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Hi guys I’ve never posted on one of these before but I am a little lost right now!
I split up with my boyfriend about 3 years ago, it was me that ended the relationship I didn’t feel that it was going anywhere, I was finishing uni and needed more time for my studies and just some space back then.
I don’t think he wanted to end the relationship I know he was in love with me he fell for me really fast and I thought I felt the same about him but I knew it was right at the time to end it.
Since then I have bumped into him a few time around where we live and we are always nice to each other we ended on good terms really. But I recently spent some time working in another country where I met someone else who I thought I was really falling for but my visa was up and I had to leave the country, the new guy I met told me he wanted to come to England to see if we could make it work which I was really happy about, but the other day my parents told me they bumped into my old boyfriend working close to where I live.
Be it a good idea or not I decided to go and say hello and return an old t-shirt I had of his that I knew he would be happy to see (plus I had dreamt about him the night before and took it as a sign!)
It was really good to see him and he was genuinely surprised to see me, I asked him how he was he said “really good” I told him I had some thing to return to him he jokingly (I think…) asked me if it was “his soul” I smiled and fetched the t-shirt (which he was happy to see) we talked for a little I could tell he was really nervous he babbled a little and couldn’t look me in the eye (that’s what he’s like when he is nervous)
I told him we should go for a coffee to catch up he said yeah that would be good but we didn’t exchange numbers or anything (he doesn’t have a cell phone still!) I told him well “you know where I live” and he said “you know where I work” but since then I cant get him out of my head, I am still physically attracted to him I realised that as soon as I saw him the other day, now I don’t know what the hell to do!

My ex boyfriend is the only guy I would leave the man I am ‘seeing’ now for, but during our little chat the other day I found out he has been in a relationship with another girl for about 2 years… I want to ask him if he will take me back but I feel like a terrible person for even thinking about it as we both have other people in out lives but I cant stop thinking about him and how the relationship we had before would be so great now.

I feel bad for this girl he is with now I’ve tried to tell my self to forget it and leave him be, but I cant work I cant think I cant sleep I just really want to hold him again… and if there was any chance he would take me back I am prepared to deal with the wrath of the other woman its no more than I would deserve for breaking the relationship.

I just don’t know what to do!? Should I go to see him again? Should I tell him? Will he hate me for it?

Sorry for babbling on but it’s a little complicated! Any advice would be appreciated male and female points of view thanks for your time!