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Just send the docs to Ottawa. It usually takes 7-10 business working days to process

ChisomGbulie:
please can you give me the contact person who helped with the emergency travel certificate. Please 🙏

Technically on their website, it’s says it takes 6-8 weeks for processing. You can DM as I have someone this happened to

njidekachi:
House please my baby's birth certicate has exceeded the 15working days rom the date of application but am yet to receive the birth certificate inorder to proceed with baby's passport processing.

I have called ontario services but did not yield any fruit, they keep saying its still processing

Iam stuck at this junction, pls sabi people kindly guide me if you have any info or better approach on how to manage this situation

I met someone that paid with insurance . Message me

Exbb:
Thank you so much ma. I am grateful. You have answered my questions so well. I will try to reach out to the insurance to discuss claims with them. My only question and where I am confused is in your second paragraph, were you said "I believe you will present the insurance to the hospital " Please if I present the insurance to the hospital in Canada is it not expected to cover for the whole thing even for the doctor or please is there something I am not getting properly ma. I use the insurance here in Nigeria and I get to see the doctor. When you talked about paying in cash, we have a dollar account and card from Nigeria, must I withdraw the dollars, or can I use the card to pay the doctor, because you talked about cash payment.

Also, please should I state in our application, when I am applying for the visa, that I will be giving birth or just make it a normal tourist visa.

Thank you so much. I'm grateful. I appreciate your time and response.

Message me

Candybright:
Did you have any need to get a Candian citizen to take you to the family doctor before linking you up to a gynea?
Did you get an airbnb or used a concierge service?
I'm also concerned about baby passport if one doesn't have a Canadian citizen that will stand as a surety.

I believe as long as you put supporting documents that show you are married then you should be fine .

I believe you will present the insurance to the hospital and as for doctor, you will need to pay urself as they accept only cash and possible your husband insurance can refund you.

Wishing you a safe delivery.

Let me know if you have any questions

Exbb:
Is it best to apply for a birth tourism or visit visa. Also, my husband is a Ghanian and I'm a Nigerian, I am yet to apply for Ghana passport, as I have been using my Nigerian passport, I will love to use his document as my sponsor, hope it won't be an issue. Also my husband works for a multinational firm in Nigeria and we have an insurance that covers child birth anywhere in the world for the birth of 3kids, please how do we use it or we should just use our money. I will be glad if I get response. Thank you moms in the house

That’s good

nwauwa:
good day. I sent you a Nairaland email last week, I don’t know if you saw it, however, my sister has gotten a midwife now

Have you gotten this done or you still need help?

njidekachi:
Please sabi mamas

For those that gave birth in ontario without their spouse present to sign the documents. How did u handle the passport processing for your little one?

Did hubby get a notarized consent from court in nigeria and send to u?
Kindly enlighten me

Do you know anyone in Calgary?

Birthing in Calgary is expensive though

Aderounkeomoba:
Hello everyone, I intend coming to calgary for childbirth by June. I need doctor and hospital suggestions and accommodation. Thanks

Please send me a message

nwauwa:
Please any contact of doctor or midwife at Ottawa or Ontario ? My sister has been searching for one for a month now and her EDD is just about a month.

Please 🙏

Hello, send me a message

Yfigal:
@happysisi hi, please can I get your email address or Whatsapp number. I want to have my baby in Canada and would need some information from you. Please help a sister

Okay

Verika1:
Hello @happysisi please I'm new here and have questions on accommodation and nanny. Please can you give me your email? I don't really know how to navigate in here to get your details please. I await your response

Hey everyone. Good to see this page is still waxing strong. Been years I haven’t been here
This is Hotstepper by the way. I just don’t know why NL changed my name for me lol.

Have a blessed day everyone .

Have you thought of Visa on Arrival for the child?

moyomola22:
Hello all, pls i need a Nigeria personel working in passport office in Ottawa, I need to get ETCfor my baby so I can travel with her .

Wow! This is some serious analysis for any single person to read nd digest well.

When a seriously argument comes up be I nd my hubby, he makes reference to my family like we r all settled nd his r not etc nd the funny thing is that I encourage him to help but at da same time, let them not take advantage of him by being lazy

Madampinkolo:
Preternatura1,

Was struggling with bread oo!!Trying to make d darned thing,e no gree.On my 3rd attempt.Make una beg the bread gods for me naa.
I'm using the machine and it's recipes, yet my loaves are like olumo rock!

