MrBrownJay1:


yes... i believe she wrote that:" she tried to abort but after bleeding heavily, and the baby not being aborted, she decided to keep it. 7 months later baby daddy came back into the picture just in time for baby's birth..."

i doubt she was pregnant for big daddy twice....OP pls come and clarify that issue.

I was pregnant for him first time in the year 2014 and when he asked me to abort, I willing did because I had no job then and I bled for 2 months then in 2014 but the second one which is this baby, I couldn't.

Tajbol4splend:
You already made up your mind na, it doesn't look like you need advice

Well I need...maybe theres there's something am not doing right...I love him so much and at the edge of losing him...at first, I tot sex and care will bring me closer to me but no its not

Acidosis:

2013 you were serving

2020, your business has expanded so much that you now have an apartment in your name in Magodo? Same Magodo we all know?

Omo, I need to know the kind of business you do. Can we talk?

No we can't. I don't smuggle hard drugs, I supply pharmaceutical packaging materials...

Homeboiy:
Fake story

Just like a nollywood movie

U bought a small apartment

Mtcheew

Yes buying a house in Lagos is a big deal to you shey or you have never seen such

Just ignore instead of u leaving a comment I don't need to use my worth to brag for any reason...it can only be God

ibkayee:
You need to move on my dear and focus on detaching yourself from him emotionally, it will be tough but it's a necessary 'struggle'. He has shown you he isn't serious in soooo many ways, and I won't be surprised if he's married. This guy has taken you for a mug, please stop allowing it

Also, please stop sleeping with him if you still are (I say this because you said he would sometimes make love to you when visiting the baby).

Kudos for your successful business ventures

As for relocating, I'm getting the impression that you want to move because of him and not necessarily because it's something you want to do yourself? I know your emotions are on overdrive right now but please don't make such hasty decisions based on passing feelings. Have a real think over this and if you decide you still want to move, all the best, a fresh start may indeed be what you require, but just make sure you're doing it for the right reasons for yourself

Yes I want to leave because of him, I don't know how to open up for my family member that the man is not interested after I have waited for so many years. I can't face the embarrassment and am just using him to cover up for now till I pack my bag...am supposed to resume for my masters in Canada January 2021 but with the situation of this covid19 I don't know when

SweetCunt97:
How? You pack ur bag in your room and as it is, he should even have any right to step into her room sef. Anyway sha me get mind.

I've threatened him with that already that I may leave the country cos of his unserousness but he said when am leaving, once his child is 8years he will collect her from me...if I try to pick up a fight with him, he will say he wants to collect his child and I can't give out my baby because shes the only partner I've got for now.

MrBrownJay1:
pls, when the Canadian visa has been approved, brace yourself for this lame dude to come back into your life like you were the only woman in this world.

as sad as this story may be, you should take half of the blame for letting that useless brotha come in and out of your life and use you as he pleases. have more respect for yourself and he probably will too.

Ok thank you

XhosaNostra:
So what's the problem now? Forget about him & focus on your future plans. Just you & your child, with no human anchor weighing you down with negativity. You should be cartwheeling right now!
You'll meet new people, but don't repeat the same mistakes. Use contraceptives & don't fall pregnant again until a guy spells it out to you that he wants a family with you. Maybe you should also do a bit of introspection. Figure out why you're letting people step all over you. This joke of a relationship went on for as long as it did because YOU allowed it. When you're not getting what you want from a situation, walk away. That's for this one & for any future relationship you may have in the future.

In the meantime, relish in your newly-found freedom & single life because from now on you're not going to settle for less than you deserve, right? It's never too late to make New Year's resolutions or to turn on a new leaf & reinvent yourself. He's history. Finish. On to better things.

Thanks for this, God bless you

Hmmm...am 33yr old...I met a guy in 2013 during my NYSC and I fell for this guy immediately I met him. I visited him one day, we made love and all. Ever since then, he won't let me be, he will call and call that he wants to to be with. Then I asked if he was married, ofcos hes old enough to be married but he said it's a long story and he was single and that made me feel for him more.

Fast forward to 2 years ago, we have been on and off since then, I just discovered I couldn't love another man and am not the type to mingle with people, I don't party, I don't make friends, I only stay indoor and that really prevents me from getting suitors. So 2years ago, he called me and we settled again and I got preggy which he said I should abort that he wasn't ready for that but the dmfirst knew I aborted for him, I bled for about 2 months then, honestly then i thought it was over for me but God still kept me alive. So i kept the baby and he decided not to see me for about 7 months. So I had to leave my family's house and got my own apartment and he showed up just about 3days before I put to bed and he paid the hospital bills and foot the naming bills...

Since then, he will just come, but the babys needs and all then still make love to me sometimes but I told him he should go see my family but he refused...I don't ask him for money, since I had my baby, things really changed for me positively So he doesn't get to pay any bill for me.

Because of this, I decided to seek for admission in Canada that I want to relocate with my baby and leave the business for a family member and start a new life because am not getting the affection I needed from me and it makes me cry every night...each time I mention marriage rights, he will feel am desperate and we've been off and on for 8years.

I wish the covid 19 will just go away on time with the mercy of God so that I can relocate and start a new life.

'm 32 based in Lagos, self employed.