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davidif:
See logic! The fact that I don't earn a million naira for a bride price does not mean that one is not ready to marry it might simply mean that it is way beyond his budget. You don't need to have a million to to live day to day as husband and wife. You can cut your cloth according to your size. If the bride price is more than your budget then that's plain cruelty.



Culture should never reign supreme. Knowledge, logic and reason Trump culture any day any time. No wonder this continent is still a mess after all this years.

berrystunn:
What do you know about Igbo's and their traditions ?

Every village in Igbo land have their different requirements for traditional marriage.
They will provide you a list and all the steps needed for the traditional marriage...

No body will force the list on you if you are not capable,
Or if you needed more time or years to get things done.. No problem

The stupid girl saw the list or know about the requirements before the marriage... But she waited till after the marriage... Before oppose the list in public...

For your information is not the Father , the list is from the village community/kinsmen.

That is the reason why they take the marriage to the village ,If not the father will choose to receive his in-laws in Lagos or else where....

davidif:
So marriage is all about money right? Gotcha!

davidif:
First of all not every Yoruba person spends money on "owambe" so get your facts straight.
Secondly, marriage is a beautiful and honorable thing but unfortunately some unscrupulous and greedy families have commercialized it and used it as an avenue to satisfy their lust for money.
The truth of the matter is that some people are simply slaves to greed and won't mind selling their own children for money. Utterly shameless.

davidif:
Not everyone "leaves their place and looks for a foreigner to marry". Some people simply just run into other people that they are attracted to and who they have chemistry with and that they happen to have chemistry with. That's life and that's part of the human experience. In simpler terms, love just happens and it is a beautiful thing until all the ugliness like greed, prejudice, tradition and tribalism begin to come into play.
No one is born from the womb hating someone of a different tribe, its something they learn from their parents, friends and their society.

davidif:
The fact that something has been done from the olden days does not mean its correct. In calabar, twins were seen as devilish back in the day and were supposed to be killed. Did that make it the right thing? Abeg think this through and be objective. This is human greed hiding itself under the clothing of 'tradition.'

humilitypays:
there is no rise in dowry, people just come online to rant when they knew ahead they weren't prepared to settle down.

How many Igbo men do you see complaining about paying whether Igbo woman o, Yoruba woman o, Hausa woman o, Fulani woman or Oyimbo woman dowry

In fact, Igbo guys are known for paying more than the usual bride price of their bride, why Because we so much value our bride and are happy to have her in our life.

Some tribe collect penny for bride price, but other expenditures will make you scream.

President Buhari collected 10naira or so as bride price for Zhara Buhari, but did u hear that the groom bought expensive jewelries, clothes, etc for the family which is how Fulani's does their own, why not go and tell them to reduce it

Yorubas collect penny for bride price, but the money they spend on the wedding party alone can build an estate. In fact, they spend a fortune on the wedding party which makes their own wedding higher in expense, yet Igbos don't scream and complain Yorubas change their party way.

Yorubas should learn to respect Igbos pls

Austyno90:
COMMUNITY CELEBRATION
To me, it all boils down to the family. Who community epp

Igholize:
...... Mr Igbo, i am amazed at ur response to my comment.... u just talked like a child of which i bliv u are.... did i say in my comment, dat i have issues with Igbo's? sentiments has made u not to reason well. u sounds so pained child. no b only u b Igbo o. u just dey disgrace Igbo by ur silly response

berrystunn:
You don't know noting about the Igbo's and their traditions... That stupid girl saw or know what's its required to marry a girl in there village.... And the list was giving to the guy on what and what is needed....

If the guy can not afford the list or need more time to get things done no one will force him to.... fix a date for the marriage....

All am trying to say is that she saw the list and she did not say anything about it till after the marriage...

Igholize:
those of you calling her childish, stupid for bringing such private issue to
public forums should let her be.... it her personal life nd how she choose to live her life is none of ur concerns. she is pained' d way her lovely husband was treated by her pple nd decided to air her greviances out. like d saying, if u talk' dem go talk. if u no talk' dem go talk.... so, she decided to talk for dem to talk. ndo madam

ApexPredator:
The practice of charging exorbitant bride price to non-Igbos must continue.

sinceraconcept:
very wicked Biafra fathers selling their daughters off, and all the money would go down into buying Goat for Isi ewu,Wrapper,walking stick,the cloth with tiger patterns on it,the cloth with Lion head patterns on it,Barrels of Palm wine,Bottles of Seaman's Schnapps,baskets of Kola nuts,Bush meats,marry new wife and other useless things. After buying everything they would be looking for another matured daughter to sell off

Greenbullet:
Some foolish people are here slating Yoruba people, My friend married from a Yoruba Family and guess what, the father -in-law told the boy not to pay a dime for bride price, The cost of the wedding was shared between my friend and the father, right now my friend is in England with his wife, the money he intended to use for the bride price is what he used to process their travelling documents, I am the one in charge of building his house, at roofing stage, if the father was greedy like this IMO state man, the husbands life wouldn't have taken this turn !

Ishilove:
In African tradition it is the man who owns the child once he has legally married the mother, so the Efik ceremony is not necessary. It's just marriage according to Yoruba culture that should be done

Henryyy:
Stop telling pathetic lies. Even after i told you her name, you still argued. Own up to ur sh1t man.

Henryyy:
Many yorubas bear english surnames you fool. Names like Coker, Lawrence, Lopez, Williams, Salvador are common among yorubas. But hold on is coker an igbo name? Mumu attache tribe people. Stephanie Eniafe Coker is purely yoruba from Lagos state.

Henryyy:
What weed did you smoke? Stephanie Coker is a pure yoruba girl. Abi u dey think say she be igbo before? Get your insecurities under control fam.

Henryyy:
See tears o. Simply because you have lost blatantly. You need help more.
Lesson is never boast especially in matters where your opponents are better than you.

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Make e no be like say i too wicked make i stop now. Hope you've learnt your lesson even though you are putting up a fake front act.

theblessings:
comparing genevive with a gal of ha daughters agemate. u c ur lyf