I want you to know one thing.No matter your decision,you are not a bad person.The major thing is that you are contented and as happy as possible with your choice.We all here will deifinitely give conflicting opinions based on experiences.No one can say for certain this will turn out well or this will turn out bad.Read carefully,listen to your instinct,TAKE YOUR TIME and then decide.

NB. No two families run the same way.You build your family based on the individual characteristics of you and your man.

FINANCES:
Joint or No depends on you two.Some do it successfully,some have done it and ended in a lake of fire.You need to understand what he means by joint accounts more.Does it mean,you both get paid and all of it enters the same account? Does it mean when you both get paid,you both put in a percentage into the account? What of the ATM to the account,where will it be?Who will hold it?Does it mean you will have to ask before using funds in the account?Are you both going to be joint signatories?How is he with finances?How are you with finances? These are questions you should ask before committing to anything. Whatever works for both of you is fine.Be it joint or independent finances.Depends on you two.

CHAKAMCHAKAM eating(cc babyosisi ):

I am blessed with a chakam chakam eater.I nagged the chakam out of him.I CANNOT bear mastication sounds,be it from me,from him or anyone.I even hate the sound that happens when gulping water.That's why eating chin chin is a nightmare for me.I just don't understand why a person eats noisily,it makes me go mad!! Believe me when i say that eating with mouth open can drive you crazy..At first you may be able to look past,but once married and settled it will start grating on your nerves. Occasionally, DH falls back into chakam mode but my evil eye solves the problem immediately.He's now very conscious of it and even came back one day and was telling me of a colleague that was eating like an animal,the man had chips even falling out of his mouth as he was chewing it.DH told me he was so disgusted..I laughed inside(former pot calling kettle black )

CLASS 1 :

I believe that my sisters in law have a problem with me because they think I feel big cos of the family i'm from.Dealing with people with a chip on their shoulder is hard cos no matter what you do,they can never be satisfied.Mine even want to dress me like them so that we look alike,and i don't outshine them.
If there's nothing else you take away from me,take this!!! STUDY THE FAMILY!!!.. Family members can be the life or death of any union.
If you come from a place where you eat beef bourguignon and they are used to amala & ewedu,it can cause wahala.The day you refuse to eat the amala,it will be because you are feeling too big.You may feed your man bolognese and they will say you are starving him.Please do your due diligence.Any trace of hostility or inferiority complex,RUN!! If you don't want to run,just be ready for wahala.
His mom asking you to come and cook oha on the first day of meeting you is not bad in itself,BUT it shows she is very traditional.Your bobo wanting you to change attire to meet her while the attire was alright to you also points to the same thing.It's not a bad thing at all BUT keep your eyes to the ground and know the implications.Is she nice & willing to accept you without prejudice?Are his other family members very accepting?Some traditional ones are lovely,some posh ones are agents of darkness.You have lovely posh and demonic trado ones.Find where you belong.
Is he the family saviour?? Family saviours fiances usually face issues because the family may feel the woman is there to divert cash.Do your HOMEWORK.

COOKING:
I didn't know how to cook jack before i met my DH and i didn't care.I used to say love me for me not for food.DH didn't care too.We married like that and started managing whatever.He cooks crap,i cook crap but we were happy.We used to eat out a lot.Then,i realised that he loves food and I started improving...anyone i don't cook well,our code word is 'i'm eating this food with a heart full of love'
When his mom came,she taught him how to cook some soups,she also taught me some.
Before i fell out of love with MIL,i already told her i don't know how to cook so and so,so please do and come and cook it.She never made any noise about it(at least to my face).
I'm now a master cook,errrr i just discovered today that i'd been cooking jollof rice the wrong way.hahahahahaha.There are a million food blogs to go to.I'm improving daily,and the man confesses day and night.He has the specific ones he cooks though and we are fine.
Everything depends on you and your guy.Some men like fresh food daily,I'm a cook and freeze madam.Find out what works for you and the MR.If it's too hard,hire a cook and get on with it.


