southniyikaye:
8 years, 8 solid years of sacrificing my effort, support, care was shattered in just few minutes.
Got her as my girlfriend in 2012 and we got married in 2016.
Have been the one taking care of both of us since then, worked, and sacrificed my all. Almost died because of her 4times not gonna go into details.
She was arrogant, stubborn and disrespectful but I was able to keep those attitudes in check.
We go two kids together and have been doing my best as a man, they never lack anything. But last year things got worst and she have to go stay with her parents this year Feb while I aquat somewhere trying to get my life together and start all over.
Am this type of person that put people above me, I put even strangers needs above mine, am 300% soft and take things to heart, a confirmed simp like ubunja will call it.(I wish the redpill will actually be a tablet to swallow) cos all I read couldn't help me cos I take things to heart too much, have taken this relationship to the heart.
The fact that I gat kids and a understanding wife still kept me going not minding the financial problems I have cos I believe one day things will change for the better.
I don't have friends, right from sec sch days, that's how have been, 1 man squad have been my thing. I can stay indoor for years without going out, I am not gonna feel it a bit. Enough of the stort(but just letting you know the type of person I was.)
2days ago so I was chatting my wife and telling her things gonna be okay soon that I am hopeful and I want us to restrrategise and plan for our future and that of our kids, I said a lot of of things that can shape our future but I was wounded by the answer she gave me like
WHATEVER SUIT YOU
tried to make her smile
And she was like, any problems?
Her answers, her attitude, her behavior was so cold to me, like someone who was already tired but just don't know how to say it.
I know she always want to live a flashy life, a life without stress, worries and pain.
Believe me, I can vouch for her, she is not promiscuous, but the way she spoke was like she already found an alternative or someone was already talking to her and she is almost convinced or sort of.
Have been shattered since then and I just feel like I was gonna have an attack. It really hit me so hard.
Maybe if I had been a bad boy from inception, It won't affect me this much. I can't just think straight, high BP, couldn't eat.
Pls guys advice me am going insane sincerely.
Eight good years and I can swear on my life, I have never cheated not even flirt cos I find it extremely difficult to cheat.
Cc ubunja
And yes I spent almost 10hours going through all ubunja's topics, tried to form the hard guy and just wave everything off and move on and pretend like it never happened but I can't.
Wish REDPILL WAS ACTUALLY A TABLET I COULD USE.
Cc rocktation
Cc farano
She has since stopped replying my messages and chatting me
And I always see her online I think you also keep in mind that she's also as stressed as you. I think it's better you have a face to face conversation and iron things out with her. Also, she should get something doing no matter how small. It helps in helping someone appreciate money. People tend not to know the value of money until they have worked for it. And at this point you also need help and support. That's what partners are for to bring support to you when you're down not to add more weight. Talk to her. Chats are easy ways to get misunderstood. Not everything can be discussed through chats. You might think she doesn't care but she does. After all what happens next affects both of you. |
Romance › Re: Ok by Harshreality: 11:31am On Apr 06, 2020
