anything. Something like you need his advise on somethin bt now's nt the ryt tym becuz you've got wrk to do at the moment so cud he pls give u his number so that u can call him later? You've gotta try. This may be your one chance at true love so don't blow it. Best of luck.

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Ok but what would I really talk to him about without knowing his interest? Is he really interested in knowing me as he couldn't even get my number? But would be smiling n tell me we would talk one on one but still nothing

There is a guy specifically an auditor, so decent and gentle I admire at work and think I do like him. Someone I don't mind getting to know more outside the office, a date etc but the problem is I think he is shy. I told a boss of mine that I was interested and he said he would help us come together. According to him, the guy really does like me and he has even come to approach me that he would call me to talk tonight and all that but I'm thinking, how would he call me when he doesn't have my number? lol
Now my boss says before the end of the week, he would come to me and we would go out but when i see him at work, we act so shy towards each other and sometimes don't even get to gist.
I want to know the best way to approach this without seeming too forward or should I just forget about it?