CLASS 2:
There are good men in all classes of society.I say i prefer people to stick with their kind.It's easier for a man who's from a high class to marry a low class woman and try to brush her up to fit in(even at that,she may still suffer),than a man from a lower class trying to fit in with the high class woman's family.The slight jabs and digs,the pressure to keep up!It can be immense and start causing cracks in a relationship.If you were very comfy with his background,you wouldn't have issues talking with your mother about him.I don't want the guy to go in and be tortured constantly for not meeting up to the family 'ideal'.It also depends on him is he able to blend in immediately with your people?Will you be proud to walk with him into a place filled with your family members?Will he feel like the odd one out?Will he be able to be himself or have to put on an act the entire time?

If you are used to xclass and by virtue of marriage can now only afford a 505 nko?Will you both be encouraged to work harder or will you be scorned?No point in starting what you cannot finish.My Dh & I aren't different by much but he felt like the pressure from external forces were too much especially as some of his friends are married into my close extended family.I told him that i find display of wealth uncouth but he kept saying so when others are buying brand new cars and name plates for their wives,we will be here driving kpoka kpoka.The man was torturing himself for no reason as those things don't appeal to me,neither does my nuclear family care.I then urged him to relocate with me and experience how beautiful living simply is &he did.We can hop on trains,ride bikes,walk,drive,whatever as long as we have each other.When he left Naija,he felt like a weight had fallen off his shoulders,no more friends measurement,nothing.Just us two.Some families here still flogging themselves with competition,but we have our eyes fixed firmly on our goals and each other.
The point i'm trying to make is that class issues exist whether we like it or not,it just depends on how you both deal with it.If it will cause him to start behaving like a frog instead of a wall gecko,wahala go dey.If it will cause you to start hating him down the line for not being so refined,better say bye bye now.

There are exceptions to every rule,depends on the people involved and how willing they are to ignore outside forces and face themselves.I also know that those that surmount such issues usually have the titanic 'ish' kind of love.The' it's you or i die kind of love'.I'm not getting that vibe from you.Being married comes with soo much of its own issues,it's best to be uncomplicated as possible to start with.

Differences in raising kids can be sorted and ironed out.

Epidural is a medicine from the gods.Fantastic!! No need suffering unnecessary pain and screaming like a wild hog.It's your choice not his.All that natural story for his pocket.Ask him if he would like it if u stick a 20 inch tuber of yam up his a ss without anesthesia.Even ordinary rectal exam has grown men calling for amadioha not to talk of labour pains.I am still traumatised. Many.Many people encourage natural birth though but there's no prize to win for enduring the pain.Neither will the kid be smarter cos he/she is born naturally.Whatever suits you is fine once you know the pros and cons and make an informed decision.

Church can be fixed..either you start going more or he slacks..You both will find your rhythm..

You mentioned that you were 'fascinated' by him.It reminds me of an insect.Marriage is not an experiment,do all of that now while you are dating.When you both marry,he will definitely put his foot down on so many things.The things he complains of now,he will insist on when you both marry.If you are not able to compromise on them now,you will quarrel till you collapse.

Is there even anything you both see eye to eye on?What things do you both enjoy together?Do you both even share any ideals?There should be major things you both agree on. Ofcourse there will be compromises to be made but over compromising and promises of change and no change may lead to many shocks after marriage.

Look at him now,anything physical can be fixed to a manageable level but anything innate like thought process,behaviour,character will stay for ages and will take a lot to change.If you cannot envisage a happy union please think twice.You are riddled with doubts,he's making so many promises but the fact is that whoever he has been with you for the past 3 years is who he truly is.Can you live happily with that? If you cannot,it's time to move on.There will be someone to love him and his accent and co.There will be someone to love you just as you are.

- Why are you getting rid of your househelp?

Cheers!!

Thank you so much

EfemenaXY:
Yeah, I've read a couple more of your posts since then.

My dear, just keep on trying to get that job of yours. Never give up and you'll get it soon. You're noticing everything he does and hurting because you aren't earning at the moment. All that will change when you get your job.

Just hang on in there, sis and all will be well.

His bday celebration is booking mass. He says he didn't celebrate his birthday growing up nd he turned out well. There might have been reasons why he didn't celebration growing up cuz of money but I believe. Growing up too, I didn't get to celebrate bday cuz we were mu h nd doesn't occur to my parents nd I don't even have baby pic till secondary school but now I take lots of pictures and that of my kids and celebrate bday no matter how small because I want to do what my parents couldn't do

EfemenaXY:
I think I get where she's coming from.

