scobaba: A whole lot of guys have lost their relationships cos the chicks don't see the potentials.

It takes the grace of God to keep a long relationship these days when one is not making progress financially.

But there are still ladies who would stay and encourage the guy who is making effort to step up even when the 'step up' doesn't look certain.

My case is always my example.

Had a six years relationship that suffered financial set back for the first 4yrs. Lost my first job in the bank, got another 6months later but still Could not find my feet. Being the first of 5kids and bread winner to about 12younger ones,(including 7 orphaned cousins), with 6 in the university, my 250k 'cool salary' was not cool enough...i was always broke before 20th of the next month.

It got me thinking if my girl would stay.

All that while I was gathering professional qualifications and a masters degree, hoping for something better.

Finally light came...got into oil/gas last year, the white interviewer said he never saw another banker with so much extra qualifications...'where u get the time', he said in pidgin.
So that was how It went and everything changed. we got married 8months after that.

Today when we talk about those times, she will tell me she stayed because she knew deep down dat the extra steps I was taking in my life would pay some day, but that she always prayed the someday comes quickly cos ladies and age are not friends.

honestly am motivated and disturbed at the same time my fiance is a graduate was teachin den resigned because he felt it wasn't paying enough and resorted to full time satlite installation he says he earns more from d satelite wrk dan the job my parent rejected him because he doesn't have a stable job but he is vry hardwrking no one treats ad cares for me d way he does he always pays my bills alwz provides for me am confused he bought a canter truck to b a goods transport vehicle he was recievin dividend b4 it brokedwn he is looking for land to build and vry serus wt my education he is still applyin in telecomunication companys to wrk as dia installer he plans and does it though he doesn't struggle to get anytin by all means he only prays ad do d right tin he is not d over ambitous typ but my parent says he has no future is it that I can't see what they r seeing or shud I go ahead and marry him I love him so mch he has changed me a lot he brought me to christ his a disiplined and trustworthy pasin dat wud starve to see me happy and he is serusly helping me pursue my dreams what should I do