There are some men that are just stingy, or (pretend to be) indifferent or both. Thing is come every Christmas, New Year, Valentine's, and / or Birthday, they'll either feign ignorance or just can't be bothered to do the needful. But when wife ignores them on their special day, it becomes something else...

So she either keeps spending and trying to teach him by example, or completely ignore him on his special day. If it hurts him enough to talk about it, then she can let him know how ignoring her for all those 4 years has hurt her two. Then hopefully, from that point on, they make amends with genuine promises to change.

It is actually not one sided. Maybe I am asking or expecting too much. I am someone who believes in telling my hubby everything, no secret. Even if I want to buy any small thing or go somewhere like grocery store. I know one of 2 things about finances like lands we have but anything about his bank accounts or how much he has, I have no idea. The problem might be cuz I have no job nd doesn't want me to know how he spends the money nd who he sends money to if I become a signatory to his accounts. I am probably expecting much which I have stopped for sometime now and it's all cool. My biggest problem is his non communication and even if u ask, no straight answer, thus making discussion difficult. Or he simply tells me pray, imagine. I strongly believe being financially independent, caring less, being away from him for sometime will do a great deal so he appreciate me. This is someone I was helping to apply for a job nd he freely gave me his password nd I would apply nd call him on the phone to tell him where and where I applied. He finally got a good job, we got married nd he passwords every single thing of his.

I do not bother myself anymore and just looking and praying to God for a job

EfemenaXY:
This is just too one-sided.

I would love to hear from the man himself. I'm quite certain that would make this story take a completely different direction.

Gbam! It takes two Ppl for marriage to work. He also has to prove a lot of things to me.

Either the event of things, I have come to have a different view that might not be do for him but that has come to be my conclusion cuz of past events

bukatyne:
It goes both ways else the marriage would be a burden on the wife

On a second thought, why should people marry those they do not intend to listen to

You have said it all especially looking at how we started.


[quote author=Floodgater post=31343114][/quote]

I encourage him to give even wen he doesn't want to give and I extend to them as well. He's a good man no doubt it's just that I believe I shouldn't ask and ask about little things nd den he says like it's still good wen it's bushy like eye brow for example. Someone like me that have been independent since teenage years, it pisses me off wen I have to beg nd beg. Even to do my hair, I tend to do carry it for 2 months instead of a month which ends up cutting out my whole hair.

I just think taking care of 2 families is too much for him and that's why I cannot wait to get a job.

I was the one that told him to put his mum on allowance, get driver nd cook for her etc

I am a big believer of family support but a man have to know when he's been taken advantage of esp with siblings who just doesn't want to work hard.


quote author=babyosisi post=31333979]

Don't knock a man for helping his family out, especially his mom and dad,if he doesn't who will?
Do you want them to go without?
I told you earlier and I repeat,all these feelings will go away once you get your own financial "independence"
As long as he hands you out pocket and feeding money,you will continue to feel this way.
My husband placed his mom on a monthly salary ,it doesn't bother me one bit
I don't care what he sends to his folks and how much
In the same way he hasn't. bothered me about what I send to mine
That problem can be solved my dear and I already told you how[/quote]

Thank you so much for the write up. You have saved me the time and energy in would have used to type it. This is also what I am experiencing.

He takes care of his family needs most times before mine, thus not enough most times. When I asked him to start up a biz for me nd his brother who has a transport biz but uses the money on girls nd to have fun asked him of money, he gave him nd didn't give me. With the happenings, I feel that my kids and I are extended and his family are nuclear.

I don't know if he's scared of what his family wi say like he now makes money nd abandon dem but most times he does things to my own detriment.

I am in support of helping family members but at the same time, he makes dem lazy, even da ones abroad has nothing to contribute. He always say in a family, God brings out one person to help others nd I don't believe such. It's cuz he's always giving dat they don't want to work hard.

So many things I wanna say but don't want to type dem cuz I will start crying. Just wanna take it as it is nd continue to look on to God for a job cuz that will end my problems

Sophyrocks:
Oh yes, you are on the right track. You have just saved yourself from a lot of baggage, series and series of heartache and nagging. I am not married yet o. But from the experience ive got i will tell you what you would have gone through if you had gone ahead to marry him. The truth is;

1) This your ex isnt prepared for married life yet. He has responsibilities on his head to carry and will carry them till he gets old.

2)His people will see you as an obstacle and a competition. They always have self entitlement issues. You will not be liked amongst his relatives. Once you make demands whether for yourself or the family, he must divide everything by half, of which the other half will go to his relatives. sometimes it could be more than half. You and your family will be denied of so many things since he is a people pleaser. Once they sense they are not getting as much as they are used to before you appeared into the scene, they will call you all sorts of names accusing you of doing nothing but eating your husband's money. And your husband will never support you or be by your side in this. He will join them in accusing you too. His people must be satisfied first before you.

3) He will experience delay in achieving a lot that his mates at his stage has achieved already. The responsibilities he is carrying will cause the delay.

4) He will make you spend your money on most of his responsibilities in the home while he spends his on his relatives.

5) A breadwinner will have no savings. Imagine a marriage with no savings coupled with a people pleaser. Debts are sure. His relatives will be nowhere to be found when this happens and you will be made to step in carrying his responsibilities. This is why he cannot tell you or has no knowledge of his future plans.

In order to remain married to this sort of man, you must be financially independent and be willing to share the benefits that are to be reserved for your family with his relatives, FOREVER!!!

These days I don't blame women with spending for example until you hear their stories as to why they do. Some men won't spend on their wives but will gladly give family members, outsiders nd gfs. Some women even add more to their kids school fees etc.

moca:
Some have been complaining bitterly.
Some men have taken their wives spending habit to the kinsmen,to tell u how serious it is.
Some women spend the monthly feeding allowance on asoebi and jewerlies.

Some homes have dissolved because of the way women spend money lavishly.

At a time,the catholic women's organisation brought out a uniform for all cos wives makes hubby's wanna steal for august meeting,s wears.
Yes,all these makes a hard working man to go to one joint and cool his head sometimes after work. The rest they say is history.

Nigerians r very if not the most flashy and materialistic set of people in this planet earth.
We love to show a lot.
And guess what? It's our men that suffer for that. This is fact.
If it's ur own money,i wouldn't mind but u sit at home and spend as if ur hubby is related to dangote,haba!

We dated for a long time. Infact throughout our courtship, he was unemployed while I was employed. The funny thing is that I am not materialistic or demanding just da basic things a man would do for his wife, I have to ask nd ask like doing hair, eye brow etc. I hate to ask for things Datz why I hate that I haven't been able to find a job. He is also good outside. He can pay for ppls stuff nd all.

He doesn't seem to want to change. His pride and ego won't let him. I have made up my mind to let him be nd not expect anything not to be disappointed and pray God gives me job



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thorpido:
happysisi,has your hubby always been this way or did he change?Did you spend enough time dating before marriage?Did you observe these things then?
I think the problem is more than just you not working,it's something to do with your hubby's personality.
The first thing is to get a job or start some biz so your are more financially independent.Also try to get your husband to change by teaching him lovingly.It'll require a lot of patience on your part too.

Right I totally agree that's why initially when I couldn't find a job, I asked him to start up biz for me nd he didn't so I started it on my own. For his bday, it's not from his money cuz he doesn't give me allowance or anything but from da biz wen I started or from feeding money as I plan well from jan

babyosisi:
@ happysisi
You know why he sees it as a waste ?
It's his money
He pays the piper so he dictates the tune
If the money was from your own earnings,,he wouldn't mind
Making your own money gives you a lot of say in the home,I tell you

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I do celebrate his bday nd he will end up saying it's waste of money, can u imagine? Even the kids bday, even just cake, he will say it's not necessary every year dat growing up, it funny happen to him nd he ended up fine...can u imagine da logic?

I have stopped expecting anything not to be hurt. Seriously job hunting cuz Datz going to be the end of it all

quote author=moca post=31311834]
Exactly.
Me too I'm learning.
It's a tradition in my new family o. They celebrate everything.
Even father in law has called and scolded me for forgetting his birthday.
Imagine?

I now have where I wrote all down and my phone too reminds me.
We learn everyday.
I found out hubby loves it when u praise him so I do that. His head will swell.
I bought a very expensive perf the other day and gave him. I just close eye and pay.
Chei! Marriage!
See me going into men's store to look for things. It's well o![/quote]

I totally agree with you but some men do take advantage of it and spend it on other Ppl instead of you. That a woman is independent doesn't mean her hubby shouldn't give her stuff once in a while. Since I got married, over 4 yrs ago, hubby never bought anything for me. Absolutely nothing. No card or even cake for bday. Even if it's not ur way, ur r married now nd need to compromise or else, u chase the woman to.another man who cares nd pays attention




te author=moca post=31310870]There is one




important aspect I want to touch.
Spending.
D truth is that some women spend money as if there is no tomorrow.
Haba. Brazillian,horse,peruvian,all join,they r competing at d detriment of their family.
Every owambe,they r there with d matching clothes.

Though ur hubby might not complain but majority don't like it. And the old saying that u judge a caring man by his wife's standard of living will make some to keep mute.

I was at d parking lot in shoprite when one man was complaining to another that wifey just went in to shop with 70k and at d end of the day,she will come out with nothing tangible. And truly she came out with nothing tangible.
She and her entourage.
As soon as they came out,hubby closed his mouth and pretended all is well. Guess he never knew I was nearby.

This drives a man into d hand of another woman.
Makes a man keep late night.
Or start bozzing.
Ladies,safeguard ur home.

Immediately after my wedding, a galfriend asked me "where is ur own car? If na me,i no go gree o. Or rather I will be going to work with his. U can't marry this type of man and u r not riding d latest car in town"
That was d beginning of the end of my friendship with her.

Be wise.[/quote]

U have said all I wanted to complain about lol. I think it gets to me.more because I used to earn money nd never get to ask anybody before I got married. What annoys me the most is that the advise he gives to Ppl he won't apply it to himself. For example this allowance of a thing.

I don't know how to ask nd when I do and insult comes with it, it pissess me off. Like, he should know a woman will for example a woman have personal needs. Most times, I appreciate whatever he gives nd manage it.

As for looking good, if u see me and they tell u that I am married not to talk of having kids, u won't believe it. I look at myself sometimes and cry cuz I was much more better when I wasn't married.

I have started looking for a job no matter how small to get back to my bubbling self. Above all, I have decided not to bother or ask of anything again so I will be happy

babyosisi:
I didn't even read this before my last post.
Many people come down on me when I say this but I am a strong believer that no woman should be a full time housewife
The disadvantages outweigh any advantages.

I remember when I wasn't working and we were living off his income ,he would be going to the store and I ask him to buy me sanitary pad,the man came back with this very rough,cheap store brand sanitary pad,the type that will bruise your laps
as far as he was concerned why buy "always " brand for $4 when Kroger has the same thing in its brand for $1.99
I said nna,you might as well had bought me a copy of the houston chronicle newspaper to use
That won't happen if I had my own money
Then I found it so humiliating to ask for money or to be bought something after an argument
Chai
Then Sometimes to add insult to injury ,he will refuse to give it at those times and I felt so belittled
I got a job and that problem was solved
I advise you to get a job or earn an income at home.
It does something to a woman's self esteem and respect from the spouse

Mine is not a matter of spending cuz I am very good at saving and very disciplined. I am just thinking that maybe it's cuz I am not working so he feels telling me stuff is not important if I cannot contribute financially. In any case, I have stopped worrying nd asking nd I have peace of mind

biafranqueen:
Yes my Dear the marriage is still brand new. My husband and I use to fight about money because he is a saver and I am a spender. When I realized that he is the best person to handle the finances I took my mind off of it, and he relaxed in sharing more of what he is planning for the family. It took a while for me to change and now he trust me with his ATM card for days because I have learned that its not a must that I buy new stuff every time money enter my hand. Believe me it took like 7 years to get to this point.

The compliments, have you put on weight recently? Or does he like a certain style of dressing?

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4 yrs. Most times, I get to hear from his conversation or it will drop out of his mouth. He says some nd won't say all nd I keep wondering. I have also stopped asking cuz it seems there's is sumthing I want to use it for.




quote author=biafranqueen post=31304329]My Dear I am so sorry to read your pain what a beautiful thread my Sister started.

I have been married for 12 years now how long have you been married?
The reason I ask is because if it is a new marriage he may be taking his time to divulge such information.[/quote]

How do you handle a husband who only tells u want he wants to tell you. The wife has no idea about his finances. His communication is zero and won't also give listening ear. His Ego and Pride is killing the marriage as he never appreciates the wife or says sorry even when he's wrong. He does not complement the wife, no birthday, bal, anniversaire célébrations yet he complements other women both married and single. A man who only sees bad in his wife for example, only wen u do thread hair dat he will compliment negatively. Too much to say and type